and I believe I'm entirely guilty for the two of us splitting up (I lived with a complete @sshole before we were together, then left to be with this guy but not long after that returned to the first guy - big mistake, & now it's worse than ever...) Anyway my ex wanted to know why I split up with him and I thought we could talk face to face and I could take him out to lunch on his birthday. Do you think it's a good idea or shall I just forget it? Pro's and contras..? Thanks
2006-10-29 23:59:05 · 8 answers · asked by little_friend 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you take him out for lunch on his birthday, he will probably see that as a positive sign ie. that you're going to get back together. If that isn't going to happen and you're going to hurt him more, have a heart and don't do it on his birthday.
Give it a few days and then meet up for lunch and a coffee and talk everything through but let him have his birthday without having to think about what went on between you two.
2006-10-30 00:02:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Defiantly meet up but be careful, you've already left him to go back to an ex, are you not just keeping your options open by being able to flip between the two?
I wouldn't go on his birthday incase it goes sour its not fair on him - call him to say happy birthday and go out at a later time.
If you just want to get back in touch as the guy your with now is being an @sshole again it's not fair on him.
If you genuinely want to be friends and not use him as an escape route go for it. If not get out of the relationship you're in now and start seeing other people and let him (the one you left) get on with his life
2006-10-30 00:12:00 · answer #2 · answered by cute_lovable_darling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/t3P0k
Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-25 06:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tricky situation, to spare this blokes feelings, and if you are definately not wanting to be with him i would leave it alone. The whole meeting thing might just stir up those feelings you and he both had and then where would that leave you. on the other hand if you do want to be with him dump the @sshole, stay free for a while, then try again with him.
2006-10-30 00:08:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably knows you have made a mistake and that you are unhappy with your current fella and feels it would be nice to see each other and may be see how it goes from there.
Either that or he's hoping for a birthday shag!
2006-10-30 00:21:18 · answer #5 · answered by Bluebird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont tell him it was for another person, its a guy's pride thing
even if he still loves u, he will hate u for that.
just tell him u thought u both were not good for eachother blablabla, u can of some stuff to say
honesty is good, but when u're hurting someone u care for, its not such a good idea.
u dont wanna hurt him, u dont need more guilt, u already feel guilty
goodluck
2006-10-30 00:09:28 · answer #6 · answered by Yasmine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he still loves you it might make his birthday if you spend a nice day together...If you have no intensions of getting back with him let him know.. dont lead him down a blind ally.
2006-10-30 00:05:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
great idea, go for it.
2006-10-30 00:01:48 · answer #8 · answered by don't stop the music ♪ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋