Am inlove with dis guy,but he doesn't kno and i can't tell him.
He is a white and am black.And i think there can neva be anything between us.I don't even kno if he can ever fall inlove with a black chick.Am afraid dat,if i confront him,he might turn me down.But ma heart is aching so badly for him.
WHAT SHOULD I DO??
2006-10-30 00:20:42 · 15 answers · asked by qn beda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dw, i know how you feel, im white and my bf is black, it took EVERYONE in our year for him to ask me out, the truth is, ive liked him since year 2 (we are now in yr9) and he's felt the same! Why should the colour of your skin make your life different to others, he's just the same as you, and if he says no, then dw bout him, he isnt good enough for you, i no rejection is hard, no one likes it, but it's something we have to put up with, it just makes you stronger and it'll ease your heartache to know if he does or doesnt feel the same, so suck in your doubts, and go for it!
hope this helps, tnt_bbe :) x0x
2006-10-30 00:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by tnt_bbe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know this guy much? I think the best thing to do in your situation, is get to know him as friends if you haven't already. Ask him out for a coffee and chat. Or when you see him, ask him how his week/weekend has been and what he's been up to. If he's not interested in chatting to you or going out as friends, then sadly you need to forget about him and move on. I know it's hard because I've been there myself and it feels like you're heart is being ripped out. Try meeting, chatting and getting to know other people. Your heart will mend eventually. If you already know this guy as friends, then invite him somewhere for dinner and see how he responds. If he turns you down, you could always laugh and say "it's only dinner"....make light of the situation. But if he accepts your dinner invitation, then you at least know that you have a chance. Let him see your true personality and what you have to offer. If he does turn you down, then just remember that it's his loss for denying himself the chance to get to know you and you'll find someone alot better than he is. There is also nothing wrong with mixed relationships. I know quite a few couples that one is black and the partner is white and they are so much in love! Good luck!
2006-10-30 00:36:16 · answer #2 · answered by shellpower67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be silly- this is the 21st century!! What does black or white matter?? Im a white girl and my gorgeous man is black and i think he's sexier than any white guy iv been with!! i've been there though its horribal when u want someone sooo much... i say just tell him, if u dont ask you wont get so technically you have nothing to loose!! ; )
Put yourself out of your misery hunny x
2006-10-30 00:24:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There many friends and couples who are white and black. Why do you think that there can never be anything between you and him. People in the west do not differentiate on colour and caste in the case of love and marriage. I have learnt them to be giving importance to other qualities than colour. Express yourself and open your aching heart for him to see, he may be yours then. Otherwise you will not be living on imaginary love.
2006-10-30 00:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by khayum p 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you tell him? Why are you assuming he wouldn't like you or any 'black chick' for that matter? I'd give it a go, the worst that can happen is he'll turn you down, and you'll be without him, just like you are now. So go for it!
2006-10-30 00:27:20 · answer #5 · answered by misskenjr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there are prob. ways to let him know you like him without saying it as such, if that doesn't work after a week or few weeks then speak to him directly, best to develop a friendship but confrontation? what do you mean?
(I'm sure he's not a racist pig)
2006-10-30 00:25:34 · answer #6 · answered by Dan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey.. i can understand you...
I can tell you what I am doing... see if u get any help from it.
I know I can never get my girl.. so what .. i love her so much.. thinking about her makes me happy.. for companionship, there can be many.. but no one can replace her in my heart. She remains forever, and I will smile so that she should not get hurt because of my grin...
tell him that you love him, and accept whatever he throws at you.. and keep loving him.. be sure that you live your life also.. love is a feeling.. a chapter in our life book.. not everything.
2006-10-30 00:25:59 · answer #7 · answered by Ramses-the son of light 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's happen...sumtimes white boy ever fallin with black girl...why not...love is blind u know...as long as u being a good girl..and nice to him...then there is a chance to him to fallin love with u...
u should make him attractive with u....
and ifhe seems not really like u...just tryin to looking for other ppl...before it makes ur heart hurt more....love urself gurl...
2006-10-30 00:25:19 · answer #8 · answered by ^Daphne^ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to him and tell him how you feel. if he turns you down because your black, to hell with him, your too good for him anyway.
2006-10-30 00:25:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him how you feel, if it doesn't work out at least you will know and try to move on
2006-10-30 00:23:43 · answer #10 · answered by Lil mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋