My friend, yes it is really my friend, has been dating this guy for 2 years. When she first met him he told her that he and his ex-girlfriend still live together, because of the child they have together. He claims that he sleeps in the basement, and she sleep upstairs. She was fine with it until she fall in love with him. She asked him to leave but he says he need a little more time. Do you really think that he sleeps in the basement? What do you think she should do! Help this girl, cuz I don't know what to do?
2006-10-30 01:47:16 · 11 answers · asked by Sacha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's very possible. My sister and her husband slept in separate rooms. He had his and she had hers, the didn't have sex for over a year and he had a girlfriend. For whatever reason it took them over a year to divorce. I don't know if it was the kids or not that kept them together. They both led separate lives, they were more like roommates. They weren't in love anymore, they didn't really talk to each other. They were financially independent, so it had nothing to do with money. My sister can't explain it either.
I'm not sure if I could date a person in this circumstance, because you never know what's going on when he's there, but I know in my sisters case, nothing was going on between them. I guess maybe he didn't want to live apart from the kids, or they were together so long it was just too comfortable to stay. I don't know. I would tell him time is up. Either move out, or she's moving on. Enough is enough.
2006-10-30 01:59:11 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, it might be a little odd. But there is no rules that says you have to hate your exes. Their is nothing wrong for him to still be in a good relation with his ex.
Think about it. If they were sleeping together, living together and raising their kid together, how is that not making them a couple?
Ask her to get to their house, speak with the ex-gf, ask her if she is aware of your friend existence, make sure she doesn't think she is in any kind of relation with the bf anymore, see the living arrangement, make the gf confirm that everything he said about them is true. That should convince her. Even if the guy is trying to lead her on, I can't see any reason why the ex would want to make a fool of your friend.
Unless she plan to move-in with him, I think she should accept his explanations once she has clarified things with the ex. Of course, if she want to move in with him, she should have him choose a date to move-out and stick to it.
Hope that help.
2006-10-30 12:46:05 · answer #2 · answered by Yoda Miyagi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her to lose this loser. I do not for a minute believe he is sleeping in the basement. I believe that he is trying to have his cake and eat it too. He wants sex from your gf, but wants the security of a long term relationship with the mother of his child. If he were to leave his child and his child's mother, would she be getting any bargain?
2006-10-30 09:54:06 · answer #3 · answered by bettyswestbrook 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok you need to tell your friend to stop being naive.......they have a history together and a child...it could be possible that they sleep separately but they're still "sleeping with each other"....he's going to continue making excuses about moving out.....because he's probably made an agreement with his child's mother....it could be a rental issue (lease)? they could be taking a break from each other to see if they could work out whatever it is between them? it could be so many things but your friend doesnt really have a place (legitally) in his life....she needs to cut her losses and move on.......her boyfriend to get his life together before they can have a solid relationship ...and unless she's willing to wait ...she should move on
2006-10-30 09:56:49 · answer #4 · answered by teaspoon520 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I have known people who resided in the same house for their children. It depends on the individual person. Is he trustworthy? Deep in her heart she will know the truth. Does his ex-girlfriend know about her? If his ex-girlfriend doesn't know about her then she probably can't trust him. I know some ex's are jealous but if there is truly nothing between them he wouldn't have a problem letting her know.
2006-10-30 09:51:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure,but that doesn't mean that their not doing the dirty deed.All guys are not the Scumbags that most jealous women think.I lived with my x-wife for 6 months with no hankey pankey going on it was just her helping me out of some bad situation
2006-10-30 10:00:12 · answer #6 · answered by Ricky Lee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he still sleepin with his baby momz... comeon as much as two parents are not together or dont get along they will always have a certain love for one another becuz together they bought in the greatest gift in the world...and if he wasnt sleepin with her and finacial stable then he should have left i dont think he would be deprived of his child
2006-10-30 09:51:40 · answer #7 · answered by Nena 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he's f ing the baby mother every chance he gets and when he can't do her he does his gf. I couldn't call a man in that situation my bf cause I would already know what's going on.
2006-10-30 09:54:17 · answer #8 · answered by WannaKnow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what does he need time for??? there is no doubt he is still f u c k i n g around with her!!! your friend should ditch that guy
2006-10-30 09:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope you're not really 'The Friend" ... don't fall for it.. uhmmm, tell her not to believe it.
2006-10-30 10:02:30 · answer #10 · answered by sneakyfker 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋