there is this guy lets see i like him and he likes me and well we work 2gether and recently we made out.... then 2 days l8r i found out that HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND AND A BABY!!!!!! i was so pissed and i confronted him about it he was all like " well she's ONLY my baby's mama" i dont know wat to do we work at a grocery store and im a cashier and hes a stock guy i have seen her at the store since then and i dont know wat to do....should i tell her? she's so pretty i feel really bad for her
2006-10-30 01:10:22 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow...tough situation.....
I wouldn't go running to her to tell her...I mean it was only making out right?
If you go running, you're gonna stir up a WHOLE LOTTA trouble that you will be RIGHT smack in the middle of....and who wants that? Not to mention it will make work a hostile environment, then rumors will start.....nasty business...
I would just EMPHATICALLY end it with him, don't put yourself in that precarious position with him again. (There are more men out there!)
Now IF she should confront you and ask??? Then I feel honesty would be best, explain that when it happened you did not know about her and his child, and once you did, you were disgusted by him and ended it immediately.
Nothing a cheatin dog hates more than to see both "of his" on the same side-----pissed and mad at HIM!!!
2006-10-30 01:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by secret_oktober_girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hate guys like that. They are trash of the lowest degree, a complete waste of oxygen.
This is very complex and heartbreaking situation. If you tell her flat-out, you will look like the bad guy. The guy will twist things around to make it look like you came onto him and he will tell everyone and ruin your reputation. I've known people like him and they're entirely predictable.
You could send an anonymous letter to the woman and tell her he's been cheating. Then again, this isn't fool-proof, either. You may very well be the only woman he's cheated on her with (though I highly doubt it) so he'd know who sent it and you'd have the same problem as if you went and told her outright.
Her feelings need to be taken into consideration, too. Since she has a baby with him, it's going to be hard enough on her as it is when she does realize he's been playing her. In the end, it's best to let her figure it out on her own. She won't believe anything anyone else says and he's a dirty, lecherous little weasel who will say anything to get out of trouble. So just stay away from him and warn any other woman that you see him messing around with.
2006-10-30 01:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by Avie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, don't tell her and leave him alone because you will get caught in the middle if his girlfriend ever finds out and she will blame you for everything even though you did not know ahead of time that this guy had a girlfriend. Besides, what kind of a man is he anyway if he hides the fact that he has a child. That is pretty sad and you deserve better then that.
2006-10-30 01:35:33 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ohh my god! I can't believe you guys are telling this girl this stuff.
You would want to know if someone was cheating on you. This guy could be bringing anything home to his babby momma. Tell the girl but make sure you have your wits about you. Come to her like a woman. You never want to be in a relationship and be thinking everything is gravy then find out that you got herpes or AIDS because he was out ther bogus. You owe it to all women to be a woman and say he is a dog, and you should watch your back. As a woman she deserves a warning and if she doesn't head the warning that's up to her.
2006-10-30 01:18:02 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Oh my!! that's a hard one, but when my husband cheated I wish someone would have told me. If you do tell her, make sure you let her know you had know knowledge of her or their baby. If he is cheating now, the other girl should know so they don't get married & have more kids , cause she will find out too late.
Sorry that happened to you!!
2006-10-30 01:16:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Punch him. I hate guys.
I understand why you'd want to tell her...but I'd stay way out of that one. You don't have a moral obligation, shes not a friend or family member, it will just put you in a bad spot. Forget about him, and go work at another store.
2006-10-30 01:15:45 · answer #6 · answered by Kbailey 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First of all, NEVER go out with, date or sleep with someone you work with. When you break up it makes working conditions awkward.
Second, it seems you did not take the time to get to know this guy before you jumped in with your lips. I hope you learned a lesson. Get to know the person, find out about them before you jump into their arms.
Third, you stay out of his business. It's not your place to destroy his relationship with his girlfriend and child.
2006-10-30 01:13:49 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't tell her. You don't know her, and she would probably not believe you anyway because the man would say you're a nut or stalker or whatever. Just ignore that idiot's existence and be glad YOU are not the one mixed up with a loser like that.
2006-10-30 01:18:01 · answer #8 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My dear,
A man might love u and still cheat on you. It is in their nature, just cheat. So my dear, forget this guy, his baby, and his babys mamma. just ignore them. They are not worth it. Just be focused baby cause thats all u need now. Enjoy.
2006-10-30 01:22:51 · answer #9 · answered by ellsie a 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should probably back out of this whole situation and go find a single guy. Don't tell her anything. She'll find out what kinda guy he is on her own.
2006-10-30 01:14:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋