My changing body and my bf hates me for it??????????

Question

I was 5 ft6 and only 102 a little while ago now i have always been slim 114 being the most i have ever been and my normal weight. I lost the weight because i was extremley sick and stressed out for months and very unhappy i lost a lot of my muscle mass that i had prior because i ran crosscountry and track.Anyway in september i decided i did not want to feel like a corpse because i was only fitting into a size zero and it was fitting me baggie.So i started eating better 3 full meals and 4 small snacks plus working out with a trainer every 5 days a week.My body is now coming back i am about 110 pounds again and feel so much better about myself my face even has cleared up and i have started doing my hair again and taking care of myself.My grades in school are doing much better but my bf seems to hate these changes and makes fun of me. last friday a guy made a comment that i was hot and my bf hit the roof! what can i do?

I dont now anyone else other than my bf at college because i am shy and i only really talk to him.

Answer 1

Kick him to the curb.

I was once where you are now, and am still struggling to put weight back on. I was sick with a series of illnesses immediately after moving to Florida, and I dropped down to 90 lbs. I can't seem to break 105, though, no matter how much I eat.

Trust me. You don't need the baggage. Your health is more important than anything else. If he can't accept that you're doing what you need to be healthy, then he is not someone that you need to have around, because if he can't accept you taking control of your health, what else about your life will he not be able to accept you taking control over?

Answer 2

Don't let anyone affect your peace of mind, and your self-esteem. Your boyfriend seems to be intimidated or threatened by the fact that you are an attractive, and physically fit young woman. He is afraid you might actually realize this fact and that you'll get more self-assurance......and maybe become more outgoing. When people feel threatened of losing their control over someone, they tend to get very offensive, or begin to attack a person's self-esteem. The fact alone that he is making fun of you or putting you down shows that he is not comfortable with you looking better, and feeling better about yourself. Self-assurance is a threat to a controlling person........if you feel this is your situation, do the right thing for you....Get him out of your life. He will only try to bring your self-esteem down to a level where you'll continuously feel you need his company to have any sense of self-value. Think about how it felt to have someone else other than your boyfriend tell you that you're HOT......I'm sure it brought your confidence level up "big time". This only means that you have something that others notice in you......if you add your personality, you've got the entire package. In no time at all you'll be able to make friends, and also get more notice from other, more appreciative men. What have you got to lose....Nothing!
Best of Luck!

Answer 3

Time to find a new BF. This one is a controlling jerk. I'm serious things are just going to get worse with this guy. Why would you stay with someone who would rather see you sick and weak rather than strong and healthy?

You deserve better

per additional details. Then he's not really your BF he's a crutch that keeps you from being lonley. College is about stretching and trying new things. You need to dump this guy. You'll meet other people. Better to take some short term lonliness than to stay in a relationship that is bad for you and if this one isn't it soon will be.

Answer 4

Good for you for taking better care of yourself. 110 is still very thin for your height, but it's wonderful you are working out, etc. There's no better beauty regimen than a healthy diet and lots of exercise! Your BF is probably worried that you are getting so good looking because he probably has low self esteem himself and he thinks if you improve yourself you'll soon wonder what you're doing with him and dump him. What he doesn't realize is that his behavior will likely be the cause of a breakup, not what will keep you two together. And, anytime someone in your life doesn't encourage you when you're making improvements, they really don't have your best interests at heart, and it's best not to be around poisonous people.

Answer 5

Your question is laced with the thinking of a person who is either in, or is recovering from an eating disorder. You made mention about your weight at least 5 times, & commented on your body image about 8 times in a single paragraph.
I am glad that you are taking better care of yourself physically, & are relying on experts for advice on how to diet & exercise. Good job!
However, from your comments about yourself, you still have some toxic thinking comming to the surface, & it can slow down your personal progress. The last thing you need in your life right now is a boygriend who is neither supportive of your recovery, or can control his comments regarding your body image.
He is also very immature & jealous, & that can be a bad combination for you right now.
You are the most important thing in your life, you are doing well in school, & taking charge of your health & well being. This guy is absorbed in himself, & is only looking after his own needs. You've outgrown him, so maybe it's time for you to move on.

Keep up the good work on looking after yourself.

Answer 6

I agree with the others who say it is time for a new bf. Either he loves you for who you are or he doesn't. Who you are isn't your body (thin or not) and if he can't love you with a body you're happy with and is healthier then he really isn't a good bf. True love means that you accept a person for what is inside as well as outside and know that that will change over time. People get wrinkles, loose or gain weight and go through all sorts of other physical or emotional changes. If you love someone you accept those changes. There is a guy out there who will love you for being you. Good luck!

Answer 7

First, your physical appearance seems to be fitting with your overall mood. Perhaps your boyfriend (hopefully soon to be ex) believes he can manipulate you when you are not feeling good about yourself. Be confident. You are a special person with wonderful qualities! Don't give anyone the power to make you feel less than that. If you are generating interest among other guys, step out on a limb and talk with them. There's nothing to lose! But you might gain a friend or more, just by being confident in yourself!

Answer 8

it's not tat he hates your body.. he juz couldn't handle the attention u r getting thru it! he's juz being paranoid and jealous at the thought of someone else lookin, admiring and commenting on his gf's body... can't blame him rite? Some guys will be proud of it n don't mind the girl showing the body off, but some guys r the complete opposite, n i tink ur bf is one of them! I also guess that making fun of ur body is juz a way of him to kinda paly with ur mind.. he muz be more than aware on how sensitive this issue is to girls.. and maybe he's hopin tat u will slip back the old u again.. Anyway, u should do ur part t make him feel secure u know.. try to boost up his level of confidence in himself abit.. he should be happy to have a hot girlfriend like u!!

Answer 9

This is so typical of an insecure person. He is trying to put you down because of his lack of confidence. If you feel good about yourself, and you feel you look the best you ever have, someone that loves you would compliment you and support you. It takes alot of work to be fit, I give you alot of credit. Your boyfriend is just worried about losing you. Sometimes it's hard to know that other men want your woman. Just continue to work out and keep yourself healthy, I would speak to him and let him know how you feel about this. Maybe some confirmation about your love for him would ease his fears a bit.

Answer 10

a great area of being in love is attractiveness. What does this guy anticipate out of you? infants are a blessing, yet your physique transformations. a great number of guys would desire to be with you, and additionally you recognize that. what's this guy going to do whilst your attractiveness fades? As you become previous, evidently, you do no longer precisely get greater desirable finding. If this have been me, identity depart this guy. No guy is properly worth your self belief. i'm pregnant, and my husband tells me on an popular basis hoe eye-catching i'm, and that no remember what, i will continually be the main eye-catching lady in his eyes. Granted in healthy and ineat organic and organic for the time of my being pregnant, yet a minimum of i understand that if something ever got here approximately as to the place my face have been given harm, or something aggravating got here approximately to my physique he'd be precise via my area. What in case you ever get breast maximum cancers? locate somebody who accepts you, "flaws" and all. And area notice: small boobs are actually not a flaw. you would be between the few women persons who don't have boobs sagging tonyour ribs. Its a blessing, throw that at him, and tell him to blow his shallowness out his backside. ;) be the lady God created you to be.