He thinks am wonderful in bed, but i don't think so about him. I just don't feel moved by his caresses. And during sex i turn to feel the slight pain of brushes instead of the excitement intended. What do i do?
2006-10-29 21:42:31 · 27 answers · asked by hottest 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you need to tell him what to do to "make it happen" for you
2006-10-29 21:47:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If u r new to this act, and if u r not really prepared for it, then there shall be more pain and discomfort than fun and enjoyment. U need to relax abou the whole thing, remove the inhibitions that u hav, like it shall be painful or it is not good, etc.. Try reading more about the act, and how to start enjoying, what are diff techniques and position that can be experiemented.
Indulge in the process only if u r fully prepared. If u r and if u hav positive opinion about the act and the persn (which u will as he is ur BF) then u shall start enjoying the whole process. More over dont jump into the act immediately, increase ur foreplay as much as u can, if there is some thing in the for play that u dont like try another, like if u r not ok with caress, then ask him to nibble or bite u, or lick for that matter.
The trick is if not one, try another but keep trying diff methods and techniques till u succeed. So what r u waiting for go ahea dan Good Luck!!
2006-10-30 05:58:33 · answer #2 · answered by dickwettingtown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to be checked for cysts or endometriosis or something. These things can cause lots of pain and discomfort during sex and thus lead to disinterest in sex altogether, regardless of who you're with.
If it's not that, then perhaps you #1 with the wrong person or #2 feel you're doing something that isn't right.
First, go to the doc, and then if there's nothing physically wrong, then check with #1 and #2 and narrow it down. If it's either #1 or #2, break up and/or just stop having sex.
2006-10-30 05:46:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask him to slow down. Women take longer to "get in the mood" than men.
Maybe do something romantic together. Then start with a nice massage. Also, if you're old enough, a drink or two might help ease your mind so you can focus more on pleasure.
2006-10-30 05:48:25 · answer #4 · answered by Yeah Baby! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try experimenting during sex on what works for you. Ask him to try out different positions, more foreplay. There is some cool techniques that you can find on the internet. Do research and find out on what works for you.
2006-10-30 05:45:35 · answer #5 · answered by Rock Angel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Use a lubricant. I like astroglide. Slow down and open your mouth. Not for that, I mean talk. Express yourself and what you are feeling and then your bf will really think you are good.
2006-10-30 05:54:34 · answer #6 · answered by Chronic Observer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you aren't talking to HIM!
Sex is about communication. You aren't communicating. He needs to be able to listen, also.
If it hurts, you are doing it wrong. Find out why and how.
2006-10-30 05:52:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohh i think u do not know how u can enjoy from ur bf.or he does not know how he can have a enjoyablerelation with u.he does not know u well.ok u must tell him how u enjoy from him.for example someone like to be sucked hard or some one else like to be ****** from her ***.u must show how u enjoy.good luck and have anice time in bed with ur boy friend
2006-10-30 07:46:48 · answer #8 · answered by sima 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's dead hon! get the heck out! You'll enjoy sex when you are really in love, with that person. Have a good day!
2006-10-30 05:51:20 · answer #9 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get urself examined by a Gync. If nothing abnormal is found, see if u enjoy masterbation. If not u r yet to grow to indulge in sex.
2006-10-30 05:45:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You stop letting him believe that everything is hunky-dory in the bedroom. Surely if you're old enough to have sex, you're old enough to speak up and say what you like / dislike???
2006-10-30 05:44:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋