Okay, me & my friend-with-benefits stopped sleeping together a few months ago because I started to have feelings and the timing was wrong because he still has feelings for his ex.
I am very open & upfront and I emailed him yesterday and told him that I am dating someone new. He knew I was talking to this guy anyway, so I doubt he is suprised.
I said "I know you could careless, but I wanted you to know anyway. I am not trying to make you jealous or piss you off. What would be the point in that? I know how you feel. He doesn't know about anything regarding...us. And I'd rather keep it that way. He does know that we are friends though. He & I aren't exclusive. Which means that you can still flirt with me, if you want."
He never replied. So, does this mean that he is cool with it? Is he pissed at me? I know I shouldn't care, but I don't know if he is mad or not. I feel like if I call or ask him what he thinks, it will be pushy.
Anyone have any thoughts?
2006-10-30 01:38:08 · 13 answers · asked by Mintygoodness1 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's probably not happy about it although he has feelings for his ex, kind of a jelousy thing, wants people to himself, i don't blame people like that though, its one of the best types of people, either that or he really doesn't care and he's letting you be with this other guy friend of yours and he's staying out of the way, if you call him he probably will be stressy though.
2006-10-30 01:51:15 · answer #1 · answered by Aaron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this guy is showing you, that when it came down to it, he was just a friend with benefits, as you put. Nothing more, nothing less. So, forget him, if he doesnt want you all to himself, whats the point - you may not want him in that way, but it would be nice to have the option right? If you are friends with benefits, then im afraid, you are giving him the 'its ok to be an @sshole' card, as you were cool with of from the off. Sorry babe, but you need to find someone who is worth you, stop obsessing over this idiot, and only do no strings if you can handle it baby ok. all the best x
2006-10-30 09:44:07 · answer #2 · answered by Ms.Trouble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not call, I would try to just cut it off as nice as possible. I have had some friends w/b but it always turns out wrong cause one or the other find someone that they really like and the other is not used to being cut off. If you cant just go on then maybe you were more than friends to begin with :)
2006-10-30 09:44:25 · answer #3 · answered by Misty b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he hasn't read your email yet, never know. Like you i also have a friend with benefits tho were still sleeping together i can relate to where your coming from. The one thing that i have learned from fwb's one always seem to have feelings the other does not(meaningless sex) there only in it for one thing and one thing only. Give him a chance to respond back if he doesn't then he never valued your friendship.....Good Luck
2006-10-30 09:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by newtothis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you were just a booty call, sorry if that hurts your feelings but it's the truth. Find someone else or get more involved with that new guy. Don't try to settle for someone who doesn't really want to be with you. It's really not worth it.
2006-10-30 09:43:00 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is just over the whole situation regarding you two and they whole friends with benefits thing. I'm sure he is happy that you moved on and because he moved on also, he may feel that it's unnecessary to reply. My advice is give this new guy a chance to win your heart over.
2006-10-30 09:40:46 · answer #6 · answered by thealysiad 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Since he has chosen to treat you in this discourteous manner, keep him cut off and leave his life. You probably have more to offer to a guy who will appreciate the gifts that you let him use.
2006-10-30 09:41:38 · answer #7 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you were trying to make him jealous and piss him off, he was honest and didnt want a committment, remember the sexual enjoyment you shared and move on,
stop trying to hurt him, you may need him again someday
2006-10-30 09:40:17 · answer #8 · answered by rich2481 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think in sayting what you said you have done the thing you were trying not to do....but it seems like it was your intention, why did you feel the need to bring it up to him its like throwing it in his face
2006-10-30 09:49:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let it go for a while.. if he replies he'll do that... but, it looks like you gave him that impression of answering your own question by giving him options on what he should do... so maybe he got the impression to not reply....at least, that's wat i would be thinkin... Good luck
2006-10-30 09:41:48 · answer #10 · answered by Jorge R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋