i was in a relationship with a guy , with whom i was madly in love. then we broke up. n i took 3 years to START to move on from him. n then i started liking a friend of mine , whom i met on internet while chatting. v live in 2 different countries. i fell for him.. n i love him from the past few months. he is like the perfect guy ever. but obviously long distance relationships hardly work out. moreover, i cant bind him down. n he has expressed the same fears that what if in the end ,he is not able 2 commit 2 me , after making me wait for so many years. im 17 n he is 18 years old. now i have no hope. i just don. want to like some other guy. i have these terrible periods of loneliness. all this psychological drainage has caused me breathing problems. i just like this guy very much but it is just not possible. n i just feel helpless and hopeless all the time. im not even able to study. i have tried to divert my mind. but till wen can 1 keep studying or listening 2 music or painting. help.
2006-10-30 00:40:33 · 15 answers · asked by a_caring_girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are 18. Don't get to caught up in a relationship or over 1 (or 2) guys. You are looking for acceptance and love from a guy, but haven't accepted and gained confidence yourself.
2006-10-30 00:46:19 · answer #1 · answered by RS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it took you 3 years to get over the last one, then you must have been 14 when you broke up with guy #1.
That tells me you are not ready to be in a relationship with anyone. You fall in love too easy and expect to marry the first guy you meet. You also may have stalker and/or suicidal tendencies.
For the next 2-3 years, do not have a relationship with anyone. Just have girl and guy friends. Discover yourself, what you want out of life careerwise and what type of guy you want in your life (not just the first one that comes along). Whatever you do, don't sleep with anyone because you are the type that it would drive you crazy.
I know this is a little way too personal, but this is not normal for you to act this way over a preteen romance and then over a guy you never met. You may have it going on in alot of your life aspects, but you are too relationship naive to date (it could be dangerous for you!)
2006-10-30 09:05:24 · answer #2 · answered by tbonz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That feeling i feel it some time but i try to forget about it as much i can and i know that i can't forget it just like that also i try to live my live like nothing happened i spent all the time in front of the TV and PlayStation i don't study i just do my home work and study for the exam and that's it. i always hold i hope that tomorrow will be better that today and i thank god that i have my Friend which give me hope all the time :)
2006-10-30 08:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by Mysterious_Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The World does not end at age 17 or 18. There is a whole world for you to explore. Get up, study, and reach your dreams! When you've finslly done it all, the person who is there to love you inspite of everything will be the one. it may not be a perfect love- but it would be Real.
2006-10-30 08:46:44 · answer #4 · answered by Smile2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You certainly can't believe that you can fall in love with someone without ever seeing them or meeting them can you???? At your age you sure don't need to be in any kind of long distance relationship with a guy from a different country...You need to meet new friends where you are and forget him....
2006-10-30 08:45:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try gather round yourself a good group of friends. Maybe go to church, join a cell group. Do something together with people.
You cannot fight loneliness alone. You need good friends not boy friends now. Soon you will find yourself and your selfworth. You will also find true love.
2006-10-30 08:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by Robin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Caring Girl,
Please don't allow someone else to control your happiness.
You must find in your heart what makes you happy,but not in a person. Now I'm not saying love won't come but true love finds you, You are young and it sound's like you looking for something to make you happy,but you have to find what your looking for in yourself. Be happy with yourself,when you can make yourself happy you won't need someone in your life to make it complete.
Then love will find you.
I hope this helps.
2006-10-30 08:56:00 · answer #7 · answered by kdinkins46 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
such thoughts shud not nag u as u r quite young to settle down in marriage. U shud concentrate on ur education and career.
2006-10-30 08:44:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to meet other people, make new friends you never know what the wind will bring you.
just don't worry so much about it.
you should get out and have fun.
2006-10-30 08:49:15 · answer #9 · answered by Spook 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh give me a break,,chances are he cant come to this country
ur young waisting ur time when u should be out in are public meeting real people
2006-10-30 08:44:47 · answer #10 · answered by native,pride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋