I like kids and always get along with them. But to a couple they end up stopping doing anything, or taking risks. Why don't they want to be more adventurous?
2006-10-30 00:49:06 · 38 answers · asked by Bob M 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Because they have kids, they are growing up, you might want to try it, only if you are up to it.
2006-11-01 01:37:54 · answer #1 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because having children mean you now have responsibilities & unfortunately grow up! I have 3 children, a 2 yr old daughter & 10 month old twins & yes I am boring, but not because I want to be. I'm always tired, children are hard work, even having just one child is hard. Also it's not always easy to find a babysitter so if there's no sitter that means no nights out! As for taking risks I'm not sure what kind of risks you're on about so can't comment on that, I will say though that I'm a much safer driver now I have children! When you have children you'll understand!
2006-10-30 01:03:34 · answer #2 · answered by C Greene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a sort of an answer. Humanity follows the same pattern as our bodies do. When we are Young, we are full of energy and spirit and we are adventurous. As we mature, we become less adventurous and we slow down our mad dash through life. Middle age sees us producing more cells than the ones that die so our bodies become larger and slower and we have less energy. Old Age sees many changes. More and more cells are born and due do a lack of energy our bodies sag and our skin starts to droop. Instead of being enervating we become boring.
That is what has happened to Society. We as humans have deteriorated into a society with no life goal, and Chaos is the ultimate result until Society dies.
We are in the old age bracket at this time and all the talk and Hype in the world cannot change the normal cycle of Birth and Death. We should be grateful that we do not live forever. That would be really boring.
Jaread
2006-10-31 03:03:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not that the people who have children become boring, raising a child takes up all of your time, especially if babysitters or family members aren't around. I'm sure your friends with kids would love to be able to hang out. Taking risks is different. As a parent, I wouldn't want to do anything stupid to jeopardize my life because I want to live and be there for my children. Having a child really makes you feel older sometimes too- you have repsonsibilities, and number one priority is your child. You'll see when you have children.
2006-10-30 01:23:06 · answer #4 · answered by m930 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having children can be the grandest adventure ever known. To those of us looking in, other people's children are not nearly as engrossing to us as they are to the parents. Understand, they are having adventure--it's just not the kind of adventure they had before.
Encourage them to join in with events you and your mutual friends are doing. If the event is "too risky" tone it down a notch so they'll feel comfortable joining in. Suggest everyone pitch in to hire a sitter and go out for an evening. Make it a monthly or bi-monthly event. It could be that they are so caught up in "life with kids" that they've forgotten about how much they used to enjoy other things. I imagine that once they remember that they are more than just parents--they are people; they might actually begin taking the initiative for themselves.
2006-10-30 03:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids take up a lot of time and your friends don't have time to come on your adventures any more.
Just like you don't want to sit in the wacky warehouse while the kids play.
Trust me you have to be a parent or still have a very young heart to enjoy watching the kids run around a ball pool.
2006-10-30 00:58:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They haven't become more boring, but their lives have moved on and they have a new focus.
It becomes much more difficult to 'do' things, especially if you want to be child-free. I bet they also feel like responsible grown-ups now (apparently it happens to us all at some point), and don't feel in a position to take risks anymore.
Are you planning on having kids? I think that is the time when I really started to understand this phenomenon!
2006-10-30 18:38:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they have other things on their minds. Sometimes things change when you have a child. It isn't about you anymore, it is about your child and taking risks that could be dangerous are irresponsible. Afterall, they have someone who depends on theme completely for everything. Parent's need to be the grownups and realize that what they do, effects their kids.
Now if they just don't go out anymore, or don't want to go to a party or whatever. Then perhaps they just feel that they cannot connect with their friends anymore. I know that happens a lot too. I know when I had my kids, I didn't hang out with my friends much anymore. They were into going out and getting drunk and I wasn't into that.
2006-10-30 03:27:45 · answer #8 · answered by totsandtwins04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because when you have kids life stops being just about YOU and becomes about another life who you are now responsible for. You care about someone else and want to put them first. They haven't stopped doing everything, now they are doing something different like spending time with their kids and going where their kids would like to go. Plus the special bond between 2 people when you have a child gets stronger, because you created this awesome little one together, and you want to spend more time together to enjoy your creation. You don't want to take as many risks because if something happened to you, who would take care of the child? You become less selfish, less about you and more about your child. Before kids life is all about YOU, after kids it's about THEM. They are having as much fun as before, just a different kind of fun. I can't stand to see people have kids, then pawn them off on others so they can still go out as before and act like they have no kids.
2006-10-30 00:56:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have less in common with your friends now. To them children are exciting and adventurous. However, you will never experience this until you have children yourself. Hold on to them though as if you do have kids in the future your single friends may feel the same about you.
2006-10-30 00:59:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually once you got family, things will change especially if you got kids. They need your attention all the time, that sometimes you don't have time for yourself anymore. Your friends haven't been boring they are just too busy to do stuff for theirself, in fact they are doing more adventure than what you think. Looking up your family is already a big adventure in your life. you'l get this as well once you have your own too.
2006-10-30 00:56:27 · answer #11 · answered by Simply_Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋