Alright this might sound a little wierd to you guys but I am at the end of my ropes here, I try to please my man in bed anyway I can. mainly cause I don't want him going anywhere else to get what he wants. Well the thing that he likes the most is doing me anally. At first I thought it would be like a one time thing but now thats all he ever wants to do I get no pleasure obviously but he gets so mad at me if I don't let him. If we have a session where he tried to do me his way and I didn't want it that night afterwards he will just treat me like crap. Am I wrong for wanted a little bit of pleasure on my end without feeling guilty about it?
2006-10-29 23:54:56 · 23 answers · asked by Kristy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should never do anything in bed that you get absolutely no pleasure from. That is not what sex is about. Your man is selfish and totally inconsiderate of you and your needs and desires. I say let him go get what he needs elsewhere. You don't need this kind of crap.
2006-10-29 23:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to come right out and say he's a jerk. Obviously inconsiderate and selfish.
Having sex, making love can be such a beautiful thing providing that there's respect and understanding to what each other likes.
He should respect your decision when you do not feel like having anal sex.
He obviously has other goals than building a stable relationship with you.
Any man that gets angry or treat a woman wrongly for refusing a sexual position by me is not a real man.
I personally would feel insulted and find something wrong with him.
Personally I've never gone all the way with anal sex because it's something that I don't like the idea and I just get the feeling of it being not hygienic.
You are not wrong for wanting pleasure. It's normal that a woman wants to feel good as much as the man.
My husband and ex boyfriends has always put my needs first in bed. I find that my man wants to please me the best way he knows how and at the same time I would do the same.
I would seriously think about this relationship and ask yourself if its healthy.
Good luck
2006-10-30 00:16:41 · answer #2 · answered by uma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not wrong at all for feeling the way that you do. Try and make it clear with your mate how you are feeling and that you want something more. If he really loves you than he will take your feelings about this issue and try his best to resolve it. Also if your going to give it to him as a treat than maybe you should find some ways where you may get pleasure out of it. I am a consultant and I sell things for the bedroom. Try looking into book for different positions and there is also a numbing cream. A thick lube works wonders. I hope you guys can work this out.
2006-10-30 00:02:00 · answer #3 · answered by Cumback 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No woman should be forced to do something in bed that she does not want to do. You're very kind to your man but hey girl you have needs too!!! It he wasn't so selfish he would have felt it!! Talk to your guy. you may think it's a small problem, but small problems are what ruin a relationship. If he treats you like crap just because you didn't give him what he wanted in bed, your guy has serious problems!! Maybe he's only after sex! Don't let him control that aspect of your life. Talk to him and try to make him understand that love and sex are two-way processes. If he learns to pleasure you, it would result to a double pleasure for the both of you in the end. Goodluck..= )
2006-10-30 00:06:55 · answer #4 · answered by Smile2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It really saddens me to think that there are girlz out there who still allow men to treat them like that! Believe it or not your problem is not weird, but it is less common these days. We all want to please our men so they think we're the best thing that ever happened to them and that they don't go anywhere else. That's completely normal, but what is not normal is compromising on what you enjoy and what makes you happy. I don't think that you should do anything you don't feel comfortable doing or don't like. I hate to say this, but i feel like this guy doesn't love or respect you. He thinks this relationship revolves around him and you are to blame for that, because a person will do to what you let them do. Do you really think that if you do what you want you should be made to feel guilty or treated like "crap" as you put it. You need to ask yoursef: Are you happy? Is this worth it and Why are you settling for anything lees than you deserve. I'm sure you'll find the answer within.
2006-10-30 00:15:19 · answer #5 · answered by ugcobo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not how it's supposed to work. He should feel lucky when you will do it, and not be mean just because he can't get it.
The problem is, when a guy likes something so much, he just wants it and won't think how much he is hurting anyone else. It's very immature. If you do something for him, he should do something for you- you guys should switch off one night him the next night you, or you pleasure him and then he you in the same night.
Jerk.
2006-10-30 00:00:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is about pleasure for both of you. There's nothing wrong with letting him do his thing if you get your thing, too, you know? Make a compromise. Anal for whatever you want, or no more for him.
2006-10-29 23:59:32 · answer #7 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds selfish. Do you want to be with a selfish person once all his body parts start drooping and he can't eat food properly? My guess is you wouldn't.. So move on.
Try a girl like me!!! I promise to make you feel special :)
2006-10-30 00:12:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't be feeling guilty at all. sex is not for one person's satisfaction only. don't let him treat you that way. there are certain times when you have to give in to be able to please him but not to a point where you have to give in to his every whim even if it makes you feel like crap. speak up. you're not a #@!(%&*# doll. if he wanted to get his way all the time, tell him to go buy himself one. this guy doesn't deserve you. if you don't wanna do what he wants and he makes you feel like crap, to hell with him.
2006-10-30 00:17:45 · answer #9 · answered by sheilanmanny12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this is more of a control thing than sex. You have a right to enjoy it too. Why don't you use a dildo on him too and see how he likes it?
2006-10-30 02:25:17 · answer #10 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋