There is this lady that lives in the same small town as me, I think shes fairly lonely so when I saw her I would just smile and say hello, just being nice. Next minute shes talking to my kids and asking questions about them, which then progressed to playing with them when we saw her in the supermarket and now shes found out where I live and coming around knocking on my door! I'm really sick of it and just want her to leave me and my kids alone. I realise shes lonely but why me???!!!! Any ideas how to get her to leave me and my poor kids alone in a nice way??
2006-10-29 21:50:27 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Apparently something about you and your children attracted this lady to you (maybe God), she may be a blessing not realized at present.
I would say be honest with her. Let her know that you're not comfortable with unannounced visitors. If she wants your phone number to call before she comes, turn it around, ask her for hers instead, let her know you will call her when it's convenient for you. If it's never convenient, she'll get the message....Then again, you may call!
2006-10-29 22:16:37 · answer #1 · answered by Tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being blunt is the way to go then that way there is no confusion on what you are trying to convey. Tip toeing around is not going to solve the situation. You can do it and still be socially attached, but just not at the hip like she wants it. Do it now so this doesn't sit and stew.
2006-11-01 09:36:30 · answer #2 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree,this is a tough one.You could use reverse & bug her all the time until she gets tired of you.Or,when the door knocks and it's her,act like it's a bad time and you are going somewhere.She may feel that you are the lonely one seeking friendship.*shrugs*
2006-10-30 05:58:58 · answer #3 · answered by Dylan aka Dilly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try being a friend and you may find out why she is so clingy to you but still keep a close eye on her till you find out what is reay going on . she may be new there and you was the first person that showed any care for her then you may can let her meet others so you wont be the only friend she has god bless you
2006-11-02 20:09:02 · answer #4 · answered by mommyeagle1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you make an effort to get to know her. Invite her in one time when she stops by. Ask her to tell you her story. When you hear her story you will know if you want to continue the acquaintence. If you want to continue the relationship you will. If you don't you will have more information with which to explain to her that a continued relationship really won't work because A, B, C, etc.
Good luck.
2006-10-30 07:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by Bullwinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you even sure she is nice, and not trying to get close to your kids? Coming by your house when you've not even told her where you live is a danger sign to me. It's way over the boundaries of decent behavior.
2006-10-30 06:25:22 · answer #6 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is hard, and since you live so close i dont think lying is the way to go - whatever you say she can sort of visually monitor. I really think that honesty is the best policy, can you gently break it to her that you are a private person and dont enjoy drop-in visits? This will be hard to do but i think its better than lying.
2006-10-30 05:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by claire o 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try being nice with her, talk to her, even let her in your house. It will take only few minutes. Maybe you will need her sometime to take care of your kids while you are busy. Put yourself in her shoe and do what you want other to do with you.
2006-10-30 05:57:29 · answer #8 · answered by W_egy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is your compassion? Is she doing any harm to your kids? If not, can you not make a little time in your life for her? Remember what you give out you get back.
2006-10-30 06:08:39 · answer #9 · answered by Karen D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you need to tell her that you don't allow your kids to talk to people that you don't know very well. Tell her that you think she is a nice person but she seems to needy maybe she can wait till you call her to come by for a visit. good luck
2006-10-30 05:54:19 · answer #10 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋