i found this perfect girl who has everything. good looking and a brain with a sense of humour. We get on really well and i have told her alot of times how i feel about her. I compliment her on everything. She was going out with a lad who was a tosser and she has just realised what type of person he was. I was a shoulder for her to cry on. She then started to become very nice towards me. I then told her again how i felt about her and asked how she felt and she said that she likes me as a friend. I am going to ask her if we can take friendship any further. What else can i do????
2006-10-30 01:26:47 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nothing. Be yourself and the right girl will come along and she'll be alot more than a friend!
2006-10-30 01:52:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant do anything but be honest with her. But if she doesn't want anything more than friendship you need to make the decision - would you:
1) prefer to have her in your life as a friend
2) not have her in your life at all because you pushed too much for a relationship.
also bare in mind she has just come out of a relationship which doesn't sound like it ended well - she will need to take time to move on from that - the last thing you want is to be her rebound guy
2006-10-30 09:37:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has she finished with this other guy? And how long was she with him for if she has? You need to leave her to make her mind up,she knows how you feel and now you need to leave the ball in her court. She hasnt reacted to you telling her your feelings yet,so maybe she doesnt feel ready to take the next step. Or maybe shes happy just being friends with you. If I were you I would give her time and space for a little while,let her know that your there for her without pushing her too much. If she wants to take the next step,she knows your there. In the meantime just lie your own life as normal.
2006-10-30 09:42:19 · answer #3 · answered by joiyuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
You are being too nice and she thinks she has you in her pocket.
There is no challenge there so she lost intrest.
Don't ask her for anything. stop asking permission and Just be a man and kiss her.
Better yet flirt with another girl right in front of her, If she is interested, her smugness will drop and she will become interested again. If she doesn't then she really isn't interested.
2006-10-30 09:38:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jacky has hit the nail on the head. Because you were the shoulder for her to cry on and listened to her problems, she has compartmentalized you as a friend and it is now a big mind-shift for her to take you seriously as a lover - 99 times out of 100 it ain't going to happen.
2006-10-30 09:36:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait till she's over this tosser first...then gently approach her, it seems that you really like her but she did say that she wanted to be just friends, leave her for a bit, don't pressure her too much coz she may just run away....let her settle after her break with the other fella, then ask her for dinner or something, then take it from there....good luck
2006-10-30 09:31:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this girl has told you she likes you as a friend only then its probably best to leave it at that until she makes the first move because if you ask her that now she might think that your pushing her and all you will do is push her away.
2006-10-30 09:34:18 · answer #7 · answered by Unhinged.... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wanted you would would know. You would not have to ask. She want you as a friend I would just leave it at that and hope something SLOWLY develop. If you come on to strong she may give in but the happiness will not last.
2006-10-30 09:32:26 · answer #8 · answered by Label Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with her tell her how you feel. If she still responds the same way remember she recently got out of a relationship and may not be ready to get into another.
2006-10-30 09:30:16 · answer #9 · answered by lambdaelement6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not much else you can do until you tell her how you still feel and see if she has changed her mind about you. Just continue to be her friend and don't pressure her into something she is not ready for. Love grows on people.
2006-10-30 09:29:59 · answer #10 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋