please give honest opinons and don't write me off cos i know i might sound jealous and petty. my boyfriend is moving in with his best female friend just him and her who he fancied when he first met her. she is renound for sleeping around and has no scruples for going after men in relationships in fact it gives her a buzz to do that. she isn't very pretty so it's not like i think she's a real threat cos she's a real stunner and he doesn't fancy her now and nothing has ever happened between them and they have been friends for 2 years. he knows i don't like her and don't like the way she behaves. don't get me wrong i have loads of close girlfriends and usually i'm a real girls girl.
basically can someone tell me i'm not being ridiculous cos he says i am but can he love me that much if he moves in with her when he knows it makes me feel prickly and is it understandable i feel jealous and weird about it cos whether it's right or wrong i just do!!!
elp!
2006-10-30 02:00:34 · 24 answers · asked by fionazzz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For the sake of your mental health I'd give him the elbow. It's not fair for you to be put in this situation, very inconsiderate indeed.
Anyone would feel suspicious and vulnerable and constantly on edge put in this situation, regardless of whether it's all above board or not.
Put yourself first.....
2006-10-30 02:07:17 · answer #1 · answered by PvteFrazer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not being ridiculous but try and see it from his point of view. Have you any good male friends that you would move in with? If you had, he would probably be jealous, that is just human nature. The more you make an issue of this, the more an issue it will become. You will look like the uptight girlfriend and push him straight into bed with the other girl.
At the moment, as far as he is concerned they are just friends and can see no harm in moving in together. Just let him get on with it. He'll think you're a much better person for accepting it, cos basically, you dont have any choice in the matter anyway - sorry !
2006-10-30 02:10:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, this is a tricky one. I can understand where he is coming from because she is his best friend and what he felt for her is long out of his system. The fact that you are worried though, I can understand it, jealousy is a weird thing. Was he honest with you from the start about his feelings towards this slag (Look. she sounds like one to me, I don't have to be nice about her) and that his feelings are long gone? If so, then you are off to a good start. Being honest with you means he is being honest with himself about how he feels. Sit and talk to him, rationally explain your fears etc because, moving in with someone, friend or not is a big thing. He has to realise your fears are stable and not psycho feelings or bunny boiling feelings and if he reassures you, take that and remember that conversation whenever you feel insecure. Also, make sure she knows you are a round when your not there, leave the sexy underwear and nice perfume, basically the human equivilant to peeing on him!! As long as he does not talk to her about your insecurities, that would be crossing a line! He just needs to realise that your feeling insecure and need some reassurance thats all. You will soon realise how silly you sound right now and if she ever tries the seduction, then you can act all smug and demand he move her out because then you were right and she is a H**r after all!! Honestly though, I know how you feel but at the end of the day, we cannot stop things that are out of our hands. You are just going to have to trust him and go with it. Anyway, there's nothing to say you cannot stay over most nights and vice versa....
2006-10-30 02:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok this is a pretty difficult situation. But I would imagine he's moving in with her for a good reason, not just for the kicks of it. A good reason being an eviction from the old place, desperate need of accomodation, cheap rent, good location, you name it. Now if there really is a good reason, you should respect that even though this does seem kinda ackward. If you trust him, which you should if you're in a relationship with him, then nothing funky should be going on. If he lets your trusts down, well thats it then. If he wanted to, he could be messing about with this girl with or without living together with her. So don't blame him for things that havent yet happened, and try to trust him I'd say. Could be a mistake to trust a guy like that, but without trust, what do we have in a relationship? nothing.
2006-10-30 02:14:36 · answer #4 · answered by Bastard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your gut feeling is right, u r not ridiculous. Maybe your bf doesn't care about this girl but if she's sleezy enough to steal guys in relationships and u know that once she liked your bf I'm sure she'll try tomake a move...I mean a guy and girl in a house together, add in a 6-pack of beer, the girl tries to kiss the guy (the guy is kinda waisted so he's not thinking with his head anymore but with his dick) so yea I can cleary imagine why u feel annoyed and jealous. Have a talk with this girl, tell her to back off your bf and that u know what she's trying to do with letting him move in with her....better yet, move in with them
2006-10-30 02:08:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not being reificulous b/c your telling him your feelings. If he knows you don't like what's about to happen w/ him moving in w/ this chick. And he doesn't seem to care. Than just maybe you need to rethink where the 2 of you stand together. Why don't u 2 get a place 2gether. Well I know if it was me I'd tell him move in with the whore I'm walking.........
2006-10-30 02:24:48 · answer #6 · answered by Kimberly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? You have every right to be not only jealous, but angry! If he knows you do not like this "friend" of his, there is no reason he should be moving in with her. What reasons does he have for doing so?
That is ridiculous, and if he actually cared about you, he would see why what he is doing is completely UNACCEPTABLE.
There is no reason for your boyfriend to be moving in with another female.
2006-10-30 02:08:16 · answer #7 · answered by Heather M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you buy that crap you're as dumb as a bag of blond hair.
If you do believe him, don't let him know you are that looney or
he will take advantage of you forever.
Looks have nothing to do with what girl a man will do.
Next time you go to the mall, look around at all the fat girls that have a guy and you let yours move in with someone else.
2006-10-30 02:07:25 · answer #8 · answered by Cookie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right to be suspicious so dont feel like you are being silly if it was me i would be the same but wait untill you have a definate reason to believe something is going on then you really need to think wether you should stay in this relationship so dont worry about it just yet just keep you eyes open.
2006-10-30 02:54:00 · answer #9 · answered by wetnslippy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you he should respect how you feel.
How would he like it if you moved in with a man who he was not comfortable with. You are not being ridiculous. I think trust is very important, but when people put them self in situations where things can easily happen they are just asking for trouble.
2006-10-30 02:08:12 · answer #10 · answered by rufi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋