I read a lot on this site about women saying where have all the decent men gone, or has romanced or chivalry died. Well I’m a decent guy but get passed over coz I am a large guy.
I’m in my early thirties, tall and quite a large guy, but well proportioned for my height. I live in the Midlands and would love to meet someone.
I’m kind, caring, romantic, trusting, honest and passionate. I love to treat a woman like a woman, with respect and love. I long to be that special someone.
I like pubs, clubs, restaurants, concerts, shopping, romantic walks and weekends away. Basically I enjoy most things.
But coz I am a well built guy I just seem to get passed by, I’ve got so much love to give someone.
Am I right when saying its my size? Any advice would be appreciated.
2006-10-30 00:43:11 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should look for love on a dating site not yahoo answers.
2006-10-30 01:00:00 · answer #1 · answered by Goofy Goofer Goof Goof Goof ! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of women want a man who is "perfect". Perfect attitude, perfect body, perfect income, etc. But what a lot of them don't realize is that "perfect" doesn't exist. They let a lot of great men pass by while looking for a Prince Charming that just doesn't exist.
Women often complain that men are shallow, and a lot of times, they are. Women with obvious flaws gets passed over constantly for an outwardly beautiful woman with the personality of a squid. It's sad and a bit of a relief all at the same time to see that women can be just as shallow as men.
You sound like a great guy that any woman would be lucky to have. Just make sure that you're not doing the same thing that women do to you. Most of the "classic beauties" that you will meet are shallow and don't care about how a man treats them, as long as he's outwardly handsome. What I'm trying to say is, make certain you don't pass over ladies that have a few flaws themselves, like being a little (or a lot!) overweight, having bad skin or crooked teeth.
Other than that, just continue to be your normal self. Some lucky lady will soon see what a diamond in the rough you are. And for the one's that don't? Don't pay them any mind. As a good friend once told me, "There are lots of people who care for you. And those that don't, don't deserve to."
2006-10-30 00:59:29 · answer #2 · answered by Avie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, nice guys don't go around looking to get laid so why say (we do but then get dumped). You probably get dumped because you are so narrow minded, i mean you must be thinking that about women - Someone said that above... 2nd answer :(
It doesn't sound like you have a problem, I doubt it's your size. Maybe you are just unlucky in love and not met the right person yet. Have you tried just making some new friends, going out socialising with all your mates. I find that is the most usual way of meeting someone who you can get to know a bit more and take a relationship further. You seem to have a good personality, somebody will notice that in the future, you'll see :)
2006-10-30 00:59:20 · answer #3 · answered by phobzy85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there, you sound a super guy who has not yet been fortunate enough to meet the girl.
Have you thought about joining a dating agency? You could meet a like minded person who is not too bothered about a person being large.
However, I will say that in this very shallow world we live in size can matter as do cloths and style. Just maybe you need to spend sometime on your outward appearance. New wardrobe, hair style, and a weekly visit to the gym. This will boost you self confidence and make you feel good about yourself inside.
Above all do you have a sense of humour. you can scale the insurmountable with a slice of humour.
Good luck and best wishes.
2006-10-30 00:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sod the "its not your size" thats what nice girls think they are supposed to say, looks always come first, don't care who says what, size does matter. You just need to meet the right kind of person, myself I couldn't give a monkeys how big a guy is, I wouldn't look 2x at someone who was little and skinny though, don't know why I just wouldn't !! you sound like a nice guy, get out and meet people, avoid the pub, you'll never meet the right person in a pub. Check out local community centers and library's for classes etc, you'll meet someone and I hope your very happy when you do.
2006-10-30 01:01:01 · answer #5 · answered by Jovi Freak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound lacking in confidence from your message! Could that be why you are not getting someone? Maybe you are worried about your size and that feeling comes out when you talk to women? Not everyone likes sticks or guys with huge muscles! It works both ways - I am sure some women will find a bigger guy attractive. So I suspect that it is not so much your size but perhaps the way you come across....
Good luck
2006-10-30 00:50:12 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's because your interests and hobbies are boring and unimaginative. This "pubs, clubs, restaurants, concerts, shopping, romantic walks and weekends away" business is a cliche, and suggests that you don't have a brain of your own.
And liking shopping? OMG. No man enjoys shopping. To me that stinks of 'I like what I think women want to hear.'
Maybe get a decent hobby or interest and then perhaps your conversation will become a lot more interesting. More people would be interested in you if you were actually interesting.
2006-10-30 00:49:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please take no offense! I have dated big men before and there was a time big men attracted me but my husband is my size 6. Most of the men I have dated were not big men. There are things to consider #1 is most important - health problems - health problems is a fact with big persons. Why fall in love with someone who will have serious helth issues and whom are at high risk for heart attacts and life threatening conditions?! Most big men are teddy bear cuddeliy type and are very gental but to some women who have been mistreated think he's "too" big and could hurt me double.The "too" word comes in b/c they fear your temperment and would rather not find out your strength physically even though you may never really actually lay a finger on them it is more phycological then anything but a big problem for some women. Some women think that big men are spoiled, have no self control and have very little respect for themselves.
The best thing I can sugess is that you walk one mile per day. After the first two weeks weeks walk two miles per day, limit the colories and watch your sweets, eat nothing past 7:00 P.M. if you have to be sure that it is something like a fruit or vegitable.
One other thing, do you know what kind of gal you want in your life? God will not give you something if you haven't asked for it, how is he to know you want soemthing or someone without you asking? and how can he give you soemthing that you are not sure of, like what type of gal you'd like in your life, there are too many of them out there to throw a bunch of them at you. He is not sure what you would like. Know what you want in a women do not leave any details out and ask for it.!
Good luck!
2006-10-30 01:34:00 · answer #8 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just read tartans answer (the second one) and he seems quite right... i can't understand it... and i am being honest... all of us males included judge a person within the first 5 secs of meeting them so size will play a vital role, but there are many women out there who do want the kind of love u are offering and i know one day i will wake up and wonder why i never gave the good guy a chance.... try dating agency or go to local pubs or groups to meet people on a regular basis, u have to spend time with people for them see u for who u r are on the inside...good luck
2006-10-30 00:57:47 · answer #9 · answered by thenickistar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi..not right in saying it's your size. The truthful question would be.."Have you advertised openly the wonderful traits you say you possess?"If you have..that's why.We don't often trust the open and in a weird kinda way like the challenge of a bit of a "badboy".We like the surprise of being treated like a lady. In this day in time, it's not something we expect..it's what we earn.Don't share to soon and don't feed into to much.Get over the "big"thing.It's not so important.
2006-10-30 00:57:19 · answer #10 · answered by jen_n_tn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be more because you seem too needy. Why post so much about yourself on a yahoo answers question?
And maybe if you spelled out words like because it would look more intelligent.
But more importantly, I think there are a lot of woman who are into bigger guys. Just be yourself. I highly doubt you enjoy most things. What about shopping for shoes? Or birdwatching? Be honest, be yourself and don't post an ad for love here.
2006-10-30 00:47:51 · answer #11 · answered by Mrs. D 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋