My friend has told me that my close female friend believes that I’m dating another girl, who's quite a looker and that she’s happy for me! At the same time, she has been acting weird (feeling down,tired,can't approach other blokes) towards me, gone cold, not wanting to meet, not saying much, practically ignoring me!!!-didn't have argument/falling out. Is she feeling jealous? My behaviour towards her has not changed since I’ve ‘started dating’ this girl, only her’s towards me. A coincidence?
Does this show that she actually fancies/has feelings for me?
p.s. I’m not dating anyone, the looker is only a friend who I don’t fancy at all, have feelings for my close female friend.
What can I do? I don't want us to drift apart and don't want to lose her! Help...
2006-10-29 22:01:08 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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Our behaviour towards each other: attracted towards each other, flirt continuously, going out constantly(only together), in contact practically every day (2 month break over summer,live in different towns), tell each other everything, both single since we met. Gets jealous when I mention other girls, always (90%) gets in touch first, says she never pulls when out, says she don’t fancy anyone etc
Kissed once only(few months ago), remained close friends since but still do everything above.
The last time she opened up, she told me that:1)She cares about me a lot,2)thinks about me a lot,3)can only open up fully to me (no one else), also told me many personal stuff from her past 4)really enjoys spending time with me (one on one),5)she only wants to txt me at certain times,i.e after a long day/travelling home. When I told her I felt the same (as above), she said she don't see me in that way and nothing more would happen! Couldn’t give a reason why we’re not together.
2006-10-29 22:03:37 · update #1
How long should I leave it?
2006-10-29 22:37:20 · update #2
Ohhh boy has she got it bad. Personally i think she is quite jealous. She has started pulling herself out of situations where she would be with you and the possible other. If you care about her and could see things happening with her you need to approach her and tell her that you aren't seeing this other woman. Ladies can get themselves very down in the dumps from these situations especially because all they want to hear is how much their friendship with you means to you and that you don't want it to jeopardized. I have been in this exact situation before and i think that she secretly has so many feelings for you and it hurts her to not know what is going on with you.
I hope this helps. To cut a long story short, you need to approach her and let her know that you aren't dating her. You need to comfort her, and if there is a possibility that you like her then she should know that too! If there isn't a possibility that anything could happen with you then you need to tell her as well.
2006-10-29 22:18:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course she fancies you, and more! If you have feelings for her too, why don't you just tell her. Start by telling her that you think she may be reading more into the other relationship than actually exists. If you're afraid that you've misread the signs, you must simply take courage and hope that you're not mistaken. One thing's for sure, you can't just let it drift - what a terrible waste of time! Courage man, courage!
2006-10-30 06:10:29 · answer #2 · answered by uknative 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to take her for a long walk, chat along casually until you feel she is loosening up a bit, then gently ask her " I want to ask you a serious question..." and go from there. Use some humor, us females love laughing, dont get too serious on her......... You could always write her a little note, but then she might show her friends, so thats taking a risk.... good luck.
2006-10-30 06:10:57 · answer #3 · answered by genieejj 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should have a talk to her and ask why she is jealous of you mention ally other girls and maybe have a one on one conversation and tell your feelings to her and then maybe that might help you get out of a sticky situation but if that doesn't work then maybe you shouldn't more then friends or friends because if she getting jealous of you mention other girls then it could be the same if you start dating.
Good luck!
2006-10-30 06:13:22 · answer #4 · answered by mattie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend you are not dating said 'looker', if her attitude changes back to normal then you will know that she was jealous. Other than that, ask her straight what her problem is.
2006-10-30 06:04:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she said nothing more would happen then take her word for it. nothing will happen!
she can be jealous in a friend way. there are lots of friends who get jealous and they are not more than friends.
if your looking for a relationship in a sexual way i think you'd better look somewhere else. if she gets jealous of you spending time with someone else that's her problem. you have a life too.
good luck.
2006-10-30 06:10:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she DOES like you. I'd behave the same way she is. So, I guess, she does really like you. Maybe she's struggled a lot not to tell you that she loves you, because she afraid that might spoil your relationship ?
2006-10-30 06:14:44 · answer #7 · answered by qi-li-xiang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she has feelings for the ''looker'' .it might explain why she is ignoring you. that's a female thing to do when your peed off with your girlfriend .ask her does she like the ''looker'' and mention that you like her, but that's all. bet you a dollar she brightens up
2006-10-30 06:06:23 · answer #8 · answered by clrdanlob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girls can be very jealous over so many things. maybe she is being possessive with you. it's doesn't necessarily mean she has feelings for you, but you are her friend, and she doesn't like the idea that somebody got your attention away from her.
2006-10-30 06:04:41 · answer #9 · answered by Inquirer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like shes really into you but scared to start anything incase it ruins your friendship. Definately sounds jealous.
2006-10-30 06:06:23 · answer #10 · answered by pinky perky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋