Ok so here is the scenario. A guy I had been seeing for a few months and was claiming that he wanted me in his life but wasn't ready to define it and be in a committed relationship started seeing someone else. I told him that I couldn't handle that and would walk if need be. He kept seeing her for a month but then one of them decided to just be friends. They work together so need to see each other daily and have a lot in common as it relates to work. They have stayed in touch and continue talking on a regular basis. I have caught him lying about her but he says they are just friends and nothing is going on. She has also confirmed this and claims to be seeing someone else. Knowing about me she continues the communication with him. I recently saw a bill with many calls back and forth. He says that it took him awhile to get "there" with me but he is there and wants a future with me. He has been honest about some of the communication with her just not all. What's up?
2006-10-30 01:38:56 · 7 answers · asked by Hopey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wanted to add a few details to this question. At this point we have been seeing each other for almost 7 months. This women also hangs out with other men that she is just friends with. I have told him how uncomfortable I am with this situation but he still claims they are only friends. He spends every night with me but has a flexible work schedule and is home during the afternoon. As far as I know there is usually a third person around his roommate whom she is also friends with. I do love him and know that he cares about me. There is no question about that.
2006-10-30 23:48:54 · update #1
it is time to move on when you post on here and start having doubts in your own mind
2006-10-30 01:40:53 · answer #1 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you can handle him having a friend that is a woman, then don't worry so much about it. Can you be her friend too? You are a fantastic person! Do not forget that... But be the bigger person here and lay it out there. By asking if you can be friends too, you are showing both of them that you are mature enough to handle it. If they say, "not a good idea", then you have your answer...
2006-10-30 01:42:52 · answer #2 · answered by T. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you guys may want to have an open relationship for now...to see where both of your heads are at....he's probably telling you that to comfort your insecurities....but while your sitting home thinking about his loyality....you can meet other people...and know for sure if this is the guy you want to give your heart to. It's only a few months, he's probably "testing the waters" while you're waiting for only him......see your other options......
2006-10-30 01:44:26 · answer #3 · answered by teaspoon520 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definitely time for you to move on. You dont need to be with someone who will tell you one thing positive and then does something negative. Who knows what he will do in the future? I mean, he let you know that he wants you in his life, but as long as he can have other chicks too, right? Hell no, let his *** go!!!
2006-10-30 01:48:42 · answer #4 · answered by yagurlbubblez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is serious about you and is telling the truth as it relates to this other female things should be okay. The two of them staying in contact so much is bothering you and you need to be up front with him about it. Let him know that if he is serious about you that he needs to limit his contact with her to work. If he really wants to be with you he will respect how you feel. If not, is he really worth it?
2006-10-30 01:46:19 · answer #5 · answered by bttrfly0724 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do realize that if you do get this guy to commit and marry you; that you will be going through this again someday with someone else. Do you really want that?
2006-10-30 01:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to share his affection? If not, perhaps it's time to talk with him about monogamy. His relationship with this other woman is going to cause a rift in your relationship with you. Stop it before it goes too far, or leave.
2006-10-30 01:42:31 · answer #7 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋