Basically I'm 15.There's this guy in school that I never really cared for till last year.We worked together a lot for our class and after a while I started to develop feelings.He didn't ask me to WinterFormal because of his exgf but we pretty much acted like we were there together.He asked me to get with him a few weeks after but I told him I wasn't ready, mostly fear of finding out he's not my "soulmate" (my parents met at 16 and loved each other everyday since)but even after that he still manages to make me smile and care for me.Sometimes I think he may care too much, but when he's sad I can't help but also be sad. He's still there for me and everything,but what am I doing?I KNOW that I'm wasting my time on this.He can't possibly be the guy that I will spend the rest of my life with(not because I can't see myself with him, but because we're too young to understand and we'll grow apart or something like that).Basically all I'm asking is, how do I stop caring or is this love? or like?
2006-10-29 21:02:07 · 17 answers · asked by Livable 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh I'm not one of those girls that like a different guy every 10 sec. I've only liked three guys (including this one). I have a good balance of extra curric and I have a 4.0. But I can't help thinking about stuff like this. just don't know where to go. I have never had a boyfriend and I've always wondered... would it really be THAT bad to let go of a possibility of the love of your life? I
2006-10-29 21:30:33 · update #1
only one way to find out....would you rather wonder what could of been?? or would you rather know for sure..
2006-10-29 21:04:25 · answer #1 · answered by digdoggy299 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax and take things as they come. You will only be able to answer these questions if you have spent time with this guy. Relationships is all about risk. Don't live your life on what if's and if only's, that will only make you a miserable person. Take the plunge and where ever the road takes, take it in your stride. If things did not work out between the two of you then leave on a good note and don't hold it against each other. Who knows after a couple of years you guys might just end up together again. You cannot stop caring for a person, nomatter how hard you try. If there is an attraction, act upon it and don't let it go.
2006-10-29 21:08:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I wish I was 15 again! Or 16...you sound like a real winner! And with great role models in your parents too! BONUS!
But I am not 15 but have worked with teens for 20 years (after being one and enjoying it myself) and I can tell you that balancing your head and your heart is a tough but NECESSARY job. You sound practical and level-headed and the fact that you can put your emotions down on "paper" is a good indication you are in touch with your feelings...and DON'T want them to rule...
To answer your three questions: To want to stop caring for someone isn't really what you want...that could become a pattern AND you could be seen as a player. On the otherside, if you care TOO much you could be seen as a player too--since you are not sure you want to be 'more than friends' with this guy. So how do you not care TOO much?
You do like this guy, that's apparent, but love the guy? Hmmm...I'd look at it like this, take care of you (I mean, keep good grades, do well in sports or extra curricular activities, do things with groups of friends, etc.) and keep the door for something more down the road...like 18 or even 22 or after college! If he is the right one, he is worth waiting for and those feeliings you have right now will come back within a more mature you!
Again, you sound like a great catch! Be wise, and stay you!--peace.
2006-10-29 21:18:03 · answer #3 · answered by KapnKaveman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You care very much about this person. Don't go looking for soulmates, just have a good time with and if its serious...you can get married later and if its not...you'll learn how to handle future relationships better because of this experience. Don't pressurize yourself to fall in love and get married with a high school sweetheart just because your parents did. More and more kids are getting married later and later in your life, what your parents did was back then...this is now. But don't have premarital sex to end up as another teenage mom or get HIV/STDs by doing it. Wait till you're committed in an adult relationship to have sex, preferably after marriage.
2006-10-29 21:05:53 · answer #4 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This just shows that you love your guy so dont stop loving him but dont be very serious with this issue of love because you are still young what you should do is just concentrate on your studies,who knows in the future it can be another story(Marriage)
2006-10-29 21:14:42 · answer #5 · answered by lukie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur tape recorder which has been filled up by someone else is the one controlling u at the moment. Think over the matter objectively with minimum subjectivity.
2006-10-29 21:05:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no time for love,my dear girl!
study hard n achieve somethin more valued in life.
forget him,u'll meet others.
god has not made this as a MUST BE frm heaven.,,,had he wished so,,,it wud happen,,but u go ur way....dont care for ANYONE...coz no one's life is more precious to u as urs...not even his.
even i'm 15..n i know how u must feel like...but u have to admit..life is like that...we have to go our own way n not be led by others
start avoidin him...get urslf busy other activities...start caring to beat ur rivals at school...u see,u'll soon get over it!!!
2006-10-29 21:11:04 · answer #7 · answered by trexen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're too young to be dating anyways. Busy yourself with school clubs and sports, and eventually those feelings will fade.
2006-10-29 21:04:16 · answer #8 · answered by bezsenný 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me,this is lust.not love.just ignore the feeling.if really do "love" each other,u peeps r still young.true love never ends.just be friends with him for now.one day,if he does meant for u,u guys will meet again.
2006-10-29 21:07:50 · answer #9 · answered by leeyawna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 13:12:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, i am 15 too! Well, i bet love is confuessing. from time to time, i feel that way and i hope you can get over it. LOL, well, does he like you too? If not, then stop wasting time with him!!! LLOOL
2006-10-29 21:17:42 · answer #11 · answered by v_o_v_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋