I was wandering, should I feel like I owe my mom all the time? I have to pay her ten dollars a day to watch her grandchild. She always ask me for money all the time and I continue to give it to her. I don't live with her and she makes more money than I do. Also, how do I tell her that I usually have to let my bills go to help her with money. I can't afford to let the electricity get cut off my daughter is only 19 months old.
2006-10-29 23:51:20 · 18 answers · asked by shelly871985 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I do take my child to daycare Monday thru Thursday. They are closed on Friday. So that is why I have to have someone to watch my daughter on Friday. I pay the daycare also $10 a day. That is why she thought it would be fair to give her $10 a day.
2006-10-31 23:57:30 · update #1
My mother works, but is off on Friday, Saturday, and Sunday
2006-10-31 23:59:04 · update #2
I think you need to sit down with her and tell her that your assisting her financially is cause hardship on your end. I am agreeable to paying something for her watching your child, afterall she has done her child rearing, and she probably feels that she has done her duty and now she is being left with the responsibility to raising your child. However, the only way you will be able to work this out with her is to let her know that you can't pay your own bills because of this money you have been giving her and perhaps she will cut you some slack until you are better able to afford this $10 a day.
2006-10-29 23:58:34 · answer #1 · answered by ne_patriots2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to break this to you sweetie, but $10.00 a day is as good as your going to get for someone to watch your child all day long. You should be glad you have it this cheap, and you should also be glad your mother is even offering to watch your child during the day. Just because she's the grandmother doesn't mean that she owes you a favor by watching your child for free. She has already raised you, and she doesn't have babies anymore. She is under no obligation to do anything she doesn't want to do. It's time for her to live her life and do what she wants to if that's her choice. I think you should stop complaining about this and be grateful because things could be a lot worse for you. If you take your child to a regular daycare, their going to charge you a lot more then what your paying your mother. If you have bills that you can't pay then you have to get out there and work two jobs or do what you have to do to either make extra money or cutting back on some other expenses. Either way you have to make this work for you one way or the other. It's hard out there, but that's part of being an adult and taking on responsibility.
2006-10-30 00:39:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children don't 'owe' their parents anything. Children didn't ask to be brought into this world. I am always peeved at parents who think that they should be repaid by their kids.
However, I do think that paying your mom to babysit for you is the thing you should do. Childcare can be expensive nowadays, unless you find a friend who is willing to do it for you for less money (I did it for a friend of mine, because my husband and I didn't really need the money). I don't understand, though, why she needs to ask you for money if she makes more than you do? How is that even possible if she's babysitting your daughter?
You need to tell your mom that you cannot afford to give her all the extra money, but you do appreciate what she's doing and will continue to pay her $10/day to babysit. If you don't, you'll soon find that it costs much more than that to send your daughter to daycare (not to mention how frequently children at daycare tend to get sick).
One more point though; do you and your mom have a close relationship? If you do, this shouldn't be a problem for you. If you don't, I would suggest you find someone else to take care of your daughter anyways. I know of mothers who I wouldn't let near my children.
Whatever you decide to do, I wish you the best, and good luck.
2006-10-30 00:52:28 · answer #3 · answered by Shayna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her whats going on with you financially. Tell her how grateful you are that she watches your children, but that you cannot give her the money everytime she asks. Show more appreciation, I know easier said then done, but it can go far! You should not feel that you owe her anything, and because you are family she might be taking advantage of you. Be a grown up and let her know.
2006-10-29 23:58:09 · answer #4 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if the mom really needs the money she should ask her kids to help her out but your mom is clearly using you. she is very selfish and uncaring about you and your child. sit her down and tell her you have a child to raise and really cant afford giving her money all the time. don't she think if you had the money to pay for child care your child would be in daycare. my mom would dare let me pay her to spend time with her grandkids.
2006-10-29 23:59:02 · answer #5 · answered by miss 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow ok now it's nice to give her some amounts every now and then like on occasions but paying for babysitting i guess isn't fair. i mean it's her grandchild, u won't take money from anyone for taking care of ur child..
i don't know buddy, i'm sorry maybe u'll have to talk about it..enough hiding
2006-10-29 23:55:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
In my points of view, every children have no obligation to give money to their parents, especially when they are earning more than we are getting. grandparents should be greatfull and blessed to take care of their grandchild, and parents must not always give this responsibility for the grandparents as well, looking after children everyday is so exausting. why not ask your mom if she is happy to help, explain to her your condition about money. I presume she is happy to listen and understand your situation. Have a heart to heart talk to her. She still your loving mom.
2006-10-30 00:21:10 · answer #7 · answered by sabrien 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i guess it should not b a fixed amount...how can u give her 10$ a day... she is not a hired worker..
i believe u should have a talk with her...fill her with daily needs after all she's ur mother. u may even spend more than 10 $ a day on her. tell her that whatever she wants u'll give it to her rather than going for this 10 $ deal !!
2006-10-30 00:05:37 · answer #8 · answered by big_daddy_cool4u 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK.... how can mom make more money than you if she watches her granddaughter everyday? and if she does don't be letting her borrow your money. you have a child and your first responsibility is her and her needs period. maybe you should find someone else to watch her although you will be paying more than ten dollars a day
2006-10-29 23:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ya how does she make more money than u??10dollars probsably just supply's the food ur daughter eats..anyway i raised 3 kids by myself..dont get me wrong i love my gd.daughter to death..i miss the heck out of them..i got tired however of my daughter always asking me to babysit for free..like i dont have a life...i needed to look for work,,but i was aLways stuck babysitting
sorry i complained to her so now she goes to the extreme and not come over to visit..geeesh what does it take to make ur generation happy??
2006-10-30 00:21:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋