my boyfriends daughter is 2 1/2 and she has this really bad cough. she's had it for about a month and a half she coughing up phlem. i'm scared she might have a infection or even phnamonia. but i dont like to get involved in how he raises his child i just feel bad because she's in so much pain. she doesnt have any other cold symptoms just a persistant cough and she spent the night wit me over the weekend so i got to watch it real close and the cough syrup isnt even working anymore because shes been takin it so long. please help me. i need advice.
2006-10-30 02:02:06 · 30 answers · asked by Princess Nykki 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
i just try to not get involved in how they raise there child. i would take her to the doctor but i dont think her mom will let me. but in the same sentence neither one of them wanna take her either i hate seing her suffer like this
2006-10-30 02:15:24 · update #1
If he loves you then he will know that you are suggesting that he take his daughter to the doctor because you care. Men aren't always as "in tune" with children as women are (some are); maybe he will heed your advice because he thinks you may naturally have an instinct about this sort of thing. But the child has to go to a doctor. She can't be allowed to suffer like this, and leaving it may make the cough get to an out of control point which could be devastating. I'd tell him that she really needs to go. Offer to go sit in the wating room with him, or if he really doesn't want to go, ask if you can take her.
2006-10-30 03:58:04 · answer #1 · answered by Crystal C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has you around his daughter then that means that he trusts you and in my opinion you do have some say so because she is spending the night with you. Simply tell him that you think that she has had the cold long enough and the cough syrup is not working because her body has most likely become use to it. Tell him that you are not trying to tell him how to raise her but you care about her just like he does and would treat her like you would your own child. If that doesn't work maybe you should try talking to the mother and telling her the same thing. If the child is spending the night with you, then that must mean that she is ok with you being around her, so maybe she will take into consideration how you feel about the cold. But if you have to approach the mom, make sure you let her know that you are not trying to tell her how to raise her child and that you are just concerned about the little girl.
2006-10-30 03:36:05 · answer #2 · answered by shaqmc21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would mention taking her to the doctor when she starts coughing. just say how long has she been coughing like that don't you think you should take her to the doctor. If he doesn't want to tell him to ask his daughters mother and If she doesn't want to then offer to take her and Ur boyfriend can just come and tell him he won't have to do anything, but just be their. I know you don' t want to get involved in raising their child but whats more important steeping on a few toes or helping the child? I wish you good luck and I hope the kid is alright
2006-10-30 02:36:17 · answer #3 · answered by lifesquestions? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just suggest it....If you can't make suggestions to your boyfriend then what kind of relationship do you really have.... She may not even have a cold it could be something far worse...She could have Sinusitis.
The symptoms for that are a nagging cough that gets worse during the night. Look it up on WebMD and she if she has any other symptoms...With her age though it would be hard to know to know actually how she is feeling.
Just remember that if it is something viral that she shouldn't take antibiotics for it...they really don't do anything, expect increase the chances for immunity to them later. But a trip to the doctor wouldn't hurt just to get her checked out.
2006-10-30 02:09:11 · answer #4 · answered by yzerswoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I would just tell him that you are concerned about her and thinks she needs to go to the doctor. If she is coughing a lot and coughs more at night, chances are it isnt a cold. She could have really bad allergies or even the beginnings of asthma. She must be miserable :( He may not have thought of those possibilities and if it is asthma especially, then it is better to get treatment early so her lungs don't get worse. If it is disrupting her sleep, then she may get more tired and cranky during the day.
2006-10-30 03:16:01 · answer #5 · answered by marymojo2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that in your most loving voice and with a sincere look of concern in your eyes you let him know that you are concerned with his child's cough, and point out the fact that it's been a month now, and that it hasn't gotten any better. Let him know that children are a lot more susceptable to pulmonary infections, particularly pneumonia, and asthma than adults. Also point out the fact that over the counter rememdies are made to be used for a limited time of one or two weeks maximum. Tell him to consider the chances of his child becoming seriously sick, and that you care enough to tell him......maybe he's not really paying attention to the situation. Please get that girl to a pediatrician as soon as possible....her health is at risk.
Best of Luck!
2006-10-30 02:11:01 · answer #6 · answered by Ralph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have raised 8 children and if she has had this cough that long nad all he does is give over the counter meds then he should not have the baby to begin with because he has no idea what he is doing and the baby is paying the price by being sick for so long if you care for the child you will find a way to tell him ands if you don't tell him then you don't need to be around the baby either
2006-10-30 02:13:57 · answer #7 · answered by starr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are these people nuts? Turn him into DSS? Thats ridiculous! Unless he has shown OTHER examples of abuse as well, such as abandoning or refusing to feed her or countless other forms of abuse....why turn him in!? Hes' a guy who probably isn't aware of the side effects of not treating "coughs". I'm sure he (like ALOT of men) don't go to the Drs' himself...if anything he is just not familiar with how serious childrens symptoms can be. Let him know how serious this can be and like others mentioned, offer to take her...or offer to go with him. He just needs someone to help him understand the importance of childrens health care! Being a parent is scary...and if he is being a parent by himself (No mention of the mommy and assume she is not in the picture?)Then its even scarier! No need to turn him in and shame on those who even mentioned it! I hope everything goes well and the little one gets better!
2006-10-30 02:19:18 · answer #8 · answered by armywife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just bring it up in a casual non threatening way men are sometimes dumb when it comes to kids he may have been busy and not noticed just say ya know X has a cold that is not going away maybe you should take her to the dr. It sounds like she really needs to go is her mother in the picture or a grandmother try talking to them ask your boyfriend if he'd like you to take her to the dr and if he still want you need to call social services that's abuse
2006-10-30 02:12:58 · answer #9 · answered by jo_jo_baby2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insist he take her to the doctor or call a doctor to inquire what to do. The doctors office will tell him to bring the child in. Small children can choke to death on phlem.
If he refuses contact child protective services and tell them what is going on. The child's life is at stake.
2006-10-30 02:08:14 · answer #10 · answered by debbie2243 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋