I'm getting married?

Question

My boyfriend of six months asked me to marry him, and I said yes. Is it too soon?

Answer 1

Not if you both feel like its the right thing to do. Some people to get engaged after 6 months. Make sure you guys both know what your getting into.

Here is a checklist of things for you and your future husband to think about before you decide to get married.


So you're in a relationship, and you're thinking about taking the plunge of all plunges -- marriage! How can you be sure, really sure, that you're making the right decision? Well, you can't. But we've come up with a list of issues to help you with the big questions. Read through them and see what you think.When it comes to thinking about the future of your relationship, sometimes questions are the answer.



Relationship


You go to each other for advice, and you almost always come away feeling better about things.

You are supportive of each other's decisions, even when they suck -- er, we mean, when you just don't agree with them.

You tell your honey when he or she has hurt you instead of holding a grudge.

You are generally able to resolve fights to your mutual satisfaction.

You both know that relationships take work, and you are willing to go the distance.

You respect, admire, listen to, and just plain like each other, gosh darn it!

You share enough of the same interests and friends that you don't feel like you are always on your own.


Money


You have similar spending/saving habits, or you've discussed how you'll each compromise to keep the peace.

You have the same attitude about paying bills or debt management.

You are aware of each other's total present debt, if any.

You have discussed how you will merge your finances once you get married, and you are comfortable with the plan.

You have told your honey about all your assets and have no hidden nest eggs, "just in case."

You have similar definitions of a "comfortable" income, and similar or symbiotic income goals.


Sex


Your sexual needs are compatible, and you are both satisfied with your lives between the sheets (or on the kitchen table, in the shower, or wherever).

You are comfortable giving and taking sexual suggestions and requests.

Birth control is something you consider a joint responsibility, and you have openly discussed your options and preferences.

You use sex as a healthy and FUN expression of your LOVE, not as a way to gloss over problematic issues in your relationship, a weapon, or an easy way to solve disputes (without addressing the root of the argument).

You've 'fessed up about your sexual past (at least most of it!) and had frank discussions about STDs and previous partners (or lack thereof).


Family


You generally get along with each other's families (we're not talking about a sappy love fest, just general friendliness and goodwill), and if not, you've at least discussed to what extent they will play a role in your future family life.

You are willing and prepared to regard each other as your most important familial relationship after you get married.

You have similar religious beliefs or you have discussed how to incorporate religion into your future family.

You've talked about children -- how many you want, or if you want them at all.

If you have children from a previous marriage, he or she treats them with respect and kindness.

You've considered not only the future responsibility of caring for your honey, but also the possibility of caring for their parents or other family members.

If a majority of these statements are true about your relationship, you're in great shape -- we say go for it! But if the majority are "don't know" or "no way," your relationship needs more work before you're ready to tie the knot. Don't despair -- knowing what you need to tackle is half the battle.

Answer 2

Not if you are both ready. My parents got engaged after dating only six months, and they have been happily married for nearly 40 years. The amount of time you have been dating shouldn't be a factor. But if you are having doubts, talk to your fiance about your feelings. The two of you should decide together what is best for you at this point. Congratulations and good luck!

Answer 3

My boy asked me after 2 weeks of being together and I happily said yes. People ask why so soon? All I could say is that we just new it was right. It felt amazing and I felt so happy. We have now been together for three years and our wedding is in may next year. If it's real love it won't matter if it's 3 days or 30 years after dating. Your heart will tell you if it's right for you. Congrats!!! Have a long engagement and savour the wedding plans. It's so much fun! We are more in love than ever. Good luck with your life together!

Answer 4

My first marriage, we dated for 5 years, and the marriage ended horribly 6 years later.

This one, we only dated for a couple months. But it was that feeling that we'd known each other forever. 2 years and still happy!

So go with your gut. Women have instincts like that. It's just that mine didn't kick in the first time.

Answer 5

Are you ready? The amount of time you have been dating is not a factor as long as you are ready to spend the rest of your life with him. My sister met a guy and by there 1 year dating anniv. they were getting married. Meaning they got married on the 1 year date. So as long as you are ready than time is not a factor.

Answer 6

i became engaged whilst i became 24 and married whilst i became 26 Our wedding ceremony colours have been a diminished peach and chocolate brown We each and each had our brothers as witnesses (2 entire), it became an fairly small wedding ceremony (14 human beings have been there consisting persons and our reverend) Our reception became held a month after our wedding ceremony, and we did no longer have assigned seating, maximum persons did no longer sit down, it became a dinner occasion We had a small chocolate cake and then a sort of cakes for persons to be certain on, i think of there have been 5 distinctive selections We went to Maui for 2 weeks We have been given married in Gleneden sea coast, OR, a tiny city on the coast, merely exterior of Lincoln city

Answer 7

I say no. My husband and I met last October. We've been married for almost 4 months now and were engaged after 3.

Answer 8

You're getting "cold feet" huh? You have to ask yourself this particular question. Do you know him enough? Are you ready to share your life with him? Do you think you can trust him? You need to be sure about what you really want with this guy. You have to answer this question on your own. Or ask advice from friends and family who knows him. Probably they see a clearer personality of him than you do. Which means, they are able to judge whether both of you are going to fast. Congrats on the proposal and good luck. Think deeply and carefully.

Answer 9

No not at all but I defitely would not rsuh into the actual date. Planning a wedding can be stressful and if you do it too fast you won't allow yourselves to grow more together during that time. Maybe plan to have a year engagement that give you enough time to plan and also still give you time to really make sure that he is the one.

Answer 10

it can be, but if you guys are really in love i say go for it. my close friend married a girl after dating for 3 months and they are happy together. just make sure you guys are in it for the same reason and that you both feel the same about marriage. if one of you feel that if you fall out of love and should get divorced, and the other one does not believe in divorce, things like that can cause a lot of problems and a lot of heartache.