what would you do if you couldnt be sober for more than one day?

Question

I have a major problem i pretty much know i am an addict by that i mean i take pain killers daily and if i dont have that i get my hands on some kinda caffinated upper or liquor this has become very overwhelming for me lately i have admitted my problem to myself its just i have been married for 6 years and he has no clue what so ever that i have any kind of problem i'm really good at hiding things i need help cause i can't stop on my own i've tried this has been going on for 2 years now i'm only 23 i need help!!! How can i tell him? What should i do being on these altering things make me feel happy and able to deal with life like a normal person should

Answer 1

I can related to exactly what you're going through right now. I am also an addict and have been for 15 years, and for at least 13 or those years it was entirely my own 'dirty little secret'. No-one knew because like you I was an incredibly good liar and was able to hide it. I think there was a part of me that on some level denied my problem and therefore I was also hiding it from me. Sound familiar?
My secret was uncovered 10 months ago, by everyone, my Mum and my best friend, my boyfriend. I was incredibly embarrassed and ashamed at what I'd done to myself and worried about what they were thinking about me, but more than that it was such a HUGE relief, and I felt such a weight lifted from me. I can only say I think if you intend for your marriage to continue and want that he certainly needs to know. How exactly you go about doing that only you can answer, I wish you luck and can truly say the relief you'll feel when you tell could even solve the problem of your using altogether.

Answer 2

counseling luvie...you're not going to be able to hide your addiction forever, and it's only going to get worse as time goes on. you are not being true to yourself or the other ppl in your life by hiding your feelings and addiction. you are very young still, and have a whole life of happiness just waiting for you. but you have to be a participant in it. in order to do that, you have to be honest with your husband, family, friends, etc. you've already taken a step forward by admitting you have a problem. now tell your husband, get into rehab and counseling, and get on with a happy life. best of luck to you, you can do it.

Answer 3

My friend Nick died age 32 last year because of his dependancy on drink, nothing we could do could stop him because he had gone to far, when he died all of his internal organs were enlarged and eventually burst causing him an agonising death. I would urge you to speak to your doctor or one of the various help groups that are readily available and are usually free.

Good luck

Steve

Answer 4

Talk to your significant other, and seek professional help. You will need the support of your husband as you go through therapy.