There's this girl who i have feeling for...we talked for months and she started to call me dear and i address her as darling. However, recently she stop talking to me and told her close friend that she's going to have a relationship with some guy. After knowing this...it really seems like a knife has just stab me in the heart. So, i really want to take a sweet revenge by proving to her that she has made a mistake by rejecting me silently...without even telling me. damn..it really hurts..till now..
Anyone...please Help..thanks
2006-10-30 01:06:34 · 11 answers · asked by Red Beret 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel for you. We have all been rejected at one time or another and it certainly does not feel good. Sounds like you feel a bit "led on" by her calling you "dear"....also sounds like you had some really nice, intimiate, conversations.
I would give her the benefit of the doubt that she did not know how to tell you how she was truly feeling about you...or about this other guy. I would not jump to the conclusion that she intentionally tried to hurt you. Sometimes (many times) people are not good at communicating things which may hurt someone, not realizing that by not talking they are hurting the person even more.
Why not try "speak your truth" by confronting her directly instead of trying to take revenge on her. Perhaps the best revenge (if you would call it that) would be if you showed her how mature and confident you are in yourself by talking to her directly and explaining that you are confused by her actions (or lack of action) after the many wonderful conversations the two of you had. Did she enjoy talking with you? Call her on the carpet by telling her that it was hurtful to find out from other people that she is interested in some other guy. Ask her to be more honest with you in the future if she wants to maintain any type of "friendship" with you.
I can understand that you are hurt and seeking "revenge" sounds like a good thing. But the best revenge is to demonstrate the truly wonderful person that you are....and know that others will see that even hurtful rejections can not squelch a confident and honest man.
Good luck in your future romantic adventures with her (or an even better woman).....
2006-10-30 01:19:31 · answer #1 · answered by curiousRO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women study a guy. They want to make sure he will be able to support her and any children she has.
She thinks about the education of the guy..will he embarrass her in front of her friends by being ignorant?
She also wants a man who is not lazy.
She looks at your body and face.
She watches your eating manners.
She wants to be amused and wants you to keep her laughing.
She has to know that she is the only one you will ever want.
Also wants to know if you can be serious about serious matters.
If you have a spiritual side since you might bring up her children.
Will you respect and get along with her family?
There are so many things that she has to mentally check off...that sometimes just one will make her stop seeing you.
My daughter would not date anyone that ate with his mouth open.
I wouldn't date a man who blew his nose in public.
Some women want a soft spoken man..others a boisterous guy....so I am sorry you didn't make the cut but she has moved on...
It would be better if you took a long look in the mirror and made a list of things to work on. Also ask others if you have any irritating qualities.
2006-10-30 01:21:30 · answer #2 · answered by debbie2243 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't change a girl's mind you can only changer her emotions.
Part of the problem is that you didn't make your intentions clear to her and she gave up on you. You are probably going to be stuck in the "friend zone" from now on.
But if you are interested in getting her back, you should try being fun around her. Don't be mopey or angry or mean. Be funny and charming. If she realises that she has lots of fun around you then she might decide to come back to you.
2006-10-30 01:08:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show to her what you can Do that you can be A sweet loyal and understanding boyfriend if she accepted you but she didnt then show that to her and show to her that you werent affected by what she did you can live with out her and get better grades than her be more than what you were before she rejected you lose some weight get some toned abdominal muscle and biceps
2016-02-02 01:36:38 · answer #4 · answered by jesson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don`t` ever prove a girl that does not care about you , that she is wrong , life hurts but you know whats good about life? it keeps on going on, and you have options in life, so be the gentleman you are and move on with your life ,there is plenty of fish in the sea.
2006-10-30 01:16:49 · answer #5 · answered by zenny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has made a mistake by choosing the other guy over you, YOU won't have to do a single thing...she will see it all by herself. But DO be there if and when she falls
2006-10-30 01:09:42 · answer #6 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jebus boys like you give males a bad name. Grow up and leave this girl alone.
2006-10-30 01:22:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
nothing you can do man. let her know how you feel but after that just leave it alone and let her make up her mind. good luck though.
2006-10-30 01:11:55 · answer #8 · answered by lildeezy37 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me... if you could move a mountain... it wouldn't matter one bit... As tough as it is, bite the bullet and move on...
2006-10-30 01:10:31 · answer #9 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone else and both be very happy
2006-10-30 01:11:35 · answer #10 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋