Am i right 2 b angry wif my parents??

Question

My parents divorced when i was only 2 years old,i never reli thought about it but i was left wif my father,2 sisters n my brother,things got out of hand,my 46 year old father dated a 21 year old girl named Sherry n she now lives wif me..she takes all the attention away from me..my father doesn't talk 2 me now n both of us r like strangers..,my mom seems 2 hate me very much..and dislikes me in a very strong way,she tends 2 quarel wif me everytime i c her,i smtimes feel depressed..am i right 2 b angry wif my parents?

Answer 1

Yes - and no - I think you really need to see a family couselor to help you unload your issues... and your parents need to see you and understand what they are doing to make youso miserable - children should be #1 priiority not ever overlooked - they sound a bit selfish

Answer 2

You have every right to be angry. Explain how you feel to your father. And just remember, if this 20 year old is a new girlfriend then he is just showering her with attention for now. Once that novelty wears off, his attention will come back to his kids. Give him time, as in the early stages of any relationship it's called the "honeymoon stage" and can last quite some time.

Best thing to do is pull him aside and ask for at least a few hours per week for "father - daughter" talks. He probably doesnt' realize what he is doing right now as new relationships tend to take up most of your time / energy. It's that way no matter what your age.

As for your mother, just remember "it's her loss" that she doesnt' want to spend quality time with you.

Answer 3

Yes Nicole you do have a reason to be upset with your parents to a point, Your Dad and Mom both is not handling this problem in the right manner, I will say but, in saying that there is their side of the problem also, I am a mother of three daughters my oldest is almost 21 years-old and she and I are not talking not because I am angry with her but because she is angry with me for getting married to a guy with two little girls, which are not my other two daughters, the problems are not the same but the feelings are. I am not sure what is going on with you and your Mom but I will tell you this, she does not hate you but if anything she loves you with all of her heart maybe you and her want to talk to each other but no one is listening to the other, When young girls become teens such as yourself there is a lot going on inside of you and you too are confused about those changes and you do seem to not want to be bother with us parents because you feel like we do not understand but we do, just give her chance you may be surpised of how she may be able to help you right now but, you have to let her in, because she can not read your mind no matter what we tell y'all ( = Now as to your Dad, that is an area that I may not be able to really help you with because from the sounds of it, he is going through the life change that older people seem to go through, around the middle 40's early 50's, with the chasing of younger women, the only thing I will say about this is that it will blow over and just tell your Dad that you do not plan on being best buddies with his new little friend, and that she needs to respect your space period, I do wish I could tell you that it will be alright by the next day but I can't, just be patience okay you will make it through this, and just remember change is always coming but not always good or bad just normal....................

Answer 4

I think you have a right to be. It sounds like both are taking their anger with each other out on you, which isn't right. But, unfortunately, too often the children get placed in the middle of the wars of the parents.

All I would say is not to let your anger turn into hatred. They are still your parents, and, though your anger is understandable, if it turns into bitterness it will eat away at you for the rest of your life. Find a friend, school counselor, or minister to talk to about what you're going through, as well as to give you wise advice as how to handle the anger you're feeling. My thoughts and prayers to you kid.

Answer 5

I'd say you have every right to be angry because BOTH of your parents are behaving very selfishly!
This isn't about YOU however, so don't you even think so...
Obviously you are much more level headed and more mature than they are.
Try letting your father know how you feel... Let him know that you need more time for your own relationship with him. Many men seem to believe that they really aren't that important to their children. They believe that if they provide for the physical needs, they are doing the right thing....they just don't seem to comprehend that we girls need our fathers emotionally. You're not alone.... :o)

Ask your mother if she hates or despises you.... That may shock her but just throw that question at her. Let's just see what her reaction is... I'm going to bet that she doesn't realize how she's coming off to you....and that she loves you very much....

Let's just take it from there first.... K? Keep us informed so we can be here to support you... :o)

Answer 6

Everybody has the right to be angry but it is what you do with that anger. . Nobody can tell you how to feel because they are not you and don't feel things the same way as you do. Sometimes we say we are angry at someone when we are really angry about what they have done. Either way be careful what you do with your anger. Take care and I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 7

well i think deep inside u are angry with yourself because u couldn't change the situation, but as an advice i think you should really talk with your dad abt it and also with your brother and sisters and tell them u';re not happy as well with your mom. I don;t think she hates u maybe she find it hard to show u sm feelings, but u should talk with her also. Explain them that u are their kid and in a strange way they should be a role model for u, they were the ones how brought u on this world so they should be your guidance, and abt your dads gf well try and talk to her a lil bit like 2 girls not like your "step mother" and see what shes made of and how can u make your situation more bearable.............i hope u have good friends to support u throught this situation.

Answer 8

Nicole, I think your father is manipulated with your young step mother or he just hypnotized at the moment being with young lady? Talk to your dad nicely. Don't get angry to your parents because they're always your parents..About your mother: you have to ask your mother why she have to treated you like that. "I hope you're doing good and try not to get upset, you have to understand your mother and your father they will realised what they missed thing for you"

Warning: Beware of step mother some of them are wicked. But some step mom are just same as your biological mother..

My step mother is great when my father around but when he is not around the house..she turn into a monster.

Answer 9

yes... it sounds like they are no being parents... the situation your in is really not one you can change... its sad for you to make some changes... your going to have to go to your parents and talk to them as if the were the kids... telling them that they aren't being fair.. their not thinking about what they have done to their kidsa... what's the deal with your mom... is she taking her anger out on you for what your dad is doing... she left you with your dad she should be the one mad at you... you should be mad at her ...mothers don't leave there kids... I don't think that talking to them would help but thats the only action you can take... I hopes this helps and I wish you the best...

Answer 10

yes-they seem to be caught up in their lives and not taking enough interest in you...its unfair but people dont automatically become good parents just because they can make a kid-doesnt mean they know what to do with it.good luck darling if I was your mom I'd love you everyday and beat your father with the babysitter..errr girlfriend