I've been separated for almost a month now. xwife said there's no chance and that she loves her bf of 4weeks. Been together for 10 yrs but now I feel I'm ready try again. I made it clear to xwife that I will be there if things didn't work out, she just ignored that, but the offer still stands. Is it right for me to try the waters again??? If it is, I'am 28 and there is this girl at my boxing gym about 20-22yrs old, she's been giving me sweet looks and glances recently(only does it to me) but wouldn't start a conversation other than a simple 'hi'..is that my que for starting a conversation because she's interested or am I just putting too much meaning into it because of my state of emotions??? Also, my old friend and his gf has offered to set me up on blind dates and they're taking me to friends/relatives parties. Is this reasonable off me or am I abusing things because I'm not divorced yet? I just see no point in wallowing and watching my x wife move on with another man.
2006-10-29 20:30:32 · 11 answers · asked by Sweet Gemini 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would trust my gut on this one. It seems you are comfortable, and occasionally, eager to meet other women, so you might as well enjoy yourself.
However, since you have left things open with your wife (and I think that this works greatly in your favor as well as hers,) it would be very important to let the other women know of your situation. I would be honest with them BEFORE you go out with them.
This may turn them off, and they may run for the hills, but I do believe that it is the kind and gentlemanly thing to do.
Caring for yourself and getting some (much needed) attention from the ladies could help you as well as your likely-bruised self-esteem.
Do NOT rub this in your wife's face, but don't conceal it unnecessarily or dishonestly either. However, be prepared for a strong reaction from her if she does hear about it. My sense is that she can dish it out, but she can't take it.
2006-10-29 20:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, first of all your ex-wife already said bye-bye, she's moved on, whatever was wrong in your marriage apparently can't be fixed anymore. Secondly you say you want to try again, yet you have a back up plan if you can't oh please. That right there should tell you that you really don't want that second change with your ex. There would be no back up "cutie" if you really did. Forget your ex chase down the young thing giving you the sweet looks and learn from your first mistake. GL
2006-10-29 20:38:03 · answer #2 · answered by whitebeanner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it that when you say separated it means you are divorced, you have every right to move on. Although, you may not want to jump into another serious relationship so fast because it sounds like your still in love with your ex-wife and that will probably just cause more problems. But it's fine if you want to date other women. Just make sure your ready and if not then don't.
2006-10-29 20:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's completely normal for you to feel the need to be back with your wife because although things didn't work out for some reason or another, you are familiar and comfortable. I'd have to say since she has moved on, you need to as well. That doesn't mean you have to start dating anyone, it just means you need to stop thinking about you being together with her again. If it was meant to be, you'll come together again down the road, but for now, let it go and move on.
2006-10-29 20:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by Emjay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 28 and come across as a really nice guy. No it isn't too soon to go out and have some fun, you are young and deserve a good time after all you have been through. However, I would say that a serious relationship should be avoided as you are probably not ready for one just yet. Good Luck - go and have fun.
2006-10-29 20:34:48 · answer #5 · answered by tiz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its good to move on but you did say you would be there for your x if things dont work out, doesnt that mean your hoping to get back with her. if this is the case stop looking your gunna hurt yourself and possibly the new person you meet. have you thought maybe this is your chance to go out have fun with no strings or questions,
do what you want for a while theres no rush your still young you know a holiday away might clear your head. if not give it ago with the girl in the gym say hi back whats the worst that can happen?
2006-10-29 20:48:31 · answer #6 · answered by NICOLA G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Many girls break up with their significant others, is because they need time to figure things out. Don't take it personally, if you want her back, you have to show her you can help her. If you love her then you'll let her go, that's it. Not everybody who you date in high school you end up staying with, the chances are extremely unlikely. So if she doesn't want to, then you need to let her go.
2014-10-22 15:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't close your doors. Give yourself a chance to find that special someone again. Try to move on, you need to do something for yourself. Take care.
2006-10-29 20:40:06 · answer #8 · answered by teddytrin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with moving on. If your are interested in the girl at the gym, go for it. Just be honest with her or any one else you ask out. Tell them you are still married
and going threw a divorce. Start living and enjoying life.
2006-10-29 20:40:30 · answer #9 · answered by wHaT eVeR 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it! you dont need to wallow and let opportunities pass you by...meet people, old friends, date...even if its just a friendly date. you deserve to be happy. if things does not work out, hopefully the same also happens to your ex wife then i guess you are meant to be together if not, then you will need to bust your move. you're only 28 and very young. you will still meet a lot of people.
2006-10-29 20:43:03 · answer #10 · answered by z0e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋