my boyfriend had been away for a week. at first i thought he was mad at me, but thought nothing of it cuz i had other problems, my brother was in trouble and was feeling down..his girl friend was getting him in trouble..sooo after trying to clam him down over the net i went to bed and set my IM status as away and said jimmy i love you...just so my brother knows that im standing by his side...
so after a stressful night...i wake to see my bf has seen it and taken it all the wrong way...and now he wont talk to me and wont listen to my reasons for putting it there...i want to know did i really do anything wrong???
2006-10-30 02:19:52 · 18 answers · asked by angelofdeath 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it doesnt sound like you did anything wrong to me
if you put the IM message jimmy i love you and jimmy is your brother.. where in the world is your wrong doing?
your b/f sounds possessive if he gets mad about you leaving a message to your brother who is in trouble.
2006-10-30 02:24:45 · answer #1 · answered by nicoles1504 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I misunderstood but is Jimmy not your brother? If so u did absolutely nothing wrong. You are showing your brother u are there for him and if the bf cant understand that then he needs help. If anyone did anything wrong it was your bf who disappeared for a week without contact..........that is wrong. Boyfriends may come and go but family is family and if he cant accept that he needs to move on. You did the right thing
2006-10-30 02:29:14 · answer #2 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming Jimmy is your brother's name.
Maybe, your boyfriend initially thought your note was directed at some other Jimmy, and that you were fooling around on him.
Anyone will sometimes experience a little insecurity within a relationship. That's just part of the game. The important thing is how we handle it. I think your boyfriend needs to grow up, and learn to just laugh at the situation.
2006-10-30 02:26:59 · answer #3 · answered by Allen Montgomery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all does your BF know who "jimmy" is? Your BF does need to calm down. He has a right to be upset, but unless he knows the whole story, there shouldn't be any frustration. It sounds to me like your BF is very jealous, or gets very nervous when you have a conversation with another guy. Let him calm down and then have a talk with him about what happened. If he can't get passed it, then I would think about seeing other guys.
2006-10-30 02:30:29 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you wrong for putting up an away message and saying, "Jimmy(your brother) I love you"? Hell no! Your boyfriend is being very jealous(not all that bad), but him not wanting to hear you out is making him sound like a little b....
2006-10-30 02:23:55 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does know Jimmy is your brother right? ... Does he think you're into incest or something, lol?
I always say that the person who is quick to assume the worst from their partner, is the person who is guilty themselves.
And no, you didnt do anything wrong. Your boyfriend is acting immature for not hearing your side of the away message...and for not knowing jimmy is your brother. Have you brother tell him what it was all about.
2006-10-30 02:23:05 · answer #6 · answered by Barbi 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You didn't do a thing wrong by telling your brother that you love him. Regardless of your relationship, your family is important to you and you obviously want them to be a part of your life and your boy has to understand that. It sounds an awful lot like your boyfriend is overreacting so just try to explain the situation to him. If he really cares about you he'll love you regardless.
2006-10-30 02:23:54 · answer #7 · answered by snowbaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, you left an away message in refrence to your brother? NO! you did not do anything wrong. Your guy is acting strange, talk to him and ask him what the issue is. But if he is jelous about you and your brother, than his got some real problems.
-j
2006-10-30 02:24:10 · answer #8 · answered by jloren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all does your BF know your brother? And if so and he still got mad...... LOSE him. There are plenty of great guys out there that dont worry about petty crap like that. And you did nothing wrong by telling your brother you love him.
2006-10-30 02:23:16 · answer #9 · answered by Saint 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you didn't, if everything you've said is the truth, I'd suggest you look for a bf that considers other things apart from himself
2006-10-30 03:53:34 · answer #10 · answered by murphy51024 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋