After my last relationship finish i started a new one 3 days later, some may think this is too soon, yet some agree that i was single and free to do this.
It takes your mind off the break-up and your attentions turn to your new partner.
But how long would be be view as right? Is my ex only upset because i met somebody new before she did?
2006-10-29 23:14:36 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you feel comfortable with it, then its the time to start a new relationship. When you spend only friendly thoughts on your ex and not demanding or hateful ones. When you have distance to your former relationship.
Only in these cases it is fair to go into a relationship with a new partner. He/She can be sure not only to be the filler of an emotional gap, but to be an important part of the partners life.
I know its blabla, but I consider it as true, though I wasnt always following these rules...=)
2006-10-29 23:25:30 · answer #1 · answered by dorotti 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how long your previous relationship was. Your ex is probably feeling hurt because you two had only just split up, and she might still be mourning the death of the relationship (even if it was her that broke it off) and she sees that you have already moved on, its quite a hard thing to get over. I always try and be single for a while, before I get involved with someone new, just to make sure that I'm not using someone else as a rebound toy. I've heard you should leave it half as long as your previous relationship, before you get involved with someone new, but I think it all depends on you, and how you feel, whatever makes you feel comfortable.
2006-10-30 07:52:38 · answer #2 · answered by iwatchedthestarsfallsilently 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, yes, she is upset because you found someone first. It says you weren't broken up enough over her that you couldn't move on. I say too bad for her though.
As for starting a new relationship, anytime you feel ready you should start. The only negative would be if you really aren't over your ex, and your new girlfriend feels threatened by your memories of your ex.
If that's not the case, though, carry on! What do you need to wait for? The waiting period is so you can get your head straight. Going back to the first point, maybe you really WEREN'T as into your old girlfriend as she (or you) thought you were.
You're fine. Have fun. :)
2006-10-30 07:25:20 · answer #3 · answered by Ciaoenrico 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you feel ready. I was with a guy for 4 years ( the last year we were hanging on just for the sake of it) and I met someone new only about 4 months after officially breaking up. I have now been with him 6 years and are engaged to be married in 09.
Like you say your ex is only upset coz she didn't find someone new first. Tell her to get bent and carry on with your life!
2006-10-30 07:18:23 · answer #4 · answered by Liggy Lee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your in a relationship that has come to an end all you have to do is make sure you dont move on too quickly(on the rebound) as this could hurt you and that other person. though if youve met someone else that your compatible with so soon. good on you just live for the day, have fun and sod any 1 who gets pissed off along the way.
2006-10-30 07:18:21 · answer #5 · answered by cinderella 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its human to think you are hard to replace but even you admit you wanted affection after your break-up,,and why not,,but while in doing this your mind is indeed taken off your ex you havent the desire to truly give your all to this new g/f because your still,(like it or not) wrapped up in your ex,she isnt yet a happy,or unhappy memory for you,,she is still fresh in your mind,,no doubt so fresh you still accidentally say her name,,,when the right time comes you just know,,you feel at ease with yourself and know exactly what you can offer someone new,,not just the part of you that is left from your last relationship,,your head and heart will yearn for a partner,not a pick me up.
2006-10-30 07:19:50 · answer #6 · answered by lex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a good time to move on is when you are no longer hung up about your ex. if that took 3 days ,then you are lucky. perhaps you knew it was going pearshaped beforehand.
It is natural for the ex to feel a bit bitter,as not many can cope with the idea that they are so easily replaced, or maybe she was hoping for a reconcilliation.for some , it's quite scary to feel single again.
2006-10-30 08:22:22 · answer #7 · answered by saywot? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she probably doesn't like the fact that you've moved on so soon. be a friend to her. if you created a bond with her in the first place, she should be happy to have you around. women do tend to get upset when they are not wante anymore. what is worst for id the fact that you might far with your new lady. if she gets jealous and greedy, thats a tell tell sigh, she is still in love with you. when she shows you this, let her go, if you don't want her. sorry to sound so harsh. you should always put yourself first
2006-10-30 07:20:25 · answer #8 · answered by russellhamuk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your on the rebound, but your completely in the right its your choice if you want another relationship so fast.
Why are you so bothered what others think?!
She'll only be upset if you did it first if shes that type of person, but it sounds like she still wants you thats why shes upset she probably wants to get back with you.
Talk to her ask her whats up? Get to the bottom of things, and put yourself out of misery.
2006-10-30 07:24:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As soon as you want…..we only ever live in one moment in this life, the present…….the past does not exist……don't stay stuck in the past…..always exist in the here and now instead of torn between a past / future orientated despair.
Living in past - Painful memories, clinging, 'neediness', nostalgia, missing things.
Living in future - Worry about what is going to happen, anxiety, waiting until a moment in the future when you can be happy i.e when I buy this I will be happy etc, fear of being alone.
Living in present - Joy, aliveness, acceptance of the present moment reality, no problems as problems need time to exist, things seem less heavy, no attachement or dependance on external things for your happiness, a constant state of peace even when all around you is falling apart.
2006-10-30 07:22:23 · answer #10 · answered by abluebobcat 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋