I have fallen for a girl and we get on really well. we talk alot. I told her how i felt about her and asked how she felt about me but she said that she likes me as a friend. Other people have told me that she does like me though. I am confused and it hurt me when she said that she likes me as a friend. Should i ask if we could be more than friends or should i approach it differenty. I know that you will all say move on and plenty more fish in the sea etc. but i dont want to move on because i think that she is the right person for me.
2006-10-29 21:29:15 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ask what benefits her freinship provides
2006-10-29 21:37:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I wouldn't listen to what other people say, it could be gossip or rumour. If she does like you more than a friend she needs to show the courage you did and come out right and tell you!
Girls can be very complicated and confusing when it comes to their feelings so don't expect this to be black and white!
I would maybe ask to meet up, just the two of you and explain how you feel (that you were hurt when she said she only likes you as a friend) and explain what other people have been telling you. It may be thats she's shy!
If it turns out she was being honest and she just likes you as a friend then unfortunatley you will have to move on.
Playing it cool though and acting like your not interested could bring her to realise what she's missed out on!!
Best of luck,
P.S Keep your chin up, if she see's that your confident and happy anyway, she will naturally be attracted to that!
2006-10-29 21:40:42 · answer #2 · answered by carly s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends.... make the best lovers, partners and husband and wife... She is just at a different level than you are. Give her space, but DO tell her how you feel and tell her that if she does not feel that way to it is OK. and you would like very much to remain friends. Do not let her see the desire in your eyes at this time. Telling her is enough. (trust me) For her to see the desire you have and the slight pressure-you may throw off will definitely put the pressure ON HER. If it is going to change my friend , it will, if not ....and she goes on to date others you then have a choice. Just stand by and be the friend or go date yourself. BUT, that does not mean it wont come around to (that dear old friend that she trusts and gets NO pressure from again) Hey can you tell I been there before! :)) (Remember Ducky in pretty in pink??)
2006-10-29 21:51:35 · answer #3 · answered by alheseas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't listen to what other people say as they may just be offereing their own interpretation of the situation however well meaning that is.
I would ask her if she thinks you could ever be more than friends. If she says no, then you will save yourself a lot of time agonising over it which could effect your friendship.
If she says yes, perhaps or in time, then ask her what would need to happen for you to be more than friends.
Either way you win as you either end up keeping a really good friend or you get a girlfriend
Hope it all works out for you :-)
2006-10-29 21:36:43 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey.. did u steal my life ? Wow.. sounds like me right now... It has ended up pretty nasty on my end.. it was all fine and dandy until i started getting jealous cause she was talking to other guys. Then we started argueing and she said she is tired of telling me the samething over and over.. and this has been going on for 2 months. So really ur best bet if after a couple weeks and u havnt gotten anywhere...u have to move on.. it took me losing her as a friend and losing another friend to get over her.. plus a 12 pack of budweiser and some staind on a friday night... no joke. it really happened.. save yourself the pain if u can. but do what you must. dont listen to anyone but yourself and GOD.
2006-10-29 21:35:33 · answer #5 · answered by doc_otis_08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe she is the right one, then stick to your guns. Let me tell you a story: You put a seed in the ground - you've started this friendship. It has sprouted a little leaf. If you over water it, it will die. Just sit back and give her time. She may not realise how she feels about you until you are a little more distant. Give her some space. If she is right, she will come around.
2006-10-29 21:37:22 · answer #6 · answered by Sugar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay friends for now................ if you push her you will loose her and you don't want that..... so just hang on in there and see what happens......... however if it does become obvious that she does not want to take the relationship further, you must accept that and move on, otherwise you will get hurt. Don't let life pass you by, there is always someone else, although it doesn't seem like it at the moment.
2006-10-29 21:44:03 · answer #7 · answered by Robert B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You see something you like, you go for it man, shes probly just scared that it may wreck your friendship, wich actually happens alot, once you have sex the friendship is never the same, but not all the time. so you just tell her what you want, and tell her soon. but dont come on to her to fast, she'll feel smothered. I know this, becuase i always friend a chic before i hook up with her.
TELL HER NOW!!!
2006-10-29 21:34:42 · answer #8 · answered by Jerry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The world doesn't revolve around you. Just because she is the person for you doesn't mean that she wants you. PS I think she knows how much she likes you a little better than her friends do. PPS Just whip it out and see what she does, you've got nothing to lose.
2006-10-29 21:40:06 · answer #9 · answered by ed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although you may not like it the answer to your problem is "TIME". Females are often slower to advance relationships than males.As your friendship develops with this lady she may well begin to find you attractive as more than a friend,on the other hand she may determine that you are not for her.....only time will tell. Whichever way it goes she is the one who will provide the answer....confronting her early on may simply scare her off.....be patient and give things "TIME"
2006-10-29 21:51:56 · answer #10 · answered by Grador 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, if she told you that she just thinks of you as a friend, then believe her. If she she knows you like her, and if she likes you back, why would she say that? But please don't let yourself get hurt. Isn't it better to have her as a friend than to not have her at all? Be her friend and if you are will in to wait, maybe she'll come around. But if not, don't spend to long wasting your time waiting on a hope! PLEASE. Good luck Dear!
2006-10-29 21:37:24 · answer #11 · answered by Speedy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋