i am paranoid about my long distance gf's past cos i feel she has used me financially has hardly kissed me and hasnt slept with me and asked for a lot of money for living expenses i really am in love with her but on the flip side i feel i being just used cos i a nice guy, i found out from an ex she never told me that she was very sexual, she says she fancies me loads and the only delay is me not moving to her, which i cant do till i have made enough money which is all i live for at the mo, help
2006-10-29 22:08:10 · 21 answers · asked by johnny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok so how can i get her outta my head i been with her for 4 yrs and she the love of my life, we get on great its all perfect apart from this massive issue lol
2006-10-29 22:12:37 · update #1
hey paulheydo give me your details we can chat
2006-10-29 22:14:08 · update #2
she has also lied saying she living with her aunt who needs rent i have found out she living with her parents
2006-10-29 22:17:39 · update #3
We will all love you with no sex, if you send money!
2006-10-29 22:10:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Basically, you're her sugar daddy...It sounds to me like you're being used. Don't you think you'd find it hard to move if you keep giving her a lot of your income? If you want to date, date someone you can actually get together with instead of the long distance relationship. Even better, a woman that can hold her own with or without you.
Addition: Go out, possibly with some friends. Understand this....with the thought that she is using you on your head; if you meet another lady and meet up with her often, you'll quickly forget about your long distance relationship. The fact that this girl is living with her family shows that she may have cheap rent and should be out making her own money. Time to move along.
2006-10-30 06:11:54 · answer #2 · answered by midd1902 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really bad and sad that you met this girl. She's totally taken advantage of you in whatever way anyone could think of. You might think she was your girlfriend, but you definitely were NOT a boyfriend to her. You were just a credit card or cash card to her. I know this sounds very harsh, but it's true. Being nice is great, but no one should take advantage of your niceness. It's just wrong. You should forget all about her and move on, but be very careful with the people you deal with. Don't get taken advantatge of by anyone again. Good luck and best wishes.
2006-10-30 06:15:11 · answer #3 · answered by prudence z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've been "dating" this girl for four years and never lived together??? not even a whole weekend??
sounds like she's using you. if her ex says she's highly sexual and she's not having it with you (who she claims to fancy) after FOUR YEARS then there's just something not right about that.
let her know your moving on. you don't have to tell her its because you think she's only interested in your money (unless you want to). tell her you just can't do long distance anymore or you don't want to move. or that you have fallen out of love. whatever reason you feel is right to tell her.
don't be surprised if she decides to have sex with you. she's just playing her final card. don't fall for it.
drop her and move on. only this time keep your finances to yourself (except on dates) until you have a truly established and committed relationship.
i wish you the best of luck.
2006-10-30 06:31:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's taking you for a mug!! Save your money and look closer to home.
Looking at the additional info you've given she really is a prize one!!! Do not give her any more money!!!! If you need to chat to anyone about this let me know and I'll be happy to listen.
2006-10-30 06:10:55 · answer #5 · answered by Nedster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey, i know that when you see people say shes using you it makes you feel more insucure and maybe even mad. noone sould have to live like that thinking you need money to impress this girl, i know you love her but sometimes love is blind you sould not be sending her all this money. if she has money problems there are alot of financial aids out there or she sould get a job you have to support yourself. your not married to her so you dont have to mate
hope things work out for you
melissa
2006-10-30 06:20:42 · answer #6 · answered by mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look if u really love her and if u think she is using u then just dont panic and talk to her in a very loving manner and ask her wat ever u want and i bet everything will be clear and always remember have faith in your love coz if u dont everything would go wrong and i believe that every thing will be great.Be happy and take care .Ritu if this doesnt work then nothing will work bye take care and try to be really loving.
2006-10-30 06:46:33 · answer #7 · answered by Farzana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does seem that you are being used mate, not to mention it seems like she is playing mind games with you. At the end of the day you have got to do what you feel is right, no one can tell you what to do. xxxxxx
2006-10-30 07:25:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are more than likely being used.
2006-10-30 06:10:33 · answer #9 · answered by Rich T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you know what's been going on and threaten to break up w/ her if she doesnt tell the truth.
2006-10-30 06:21:05 · answer #10 · answered by Angie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋