My friend has told me that my close female friend believes that I’m dating another girl, who's quite a looker and that she’s happy for me! At the same time, she has been acting weird (feeling down,tired,can't approach other blokes) towards me, gone cold, not wanting to meet, not saying much, practically ignoring me!!!-didn't have argument/falling out. Is she feeling jealous? My behaviour towards her has not changed since I’ve ‘started dating’ this girl, only her’s towards me. A coincidence?
Does this show that she actually fancies/has feelings for me? If she’s happy for me, why is she ignoring me? Why has she not mentioned/spoken to me about this girl e.g. how’s it going, etc surely good friends would?
p.s. I’m not dating anyone, the looker is only a friend who I don’t fancy at all, have feelings for my close female friend.
What can I do? I don't want us to drift apart and don't want to lose her! Help...
2006-10-29 23:28:05 · 25 answers · asked by roadtripman90 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Her usual behaviour towards me=meet regularly, we're attracted to each other, flirt majorly (she always txts me first) txt each other practicly everyday, tell each other everything (opens up fully to me), she says that she don't fancy anyone/pulls anyone, gets jealous when I mention other girls, both single since we've met each other etc
She says that she doesn’t fancy me but her behaviour is the complete opposite.
2006-10-29 23:29:46 · update #1
What is she feeling/thinking?I don't want to get it wrong!
2006-10-29 23:34:18 · update #2
Acting only weird towards me-I know that for a fact(from friends)
2006-10-29 23:39:24 · update #3
How much time should I give her?
2006-10-29 23:47:42 · update #4
Perhaps the thought of you dating someone else has helped her clarify her feelings. Why don't you ask her out? If she still doesn't want to date you perhaps you should be prepared to lose her as a friend too. Platonic friendships are difficult and always strained when one of the friends finds a sexual partner. Must add that when I was a teenager I had a male best friend for a couple of years. I never did the sex thing with him because to be honest I just didn't fancy him physically. 15 years later though I really wish I had, as you get older you realise that getting on with someone is far more important than sex and you soon go off sex with a looker who's not your friend. I wish I'd shared my life with my friend. We're both married to other people now and only swop xmas cards. Show your friend this, it may stop her making my mistake.
2006-10-29 23:43:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's only towards you then it's most likely that she fancies you and is jealous, let her know without making it obvious what you are trying to do that you are not going out with this girl.
Maybe ask her to the cinema or something and if she brings up anything about a girlfriend act as if you never even knew she thought that, or get your friend to tell her (again not making it obvious) if she says no to going out somewhere.
2006-10-29 23:32:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she could probs be feeling jealous.
however lets not assume that straight away, she could be having a hard time with family or some other problem. does she act normal to everyone else apart from you or is she being off with everyone.
just ask her why she's being off with you, tell her you value your friendship and you don't want to lose her. DO NOT mention the 'looker' or accuse her of being jealous.
2006-10-29 23:32:59 · answer #3 · answered by don't stop the music ♪ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that she just realized that she has feelings for you and it is hurting her right now. I think you need to take the time and sit down and talk about it with her. It would be the best thing to do right now. If you guys are such good friends, then it shouldn't be a problem. Just ask her and find out what is really going on.
2006-10-29 23:33:51 · answer #4 · answered by ceecee_41004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK mate I thing you midssed the signals early on shes interested, shes trying to put on a brave face by saying shes pleased for you. At the same time she wants scratch out the other womans eyes! Talk to her tell her you like and ask her if she wants teh friendship to develop further. If shes a good mate and in love with you then you may be missing out on the lady of dreams.
2006-10-29 23:54:47 · answer #5 · answered by The Guru 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who knows. It could be that she doesnt want to play gooseberry to you and the girl she thinks is your new girlfriend and thats why she is crying off meeting with you or it could be that she has feelings for you. Why not come clean, tell your friend you are not sating the pretty girl and see where it goes from there. Go on - be brave and tell her everything. XXX
2006-10-29 23:31:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her! Tell her how you feel towards her. It sounds like
A) She is jealous or
B) She doesn't like this girl you are "friends" with, and doesn't know how to tell you that. Maybe she knows something you don't, and doesn't want too interfere in case you don't believe her.
Be honest with her. Go to her, don't let her avoid you. If you really like this gal, tell her. What have you got to loose.
2006-10-30 19:33:05 · answer #7 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You keep asking the same question on here but the only one who can answer it is your friend. Send her an email and tell her your feelings for her and that you arent seeing anyone else. Unless she's on here, your'e not going to get a solution on answers.
Good luck to you
2006-10-29 23:30:26 · answer #8 · answered by IC 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awwww she blatantly likes you! She has to do the stock response of she's happy for you as she's your friend and wants you to be happy - but she wishes it was her.
Just ask her out - if (and I'd be very surprised) she said no at least you could ask her about why she's being so cold - but i very much think she'd say yes - awwwwwwwww
2006-10-30 00:05:04 · answer #9 · answered by cute_lovable_darling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you arnt dating this other chick she obviously doesn't know. maybe the thought of loosing you dulled her spirits, ever heard the saying "you dnt know wat u have until its gone" ? well it could be like that. or maybe shes just going through a tough time at the mo, you need to take her under your wing and talk about it, maybe she feels like shes loosing you as a friend cuz guys tend to change alot when they get a girlfriend. go to her and reassure her you arnt going anywhere, girls love to hear that
hope it helps
2006-10-29 23:46:23 · answer #10 · answered by karin v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋