Can u chase a man away by being to nice and loving too hard? Or as they called it being too passive. Help am I doing something wrong?
2006-10-30 02:18:07 · 13 answers · asked by thickfudge 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes you can. Acknowledge that you are a woman that loves too much. A book by Linda Sanford & Mary Donovan, Women & Self-Esteem will probably get to the root of the problem. It's called - overinvesting in romantic relationships. Open you up a WAM Account (What about me) account and go from there. You deserve to love yourself more.
2006-10-30 02:24:27 · answer #1 · answered by piepiejenkins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being too active and being too passive can both be a problem in love. To avoid the extremes, you have to pay attention to how the guy likes being treated and adjust your behavior towards him accordingly.
Guys are individuals. And that which is 'loving too hard' for one guy may be perfectly ok and acceptable for another guy.
If you like 'loving hard', then perhaps you have to look for and find a guy who feels comfortable with your loving style.
2006-10-30 02:28:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is what does "loving too hard mean."
It's not about "being too nice" or "being too passive." What you describe is someone who has self-steem issues, someone looking to be validated by having a relationship with another person, someone whose self of self is weak. You need to love you for you, to be the very best, most self-assured person you can be. Do that and someone amazing will find you, I promise.
2006-10-30 02:25:48 · answer #3 · answered by wineboy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Does "loving too hard" sound healthy? Nah, I didn't think so.
Too much of anything isn't good for you. That includes love; if ya love someone too much, do you really love them or are you being controlling?
But I'm confused: Being passive and "loving hard" aren't the same thing. What exactly is the problem?
2006-10-30 02:22:03 · answer #4 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its not love? its obsession?? But maybe that's just the way you are. Try talking- everything fixes by talking, talk with him and ask for his opinion on the matter, if he loves you back he will tell you the truth and you can work something out to help you deal with your dilemmas. You can love as hard as you want as long as it don't become a barrier for both of you (like obsession).
2006-10-30 02:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by chinaz777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you're doing this to a man who's not ready to be in a committed relationship it can be too much. You need to be with someone who compliments you. Neither someone who has all control nor someone who lets you have all control is likely to evolve into a perfect union. There needs to be balance, and you shouldn't have to change yourself or try too hard if it's meant to be.
2006-10-30 02:22:35 · answer #6 · answered by krisski 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can. I know I have had women push me away for their "loving to hard" space is just as important in a relationship as trust is. If you never forget that then you are good to go.
2006-10-30 02:20:51 · answer #7 · answered by Saint 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 13:18:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can be too pushy or too passive. You have to reach a happy medium.
2006-10-30 02:21:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can chase a man by loveing to hard but u'll have to talk about it to him dont drive him away and talk to him more
2006-10-30 02:21:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋