New man in my life is very jealous. He has ranted so much to the point that I have stopped all my male friends from calling my house,even my best friend whom I had been intimately involved with before him. I know you're probably thinking they should stop calling because I now have a boyfriend ,but am I suppose to let him control who my friends are male or female?If someone male shows up at the house or we are out in public and some male I know approaches he's right there "with bells on". Just itching to know who they are.He never says anything he just stands back and I motion for him to join us so that I can introduce. Even though he just doesn't walk right up while we are talking he should and at least extrend his hand and say "Hi I'm Mike, Karen's boyfriend nice to meet you". He sleeps at my house every night. I think it's his way of keeping an eye on our relationship.I do love him but d@mn he's controling. The upside is he works,he's faithful I (think )and he has a big dick.
2006-10-30 02:21:26 · 22 answers · asked by heavenly28001 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey, I have a HUGE dick...why did you drop me for Mr. Gorilla Pimp?
2006-10-30 14:48:46 · answer #1 · answered by dirtyhungrythirsty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is a very huge red flag, however if all that matters to you is a man with a big dick as a requirement. Sorry, but you need to evaluate your self here. Come on lets be serious I can not even believe you included that into your question. He is insecure, he is controlling, he is rude when it comes to meeting my friends, he stays with me every night because he is afraid I may have a phone call or visit from a friend. However, he has a job and did I mention a big dick. You need to get yourself some counseling or something to find out what your priorities are. All responsible men have steady employment or they don't eat. Hello! And in case you do not know, I speak from experience there are plenty of big dick men in the world and they come in all shades, from every ethnicity. It that is your top priority you really need some help here. God bless
2006-10-30 02:26:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't cut your friends(whether they be male or female)out of your life just because of a new boyfriend. Remember boyfriends come and go, but your friends are there for you throughout it all.
You can try to have a get together, either at your home or meet everyone at a cafe or restaurant, to let your b/f get to know these male friends. Sometimes the not knowing is what makes the jealousy worse. Once he sees the interaction you have with your friends and how it is purely platonic, the jealousy may die down. If it doesn't, you may want to consider breaking things off with this guy. Do you really want to be with someone who is going to keep track of every move you make? Jealousy tends to just get worse if it is not nipped in the bud.
2006-10-30 02:29:06 · answer #3 · answered by MELISSA B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want someone in your life who will tell you who you can and can't be friends with? I can be jealous myself, but I don't have the time or patience to check up on every guy my wife has ever talked to...and that's even when she was still my girlfriend. Plus, the more he does this, the less it sounds like he trusts you. So no matter how much he makes or how many inches he is, do you want a boyfriend or a bodyguard?
2006-10-30 02:30:44 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A jealous man is not one to have. Once you let him in he will control your life instead of you controling yours and then down the road you will lose who you are and forget the person you were before him.
For the last thing lol you can find them in many other places I'm sure he is not the only man thats big lol.
2006-10-30 02:27:48 · answer #5 · answered by Cas813 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Control is not love from him. Jealousy is also not love. To him, you are nothing more than an object and you are allowing him to do this. Either he allows you some breathing space and your friends back without acting like a 2-year old who lost their toy, or I'd throw him out at once. Jealousy / control will at some point turn into full abuse. I'm sure you, nor your friends / family want that to happen to you.
2006-10-30 02:25:44 · answer #6 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you already know what you need to do in this situation. Think about it...if he is only controlling and jealous this way with your friends, then as the relationship progresses, he will only get worse to controlling even more aspects of your life. It may even get to the point to where he tells you when to go out and what to wear. Do you want that in your life? Then you need to break up with him and kick him out of your place (change the locks so he doesn't get back in).
2006-10-30 02:40:33 · answer #7 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is too controlling-right now the relationship is new and your working around his jealousy-but it will get old quick.if not you will be in a relationship with ONLY him-no friends or anyone and when it ends-you'll be crushed and alone.you haven't done anything to cause this distrust and you cant be interrogated every time someone says high-are you looking for a prison guard or boyfriend....forget about the big dick-he is one!
2006-10-30 02:26:21 · answer #8 · answered by cassiepiehoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you;re right he's supposed to be a MAN about it. he's just insecure i guess. i mean i'm that way to an extent but only if i feel that ssomeone is encroaching on my territory so to speak. if i'm out with my lady and we encounter someone who she knows i greet them properly with a confidence like yeah she knows you she could go out with you but she chose me. it may just be the new guy factor. i feel that too. he doesn;t know your friends and he's probably been cheated on before so he doesn't know how to feel.
but you cannot let him control who you talk to that will only lead to a failing relationship. on your part you just need to tell him look these people are my friends. but you're by b/f i like those people but i love you. try to talk to him about it and re-assure him that he's the only one you have feelings for and that nothing will happen between you and anyone else.
good luck
2006-10-30 02:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...let him control your whole life, who you see and talk to, what you wear, what you eat, where you work, and when he finally snaps and wrings your neck you shouldn't be surprised. Oh, but wait, he has a big dick, nevermind what I just said. Now shut up and get back in the bedroom.
2006-10-30 02:25:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol well he is just making sure he doesn't get hurt so he over does the watching part everybody in a relationship is very protective of who they are involved with even you if he has alot of female friends am sure you would put your foot down on that issue so he just protecting himself but he over doing it a bit more than others but some ppl over do it
2006-10-30 02:26:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋