well i love my man to death but evry time i try to start up important conversations about our relationship he will start to open up and then start up with the jokes to get off the subject and it is makeing me real upset but i know he is trying but right now thats not good enouth for me i know that he is the right one for me but does he think i am the right one for him and he was married before and i dont want him to think that i am trying to put the old ball and chain on him again but i love him help me please
2006-10-29 20:38:56 · 11 answers · asked by NICOLE B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't push him....that's normal what he is doing....if you push him you will lose him or at least start fights...let me tell you a little secret....he sounds wounded, he may not be able to open up...
He is probaly a sanguine mixed with choleric...and you sound like a melancholic....trust me, dont ask him to open up how you expect him to...if you love him, step down a bit and he will love you...i am sure of this.
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2006-10-29 20:49:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many variables for his not responding and opening up. What happened to his marriage, how long have you two been together, does he want to settle down again.......
He may not be on the same page emotionally as you are. You are right to question his sincerity. If you want to stay with him it seems you may need to take some time for him to come around. Some men are bad at opening up, I hope this is not the case but if so, you would be better to move on and find a man that is not afraid to express his emotions.
2006-10-30 04:54:04 · answer #2 · answered by Keanu 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WE ARE JUST WIRED LIKE THAT!!! Made that way, get it? Men generally dont like to talk serious relationship stuff. We find no amusement at all in this. Especially things like "Are you going to marry me", "why don't you ever tell me you love me" e.t.c.
Read his actions and don't try to get words out of him. Men are like that. I guess he's also asking "Why does she always try to sit me down for these conversations?"
2006-10-30 04:44:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... It's quite normal male behavior to not want to discuss really sensitive issues. U needn't worry. Just tell him that if he ever wanted to talk about anything that bugs him, that u're there for him. Tell him u want to be best friends with him and share all his problems. Don't push him to open up.
2006-10-30 04:42:49 · answer #4 · answered by Wiseguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to realize that telling jokes is definse mechanisim and he is scared of opening up time and patients is the pnly way to solve this problem just aske him why he feels so afraid to open up to you you might gain a whole new perspective with his answer good luck
2006-10-30 04:45:44 · answer #5 · answered by insane illusions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man will start to open up when they are fully comfortable with you and the surrounding he is in. Give him his space and let him open up slowly, don't rush just take things slow.
2006-10-30 04:42:04 · answer #6 · answered by teddytrin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm...sounds to me like he's avoiding talking about his feelings for you because there isnt any. dont take my word for it (i'm sure you wont) because i dont know the guy, but from an outsiders point of view you already know the answer just dont wanna accept it.
2006-10-30 04:43:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes it's better for men not to open up. they will in their own time, just be patient. =)
2006-10-30 04:41:51 · answer #8 · answered by Inquirer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you women alway flip out on us. With your mood swings, very difficult to trust.
2006-10-30 04:41:45 · answer #9 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
typical male --- we find it difficult to talk about our emotions --- it does improve in time
tell him how you feel and as he cares he will want to change --- i say this confidence but too many will not want to
2006-10-30 04:47:21 · answer #10 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋