Asking someone out via text message?

Question

I met a nice guy at a party on Saturday night :) I've been single since July when my boyfriend of 6 years broke my heart by telling me he no longer loved me. I feel ready to start dating again and spent the entire party chatting to this guy and we really clicked. At the end of the night (this was about 4am!) he asked me for my phone number & gave me a missed call so I have his number too. My friends say that as he was the one to ask for my number, I should be the one to make the next move and ask him for a drink/dinner/date.... Trouble is, having been out of the dating game for 6 years, I have no clue what to say to him, how to phrase it or anything!! I feel a bit stupid asking for help with this but thought I'd give it a try. All help is much appreciated :)

Ok, so I've texted him. Not to ask him out but just a light hearted text about the party and asked him about his day yesterday (he said he was going to Poole for the day with friends).... Watch this space :)

Answer 1

Ah, good for you that you're getting out there and moving on! I don't think there is any hard and fast rule for making the next move...if you feel comfortable, and like this guy, then go for it. Maybe if you feel a bit shy about coming straight out with it, and asking him out, you can just text him for a bit, and say stuff like, 'what did you do on sunday? (recovering from the 4 a.m!)' or 'what have you been up to this week?', just casual stuff, to make both of you comfortable with each other, get to know each other better. That will also give you more of an idea of how interested he is, as well, then later you could ask him out. The more comfortable you two get together, the more likely he is to ask you out, as well, which then takes the pressure off you!! Bonus! At the end of the day, just enjoy it, there are so many interesting people out there, and you're bound to find the right one for you someday, even if it's not this guy. So just have fun! And good luck!

Answer 2

Your friends are right! He is obviously interested in you otherwise he wouldn't have asked for your phone number and spent all night at the party talking to you. He also obviously tried to ring you because you said you had a missed call from him. If you feel like you can't ring him, send him a text message and just tell him that you enjoyed getting to know him at the party etc., then you can say something like "we should catch up again" and see if he responds and take it from there. Maybe sugest to meet up for a coffee or something.

Answer 3

Don't text him to ask him out, you should call. And all you need to say is that you had a great time at the party the other night and want to know if he would like to get together this weekend for drinks or dinner? I know that you are nervous now, and that it seems easier to text b/c u don't have to talk to him, but that is so impersonal, better off calling him.

Answer 4

I think it's better to ring to be honest. It's difficult to make arrangements via text message because you have to work out what day you're both free, what you want to do, where you want to go, where you want to meet, etc. It's just easier to ring! He wouldn't have asked for your number if he didn't like you, so just take a deep breath and make that call!! Just say you really enjoyed chatting to him the other night, and you were wondering if he'd like to meet up again some time. What's the worse that could happen!?

Answer 5

Text him asking if he'd like to meet you for a coffee somewhere like Starbucks. I've just discovered that it's quite a popular first date destination! Also because a coffee is more casual than "going out for a drink" in a pub if it doesn't work out then you don't feel as awkward afterwards.

Answer 6

I would start by sending him a txt like 'hi its jellytot, how are you today, im just starting to get over the hangover! Good party tho, thanx for a good time, hope to see you again soon' this would then put the ball into his court to ask you out - but in a way you are making the first move.
Good luck - hope it goes well for you

Answer 7

Text message isn't good idea, it doesn't seem like you are that interested, try and pluck up the courage to call him, even if it is just leaving a message on his voicemail. Before you call, write down everything you want to say, like times, dates places. This will help you not to miss any important details out and make sure you know what you are saying. If worst comes to worst and you just can't face talking (I know how you feel, I suck at making phonecalls!) then text should be your last resort! If its just asking him whether he wants to meet up, not proposing to him, its not really that bad. I'm guessing that you two aren't amazingly close yet, so a text isn't really that bad. But try talking first!
Hope it all goes well
xXx

Answer 8

don't text him. it will give him a chance to think of a response. call him. say hi, ask how he is. then just get straight to the point. would you like to go out for a drink on friday? or whatever day you prefer. if he says no because he's busy, then just say ok. don't sound pathetic, just relax and try to sound normal. then tell him you have to go. if he's interested, he'll tell you that he can go another day. if he says goodbye, then he's not interested. better luck next time.

Answer 9

Ask him to meet you for a drink, and slowly start doing more things together. Just be yourself and be natural, open up to him what you feel. Dont worry if you gbet turned down the first time, theres plenty more fish in the sea!
Guys like women being straight to the point and being forward, they are just as scared as us you know! Be the braver one and have the big kahunas to do it!
GOODLUCK!

Answer 10

Just get on with it. Text him now!!
Keep it simple, Do you fancy a drink on xxxday.

Try not to use too much txt spk - if he's been out of the dating game for 6 years he may not be up to speed on all the abbreviations.