I chose a bridesmaid dress that is $205.00 which includes alterations. They are also running a special that the dresses are tax free. So, the total is $205.00. One of my bridesmaids (my fiances sister) feels the dress is too expensive. She thinks she can get the same dress at a different bridal shop cheaper. Should I just give her the designer and item # and let her get it somewhere different than the rest of us? She says she doesnt care about alterations being included because she isnt going to need any alterations??? I dont want to be rude or demanding because this is going to be my sister-in-law but I dont want to take a chance that something goes wrong with the dress. HELP!!
2006-10-30 02:00:57 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
That's a pretty standard price. I hate when people feel like they are better than everyone else and deserve special treatment. This is YOUR day, your choice for the dresses. If she couldn't afford it or wants to be difficult, she never should have accepted to be in the bridal party.
2006-10-30 02:03:47 · answer #1 · answered by apriljm76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she agreed to be a part of your wedding, she agree to wear what dress YOU pick out and pay for it. $205 for a dress with alterations is very reasonable, and she should not be giving you a hard time. You'll have to tell her that this is the dress you want, and if she doesn't want to buy it, you will have to find someone else to replace her. Ask the dress shop how much the dress will be without the alterations. Honestly, usually the ones who think they don't need alterations are the ones who need them the most. Good luck
2006-10-30 06:00:49 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what my wife to be says:
$205 is very reasonable for a dress, if you have funds and really want to help her subsudize the costs maybe like $15 off for all your maids its not much but it shows you care.
It is very important for all the dresses to be bought from the same place at the same time. For every set of dresses made there is a certain color batch even if it the same desisgn and color the colors may not match perfectly and it may be noticable.
If she reallt knows of a cheaper place to get the same dress take her up on that go with her and get all of the dresses from there. If you do this you will also gain her respect and if it turns out she is wrong it will make you feel good as a bride and she will be all the more willing to pay the orginal price.
2006-10-30 02:31:14 · answer #3 · answered by Almack 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well that can be a bit steep to some peoples pockets. I was in my brothers' wedding and paid $90 because the dresses were on sale at JC Penney and the shoes were on sale as well. I feel that brides should consider other people when picking out bridesmaids dresses because it can be too pricey as well as gaudy. I am a bargain shopper so I usually can find good deals on clothes because I like to weigh my options before I purchase something. If she can get the same dress somewhere else why should you worry about it. All she wants to do is find the same dress but it has to be affordable for her pockets.
2006-10-31 17:04:06 · answer #4 · answered by nygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself if YOU would like to pay $205.00 to be in a friend's wedding.... and you may have the answer to your question!
In my opinion, yes, it is a bit much -- IF the dress is only going to be worn once. You could offer to pay for some on each dress -- as your gift to your attendants. Just be careful: I would not let the girls get dresses from different stores -- the colors and/or the cut may not turn out right!
You are the bride -- and ultimately you get to decide. Explain to her your feelings, and if she still pitches a fit, get the groom-to-be to explain things to her. And if all else fails, offer to help her pay the difference.
2006-10-31 02:32:47 · answer #5 · answered by bethiswriting 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this is too much for a bridesmaid dress if alterations are included. I have never had a dress that had alterations included and I usually spent around 150 for the dress, and then 50 or so for alterations. I think it is a good deal. If she is having trouble paying for it, go ahead and pay for it then allow her to make payments until it is paid off. It is your wedding, choose what you want!- Have your fiancee talk to her as well.
2006-10-30 03:52:45 · answer #6 · answered by Pamela G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your soon to be sister-in-law thinks that she can get them cheaper from a different bridal shop, then go with her with the dress information and find out...why not make it cheaper for everyone? I wouldn't recommend giving up the designer and the item number b/c then she might try to get the dress on her own. All of the bridesmaids dresses need to come from the same shop for the simple reason that each bridal shop special orders the dresses in one batch...if you order six from one shop and one from another, the color of that one is not going to match exactly. Each batch of color is made up for each order, so when you order all seven from one salon, you know that they were all done with the same color batch...
As much as your sister-in-law says she won't need alterations, she will...no one ever fits perfectly into those dresses because they aren't made that way. They are made for the design and not the fit so everyone, regardless of body shape, will have to get something done to their dress...whether it is a hem, or being taken in...something will be done.
2006-10-30 02:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because she doesn't need alterations doesn't mean other people will. I suppose you could give her the dress information and let her deal with it. God forbid if something does happen to her dress, she's the one that has to wear it and look stupid.
Or, you could tell her nicely that you don't want to take the chance of something happening with the dress and you would really appreciate if she would get the dress from like everyone else. Who knows if she looses or gains weight unexpectedly she might need alterations after all.
2006-10-30 09:28:45 · answer #8 · answered by blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perfect cost. Mine were $300 and I think that was too much, but no complaints from the bridal party. Your bridesmaid should not be upsetting you. She is rude and selfish. I'm afraid that she will end up with a totally different dress if you give her an option. Good luck and don't let her stress you out.
2006-10-30 02:10:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not ask what they can afford first, then find some dresses in that price range...don't assume that eveyone can spend the same amount on the dresses. Don't be a demanding Bride, let them chose, as long as it's your color choice, and you agree on the styles, letting them each chose the style that will compliment their figure, you will be glad you did this and they will love you for thinking of them. Congratulation's and Best Wishes to You and Your Fiance'.
2006-10-30 03:23:36 · answer #10 · answered by MiMi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋