My son is a year old, and he eats constantly! He just had his 1st birthday a couple days ago and he ate one cupcake after another loving the icing! My problem is, he was 4 months premature, and he looks like he is still only 4 or 5 months old at the most. (Even though he stands up and walks... at least for a bit before falling) Whenever I was in a store and he wanted to stand up or walk I would hold his hand to help him not fall and people and all of their rude opinions would yell at me for making such a young baby stand like that. I would of course tell them he is a year old and mind their own business, but I have a feeling that people will think the same thing if I take him around for Halloween. I already have his costume and he really loves it since it's Spiderman... should I just ignore everyone's comments and let him enjoy his first Halloween home (he spent the 1st 4 months of his life in the hospital and wasn't even home for the first one) or should I just not take him? Thoughts?
2006-10-30 02:38:49 · 42 answers · asked by dbds_mom 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
ps, please don't give other people answering negatives. i am only looking for opinions, so no one is right or wrong here!
2006-10-30 02:39:52 · update #1
He can walk... he just gets excited and falls down every once in a while.
2006-10-30 02:42:16 · update #2
They don't give alot of room in the question part to say everyt detail, so to add:
1-the cupcakes were the tiny baby ones at the grocery store... not normal size. Doll size.
2-i live in an apt, so going out is actually going to my family's section for 3 streets. Kids can't come to my door without a key to each building.
3-halloween starts at 5pm here, and it will be warm, but he will still wear thick clothes. He won't be out late. Maybe 5:30 or 6pm...
4-I won't be letting go of his hand at all, so if kids run by, I have him still. I am dressing up with him too, so we are both going up to the door so I can be with him.
5-If he seems scared or bored, we are stopping.
6-He is not eating the choclate... just cookies in the famous amos bags, or treats like that...wafers too. He may like icing, but no candy bars yet!
I just don't want 2 halloweens getting away from me and him!
Thanks for all your answers! They are great!
2006-10-30 06:45:20 · update #3
This is what it has all come down to... other people making comments and not just enjoying seeing children out having fun, or learning new things in stores that they just have to get their opinions in and make parents feel like crap, and bad parents at the same time. My son is a preemie and they say that stuff to me all the time! He wanted to stand! He wanted to walk! Is it my fault that I wanted to hold his hand and help him not fall? Must be, to get critisized. Take him out. There are soo many babies going out that are just a couple months old and if you can't tell a baby that has to be in a parents arms from a child that can walk by holding your hand, then you should be critisized, not the parent. I'm only going down one street at my moms, and it's going to be nice and warm here... and Halloween always started at the first sign of sunset here, so he's not staying out late at all.. probably only until 6:30 at the latest just by showing off his costume to others. My husband is going to eat the couple pieces of candy we get, and our son gets the cookies! Have fun!
2006-10-30 03:24:31 · answer #1 · answered by innocentkitty214 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been taking my kids trick or treating ever since my oldest was 18 months old (we only didn't go on her first Halloween because it had snowed and my husband had to work), even when the younger ones are just babies. This year I have a 3 1/2 year old, 2 year old, and 3 month old and they are all dressing up and going. I know most of the people in our neighborhood, and I enjoy showing off my kids in their cute costumes and visiting with the neighbors. You will learn (or probably have learned) that when it comes to pregnancy and babies, people have no tact about their opinions or questions. Just ignore the rude people! Anyways, I say if you want to take your little cutie out in his costume then go for it. There are some alternatives to house to house trick or treating, like malls, grocery stores, and businesses that give out candy. I know our local amusement park is doing a free Halloween party with candy and games for all the kids, maybe there's something similar in you area?
2006-10-30 03:14:16 · answer #2 · answered by mommyem 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should take him. Don't take away something fun for him just because of his size or because of what people might think. That will just teach him that becuase of his size, he cant do things other kids can.
And he already has a costume, poor kid should definitely be able to have fun and play and go out and get candy. And its not just about the candy, its the experience. Its the dressing up, its the going outside and seeing the other costumes. Let him have fun.
I am taking my FOUR MONTH old out. Not saying he is going door to door, but yes, he is going out in a costume. Its a tradition, there's no age limits on Halloween. Just because you dont eat candy or because you cant walk great, or because you look younger doesnt mean you should be denied having fun on halloween.
2006-10-30 03:00:32 · answer #3 · answered by Barbi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see many new kids every year at Halloween and they're anywhere from 6 months to 12 years old. I didn't take my children out into the neighborhood until they were able to walk a little better (and didn't tire out so quickly), but I always dressed them up for family and close neighbors and they were with me when I handed out candy so that they got to enjoy the night too.
I would say if you want to take your son out, then go for it. Just pay attention to his reactions because he'll probably get tired quick (lots of ghosts and gobblins to look at to keep him guessing). For the most part people will not pass judgement because who can resist a baby spiderman:)
Have fun!!!
2006-10-30 02:59:23 · answer #4 · answered by Lauren 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see no problem with you taking him. The only thing I would suggest is going to a neighborhood where you know the people if you can (and take a stroller). I wouldn't worry about what anybody had to say that was negative. They don't know you or your circumstances. For my daughters first Halloween (she was 9 months old) we took her around to peoples houses we knew. Not so much for the candy as much as letting her get oohed and awed by everyone.
Have fun! They don't stay little long, so do whatever you want to do. He's your child. If he would enjoy it, do it.
2006-10-30 02:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i in my own opinion think that you should take your son out in his spiderman outfit and let him enjoy it. it would be a fun night for the two of you and if someone makes a comment don't think 'what have i done?' either ignore or correct but don't start an argument as that is the thing you least want to do when giving your child a good example especially at such a young age. when the people answer their dors and see your son they will probably say 'awww look at the big strong spiderman.' or something in that league so don't worry. hope i helped you
dromintee chick =)
2006-10-30 02:49:11 · answer #6 · answered by <3 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say take him. See how he reacts. If he doesn't like it or gets scared, then stop after a few houses. If he likes it and it's not too cold for him, take him out for about a 1/2 hour. I don't think I'd go any longer than that though. Sometimes too much stimulation can disrupt their routine and sleep.
Who cares what anyone else says, this is your child and you should be able to share these special moments with him. They are only young once. Enjoy it all!
2006-10-30 03:13:26 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well hurray for him wanting to walk! If anything, he sounds determined. I didn't take my son around door-to-door until he was 4. We drove him to friends houses that weren't in the neighborhood so they could see him in his costume but that was it. I have 2 suggestions: 1) take him only to a few nearby houses. It's still a lot of walking for someone so little. Plus YOU will have fun watching your neighbors react to him. 2) Stay at home. Dress him up but let him help hand out candy. The older kids that will be trick-or-treating will be running around wild with their friends (remember the excitement going trick-or-treating??). They tend not to pay attention to much below their own belts so you little guy tends to run a good chance of getting run over by over eager trick-or-treaters.
Don't worry, mom. There will be lots of Halloweens to come!
Good luck and have fun with Spidey!
2006-10-30 03:25:06 · answer #8 · answered by mom2pnuts 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think take him trick or treating. It is his first halloween. I dont think there is anything wrong with your boy, most kids fall alot when they are learning to walk and for a while there after. I have a one year old daughter, she falls alot also. I am a mother of three and I have a disability. People often dont think before they speak. Try to ignore them . I have dealt with peoples remarks all my life. It is difficult. I know your son does not have a disability. Thank god. But the situations are similiar. I am taking my daughter trick or treating and I think you should too. Have fun. I will be thinking of you. God bless.
2006-10-30 02:54:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take him. Don't let people ruin your childs fun. You know how old he is, and you know you would not be wrong for taking him, that's all that matters. What means more, your childs happiness or what people think? I hope you choose his happiness I don't think it matters if he can walk or not. My son will be a year on Nov. 24tha dn he can't walk yet, but I am taking him. Why? Because I want him to have fun. That is what trick or treating is all about. The kids having fun.. Just because he can't walk doesn't mean he won't eat the candy.
2006-10-30 02:42:42 · answer #10 · answered by Billys girl 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋