if a girl is happy in her new relationship . . would she still be calling her ex that she dumped for this new guy every couple weeks? . . .even though he hasnt answered or sent her something back in 4 months? and she still tries to contact him . . also . . can girls act completely happy on the outside and really be torn up on the inside? is there any way to tell if a girl is feeling like that? . . and if she wanted her ex back why would she still be with me and acting fine? why wouldnt she go back to him? maybe because she dumped him and doesnt know if he will take her back? they did go out for 2 1/2 years so i dunno . .. whats goin on?
and she hasnt told me that shes been calling him . . . and we have been dating since april and have been in an actual relationship for like 2 months . . . how long would she use me as a rebound if thats what i am? wouldnt it be over by now? it been about a month since she called him now since she was calling him. . . so maybe she will stop . . .
then just today she sent an email to him . . . it was this
hey! i just wanted to tell you that i hope you had a good birthday. i was going to call but i figured you wouldnt answer like usual or stop by and give you a card but you would have probably acted like you werent home lol. so i hope you had a good one. it would really mean a lot if you just sent something back lettin me know how ya were doin and stuff...i'de really appreciate it (name)! kayyy bye. . .
so if he hasnt responded to her since june why is she still trying to get ahold of him . . . when he hasnt responded since june?
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and then she just sent this message to him today
"look i know that you are getting my messages...i really just dont understand why you cant even say hi or something?? can you honestly please just give me a reason, like if it still upsets you or something, i mean thats fine. i just figured you could atleast do that for me...so please?"
2006-10-30 01:06:44 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think she still misses him
2006-10-30 01:09:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell her that you know about her e-mailing him and calling him and all. and tell her that it really hurts you that she is doing it. no it is not right that she is doing that. i think that it means she still likes him. or she wouldn't have sent him that e-mail today. she is being really disrespectful to you. if you two have been together this long then you are not a rebound but she needs to stop talking to him completely and get over the fact that he has moved on and wants nothing to do with her. she's just mad that he isn't talking to her and she won't stop until he does. but how mad would she get if you were doing something like that. i dont' like that she would like it AT ALL. she would be completely mad. so she needs to stop doing that to you. it's not right. and after you talk to her and she still doens't stop then you need you dump her. and if she gets mad at you for knowing that she e-mails him and calls him that means she was hinding it and that shouldn't be in a relationship. do you keep anything from her? well you need to let her know how you feel about it all. Good Luck!
2006-10-30 09:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by *~*Ash*~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be she feels guilty for dumping him but it might also be she feels bad that she acted hastily and let him go and now she wants him back, doesnt know how to go abt getting him back.
I think you should confront her for your own piece of mind so you know where you stand except you want to share. If she doesnt know what she wants and you do know what u want which i guess is all of her then let her know.
And yes a girl can hide what she trully feels while being torn apart inside, so confront her with what you've found not accusingly so you get to know her side.
2006-10-30 09:28:52 · answer #3 · answered by girlfunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very careful with this girl. The fact that she is still trying to have contact with this guy shows she is not over him and in my opinion if he did start contacting her she would go back to him. She sounds like the type of person that doesn't like to be alone, so she has met u and yes she likes u so u heal the hurt she doesn't want to face, but she also doesn't want to burn the bridges with this other guy........just in case. She is scared to move on with her life completely........she wants him to know she is still thinking about him. You need to talk to her about this because the only one that will be hurt in the end is u.
2006-10-30 09:16:17 · answer #4 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, it's not so much that she may not be "over" him as much as she may have an obsession over him. It sounds like if he is not answering her emails, letters, calls that he is "on to her" sort of "stalking" tactics. Sounds like she has too many "needs" and you would be better off with someone else in a healthier relationship that doesn't include a lot of "psychological needs". Good luck and hope you find a good mate.
2006-10-30 09:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by latte_dbl_shot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god your girl is pathetic. she desperately still wants to be with this guy and is holding on to you for security. confront her and tell her you know what she's been doing and you are not going to stand by and watch her make a fool out of you. and yes, it is possible for a girl to act happy but actually be dying inside.
2006-10-30 09:12:44 · answer #6 · answered by sheilanmanny12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for you because I honestly do not see any reason for you to put your efforts into this girl when she is still putting all her effort into her x. You deserve better than her! Get on with your life and move on!!!
2006-10-30 09:10:50 · answer #7 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude looks like u need to confront her about this. No use being with a women who is not 100 % with you. looks like she has regrets for dumping him ...
2006-10-30 09:10:23 · answer #8 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why are you reading her emails? Invasion of privacy much!? Secondly, she is definitely NOT over him. Move on to bigger and better things!
2006-10-30 09:12:40 · answer #9 · answered by drammy22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she loves him but she isn't in love with him so she just wants to see if he's ok and stuff. but if you want to know for sure then you have to ask her.
2006-10-30 09:14:17 · answer #10 · answered by britt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋