I met my girlfriend over the internet. We are from different countries. I came over to her country and currently live with her. We do love each other a lot, but I'm concerned. She's very jealous and thinks I will cheat on her. I don't have a stellar track record with relationships, and she always reminds me of this. She's also in a mini-war with my mother and my sister. She claims that I'm not as in love as I once was. Truth is, all of these things make it harder to be attracted to her in any way. Should I be patient with her and hope that things will get better?
2006-10-30 02:01:21 · 21 answers · asked by cosmos_0421 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get out quick/
2006-10-30 03:48:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like her insecurities are eating away at your relationship and will eventually destroy it unless you both get a grip. I think you need to reassure her that you're not the man you were before and thats because of her: ie she's made you a better person, a loving person etc etc. Just stick at it. You moved countries to be with her so you must have loved her that much that you couldn't imagine living without her... just remember this feeling, remember the good things... make a list of all the reasons you fell for her in the first place, share these with her. Get her to do the same. I know it must feel like she's pushing you further and further away but if you love her you'll fight for her and the things you have to fight is her fear.
2006-10-30 02:11:08 · answer #2 · answered by Fay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youve given up alot and showed your committed. If she still insecure then those feelings will not go away. The problems could get worse. You should have a talk with her tell her how you feel and if shes not willing to sort her jealousy problem out then your relationship will not work.
2006-10-30 03:49:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TALK TO HER ABOUT THAT!! A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP IS BASED ON COMMUNICATION AND H O N E S T Y!!!!! IF SHE DOESN'T TRUST U, THEN THERE'S SMTH WRONG!! WE ALL HAVE MADE MISTAKES IN THE PAST, BUT THEY SHOULD STAY THERE, IN THE PAST! HOPEFULLY W LEARNED SMTH FROM THEM! TELL HER HOW U FEEL AND HOW HER JEALOUSY WILL ONLY RUIN UR RELATIONSHIP!!! ME AND MY HUSBAND ARE FROM DIFFERENT COUNTRIES ALSO AND THE CIRCUMSTANCES AT THIS MOMENT ALLOW US TO SEE EACHOTHER FOR ONLY 6-8 DAYS A MONTH! HE KNOWS ABOUT ALL THE SKELLETONS IN MY CLOSET FROM MY PAST, BUT HE TRUST ME AND HE'S NOT WORRIED THAT I WOULD CHEAT ON HIM. CHEATING IS THE ONLY SURE WAY TO LOSE HIM AND I WOULD NEVER DO IT ALTHOUGH I CHEATED ALL MY BOYFRIENDS IN THE PAST. BUT THAT IS THE P A S T AND IT STAYS ONLY THAT- P A S T!!! IF WE DIDN'T TRUST EACHOTHER, THAT RELATIONSHIP(MARRIAGE ALREADY) WOULD BE OVER A LONG TIME AGO!!!
2006-10-30 02:10:13 · answer #4 · answered by Stella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told her how hard she is making things on you? Obviously, if you moved to another country for her, you really do care about her. Maybe you need t osit her down and spell out the situation, and then have a little patience for her to make changes.
2006-10-30 02:05:58 · answer #5 · answered by musicgurl1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who is wearing the trousers here??? If you have a relationship built on distrust, where is the fun in that? Be honest, tell her how you feel about her. Tell her (if it's true) that you have no intention of fooling about and if she persists with her insecurities and accusations, you're going to leave her.
2006-10-30 03:03:47 · answer #6 · answered by Minxy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with her and try to work things out. If she is in a constant battle with your mother and sister,then ask yourself why. No girl wants to have to go to battle in order to have man in her life. It is just not worth it. You need to get this battle thing straightened out then maybe your love may stand a chance!
2006-10-30 02:08:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things probably wont get better. The more she accuses you the more you will feel unattracted to her, and the more you feel unattracted to her the more she will think you want someone else. It's a neverending cycle. If you really love her you can tell her she needs to cut it out or you will leave.
2006-10-30 02:05:37 · answer #8 · answered by Billys girl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be patient with her and let her know that she can trust you...also be truthful and tell her that what she is doing is hurting your relationship.
2006-10-30 02:07:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love her then yes be patient and try to help her work on the problems. tell your mother and sister to mind their own business
2006-10-30 02:03:37 · answer #10 · answered by jumiboo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Walk away while you can. Jealousy will kill your relationship dead, and being at war with your family is not a good sign either.
2006-10-30 02:49:34 · answer #11 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋