Hi i was wondering if anyone had suggestinons of what to do i have a 19 month old and he crys non stop if i leave him. I do daycare and am with him all the time. When i go to church and put him in the nursery he screams and crys and disrupts i can hear him during services. I don't know what to do with him i thought it was a faze but has been going on since 7 months old. I thought about enrolling him in daycare program away from me for a couple hours a week. What should i do??
2006-10-29 23:27:21 · 7 answers · asked by mistiful2001 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Make it a point to attend play groups with him. One that you have trusted friends in that may help you with him for an hour or two a week. He will get used to being around other people, and have a little more trust. This will also help any anxiety from not being around strange people that often. It always seems as if they will never grow out of stranger anxiety, but they do. My youngest was even like that to her own dad. She grew out of it.
2006-10-30 00:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
My daughter is 19 months old and she began to do that at about 8 monthes so I went to work and left her at daycare. I think that since there were more kids there for her to play with she grew out of it in about 3-4 weeks. Now she doesn't give me much of a problem leaving her but she is glad to see me when I return to pick her up.
2006-10-30 07:31:24 · answer #2 · answered by shelly871985 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My daughter started daycare when she was 18 months old. It took her about 8 months to adjust. She cried for the first 2 days. Thereafter she continued for about 2 months to cry when I drop her off and pick her up. For the rest of the time she just cried when I dropped her off. I stayed in constant communication with her teacher which reassured me that she really enjoyed it in the day. I think it would be a good idea to put him into daycare so that he could realize that you always come back. My daughter is in a playgroup where the teacher really works with them, learning about shapes and colours etc. If you do put him in daycare you have to stick it out, no matter how rough it is for you, they adjust in the end and enjoy it immensely in the end.
2006-10-30 07:58:10 · answer #3 · answered by south 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I have to say as a mother of 3 healthy normal grown children that i agree with cassandra. don't let anyone tell you that's not normal.
i don't care what any child psycologists say...you know inside what is right...your mothers instinct is there for a reason...although children with seperation anxiety can be difficult to deal with it will pass. just don't burden yourself with carrying the child on your hip forever. set him down when needed and let him know that mommy can't hold him right now.
he will get it eventually
2006-10-30 07:44:01 · answer #4 · answered by Enigma 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Enrolling him in daycare for a couple of hours a day a couple of days a week sounds like a great start....Good luck....
2006-10-30 07:36:14 · answer #5 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
He's sad away from you so your solution is to put him away from you?
Little kids need their mothers. Little kids are upset away from their mothers. There are people who don't bond well with their kids,and their kids leave them easily. They also have attachment disorders.
When your son is about 5 years old, you'll be able to leave him. Until then, don't leave him. It's not natural.
Look at all the other primates, chimps, gorillas, orang utans (we are primates, too.) They do not put their babies down for YEARS and that is how our babies evolved. This is what our babies need biologically - their mothers.
Shelly is a dork. 8 months old is when separation anxiety sets in, because a child finally realizes he/she is separate from mother. Then the world seems really scary. Shelly's solution is to torture the child, by making it's worst fears come true. How sick and sad. Children don't get used to being apart from mommy, they give up. They come to believe, rightly so, that mommy doesn't care how they feel.
Children under 3 have no use for playmates. Please don't be like Shelly and make decisions for your child based on utter ignorance of children. It's really shocking and sad to see that someone could be so cruel to a child - hey, you need me? that's it, you're outa here. Yup, you'll nip that in the bud. And your child's intellect and human feelings, too.
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2006-10-30 07:32:05 · answer #6 · answered by cassandra 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋
He needs other children to play with.......when he realizes the Mommy isn't the most fun thing in the world, he will eventually get less attached........if he doesn,t feel comfortable with anyone but you.....you might have problems with him when he gets older. Don't spoil him.....Good Luck!
2006-10-30 07:49:13 · answer #7 · answered by 6ft5inallman 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋