if you read my past questions you will see im planning to propose to my girlfriend in Egypt (we go next week) and i recently had to grasp the only opportunity i could to ASK HER DAD!!
he said it was a good idea but also said he wants me to talk to him and her mum when she is back from ghana! this is several weeks after i intend to propose!!! i could only speak to him really briefly cos my girlfriend had popped indoors to get something, and i dont see her parents very often
i dont know what to do, of course i want it to be romantic, so doing it on a beach in Egypt would be great, but im not sure what her dad was thinking about waiting? we wont get a romantic chance like this for ages.
any suggestions?? i might talk to her sister and ask her advice.
2006-10-30 01:07:16 · 27 answers · asked by Mr Gravy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
my thoughts are to just do it, but he is an old traditional dad who wants to be consulted, but to me its more of a blessing than permission
2006-10-30 01:16:59 · update #1
i think he just wanted us to live together first or something, or he couldn't deal on his own, wish id have asked him after i ask her
2006-10-30 03:11:11 · update #2
IM SO EXCITIED!!! WOO!! im just gonna do it!
2006-10-30 22:34:00 · update #3
I find the "asking the Dad" thing a bit weird. We're living in 2006 now. If you love her and she loves you, what's it got to do with anyone else? Go with the flow, if it feels right on holiday, go for it. It will make it memorable and special.
2006-10-30 01:14:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think that is romantic...
Hey- if you talk to the sister, you know how mothers and daughters talk...the sister MIGHT talk to her mother, which might move things along smoother, and faster. So, then everyone will be happy. If things don't move fast enough, maybe get a calling card or two...call Ghana...? I don't know really. I just hope that you two are happy. Just remember, you are marrying her, not her family (per say). In other words, keep your focus on her, the one you love. You won't always agree with eachother, and you won't always agree with her parents. But it's you and her on one level, and her parents on another. You and her are sharing your lives together. Good luck. And don't forget the sunblock for the beach. She's going to love it. Whether you ask on the beach - or early one morning - in the middle of a hectic week, she will know you love her either way.
2006-10-30 09:35:01 · answer #2 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go for it. You have asked her dad and he said it was a good idea, and that would be good enough for me. Like you said, you will only have this one chance of doing this in Egypt, unless you plan on going again in the very near future. He can always talk to you when you come back. Do what your heart is telling you, as I think you girlfriend will be thrilled to bits, and I would imagine if you didn't ask her because her dad "wants a chat", she might be upset.
You go, all the best and enjoy your holiday and enjoy your proposing more.
CONGRATULATIONS.
2006-10-30 09:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by bizzybee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought my dad, dispite being a bit wayward at times, was quite a traditional man but I broke the news of our wedding plans the first time he met my man. He welcomed it with opened arms, so don't worry too much. Also would his response make any difference? This is the 21st century and I'm sure your girlfriend will be overjoyed at your romantic proposal. You can alway discuss the finer details like living together etc after you've popped the question. Don't let this spoil your moment, enjoy and congratulations
2006-10-30 15:16:07 · answer #4 · answered by esmequeenoftheworld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're worrying too much! I proposed to my girlfriend 18 months ago. (Wedding set for next Halloween) Like you, I wanted it to be perfect! We went to Paris, where I thought you couldn't get anymore romantic! Just didn't happen there! We went to a beautiful hotel in Glastonbury, still not right! Then we were in a rough little night club in Scarborough, a little tipsy, and having a really great time, I asked, she said yes and it was perfect!!
Where ever you ask her, if she wants to marry you, she'll say yes, and be overjoyed!!
As for her parents wanting to talk to you when you get back from Egypt, how important is their blessing to you? Are you both quite young? If you're both over 18, then they'll just have to talk to you after you've proposed!!
Stop worrying and planning, just do it!! It'll never be as you planned it any way. Good luck!
2006-10-30 09:21:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you said, the dad said it is a "good idea" - sounds like permission/blessing to me!
You have to do it in Egypt, it is a great way to do it. You guys will never forget it and it just makes it that much more special.
My only advice - don't go asking everyone, then she won't have the opportunity of telling people because you have already told/warned them. Telling people is a quater of the fun!
Go for it!!!
2006-10-30 09:21:44 · answer #6 · answered by Miss K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's excellent that you are so considerate, I know you are hardly asking 'permission' but it is respectful. Can you not phone her dad and explain the situation? I'm sure he would understand -he's been pretty positive so far. If that doesn't work you should go ahead anyway though - all things considered you will be creating a fabulous memory for the future Mrs Gravy forever and that is priceless.
Good luck!!!!
2006-10-30 09:21:35 · answer #7 · answered by kezls_79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps, he was thinking her mum might be a bit upset to find out after other people had found out, good for you asking her dad, and it all sounds romantic and special.
for a mothers point of view its her little girl and if the mother is away until long after you intend to propose, it may be very upsetting for her,
girls usually like their mothes to be the first one to be told.
All I can say to you is, go with your heart,
You love this lucky lady very much and you have spoke to her dad about it and when you do tell her parents properly, just say that you respected their views and oppinions and that because their daughter is special to you you wanted it to be perfect and romantic in Eygpt and you wanted to make her feel as such.
Good luck and good for you, go with your heart this is about you and your lucky lady, not her parents and not their blessing.
2006-10-31 05:34:38 · answer #8 · answered by NATALIE B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has asked you to ask the mum then I would either wait and do that, or if you decide against it, you need to call him and say you really want to do it on this particular occasion and are going to go ahead, otherwise it could now look like you're going behind his back- and you don't want to creat dischord now. Ask her sister and if you get a positive answer from her too, just do it, and have a great time creating speical memories for you both!
Have a fabulous time and I will keep my fingers crossed she says yes!
2006-10-30 09:16:50 · answer #9 · answered by emily_jane2379 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Propose to her in Egypt. It's unique. It's romantic. And it's a once in a lifetime oppertunity! Whether or not you get to spend the rest of your life with someone is NOT her parents decision. It's yours and it's hers. So you should pop the question on your own terms...not someone else's. One final thought: If her parents said 'no' would you end it? I'm guessing no, so the whole askeing the parents thing is pretty much just a nice thought. Good luck.... and congrats!
2006-10-30 09:15:36 · answer #10 · answered by Lauren H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
still do it,ask her to marry you,speak to her father when you come back from ghana after all if she says yes and her father says you should wait, whats the harm in along engagement?it doent mean you love her ny less and you can tell her father its not going to be a rush marriage either.hope u have a perfect holiday and good luck with the proposal. her father has in away given his blessing about it by saying it was a good idea.
2006-10-30 09:19:13 · answer #11 · answered by problematic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋