She is having financial difficulties. We do not live in the same state. I have not asked her so don't know if she would even consider. She would have her own room and would not have to pay any rent. I am financially stable so don't need help with my rent. She is 43 and I am 57. She also has a teenage daughter that would have to be taken into consideration. I also have room for her. I just wanted some comments before I asked her.
2006-10-30 00:37:04 · 14 answers · asked by douglas50_1999 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No I think it could help both of you. Good luck
2006-10-30 00:38:44 · answer #1 · answered by elainecynthia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the best thing for you, you know what you want and you are the only one that knows the true sutuation of things going on around you. Ordinarily, there is nothing bad in asking the daughter of your deceased wife's sister to move in with you to help her. Just make her realize your aim and try to hear from her too. Do not deceive her, but be open to her and am sure she will understand. You might not realize that the decision you are about to take is the best, untill the deed is done . Go ahead dear.
2006-10-30 08:55:56 · answer #2 · answered by folake 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be a kind & thoughful thing to do, but I am holding back my full approval (not that you need it) because you didn't elaborate on how she got into financial trouble in the 1rst place.
By the age of 43 you would expect a person to learn to be be responsible with finances. If she hasn't yet, you can bet that your intended HAND UP will be quickly turned into numerous HAND OUTS.
2006-10-30 08:46:26 · answer #3 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a very sweet and caring man to even consider doing something like this. I think you should ask her ASAP!!!! There is no telling what she's going through, and you could be the blessing she needs right now. This is an offer that i'm sure she would be very grateful for. Your a good man, and good things will come to you for good deeds such as this. Take care!!!
2006-10-30 09:06:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your niece by marriage, correct? I see no problems with helping a family member out. As long as it's for the right reasons, then there shouldn't be an issue. I'm assuming that you aren't attracted to her in any way? Because that would be wrong.
One question I have though; why isn't her own mother helping her out?
2006-10-30 08:45:59 · answer #5 · answered by Shayna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how close you were to her before your wife's death. Also depends how close you are to her mother.
It's a situation which could be construed by some people as dubious - you asking a single woman with a teenager daughter to move in wtih you. You would have to ensure her that your intentions are good, and ensure that her family would be comfortable and ok with it.
2006-10-30 08:39:59 · answer #6 · answered by Strange1am 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a nice thought.ask her,and the daughter,you should ask for food.and maybe $ 50;00 a month from them.because this way when the daughter goes to move out you can give back the money in a gift card from wal-mart for special items she would need..
2006-10-30 08:45:03 · answer #7 · answered by tysgrandma99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be OK,,,but I would be very careful to set some guidelines before doing this....There is also the aspect of clashes with the teenage daughter....This could be a very sticky situation if you know what I mean???
2006-10-30 08:41:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a really nice gesture considering she is having finance problems. i would say it's ok as long as you have a long talk about them moving in. maybe set some boundries. really nice of you to pay rent just make sure they don't end up taking advantage of you.
2006-10-30 08:41:03 · answer #9 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you state it the same way that you have here. I dont thinhk it would be proper if it were becasue you were attraced to her at all...but your reason sound totally legit, and benificial to both of you. I'd say it cant hurt to ask!
2006-10-30 08:40:01 · answer #10 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have nothing but the best intentions. I think your wife would want you to help her niece.
2006-10-30 08:40:57 · answer #11 · answered by Cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋