There is a guy I really quite like, we have known eachother for years and get on very well. He is attracted to me and me to him, except when I saw him after many years he is quite overweight. I have an obsession with being thin and found this a little bit of a put off. But I really love spending time with him and talking to him. What should I do?
2006-10-29 20:24:53 · 13 answers · asked by Lydjos 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
True beauty comes from within rather than without. You have known him long enough to know whether you are really attracted.
My partner was overweight when we got together, and while everyone was pressuring him to lose weight (which made things worse, not better)...I just continued to tell him how much he meant to me. Over time, that support and love was enough for him to want to lose the weight...why? I asked him and he said for the first time he felt that his weight didn't mean anything to someone else so he had the opportunity to get to know what he really thought of it...and guess what he hated it and did something about it
2006-10-29 23:45:11 · answer #1 · answered by chelles_insanity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let a little weight get in the way of a good thing, if you really like him it shouldn't matter. And if it is that big of a deal, try to get him to go to the gym and work out with you
2006-10-30 04:34:16 · answer #2 · answered by Slim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him It shouldn't matter if he put on some pounds. So if you were going out with him before he put on some weight and after a while he gained weight,would you leave him?Its called unconditional love, you need to think about him and his feelings if you really like him.
2006-10-30 04:35:44 · answer #3 · answered by abelssexywifey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So your saying that because he is "fat" you can't be his friend? If that were so I wouldn't want you as a friend. His looks should have nothing to do with it, he is still the same person. You need to grow up and get over it. Or you'll be a lonely person in life.
2006-10-30 04:30:04 · answer #4 · answered by whitebeanner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide whats important, looks or what is underneath. Being shallow gets you exactly that back.
2006-10-30 04:27:20 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him you wouldnt be asking this question. check it out your in the early stages in your "relationship" and your already gonna try and change the man, find a guy you want dont try to change people.
2006-10-30 04:30:04 · answer #6 · answered by Wonderingplz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bodies change, weights fluxuate.
How would you feel if someone rejected you over a few pounds?
Like someone for who they are, not their BMI.
2006-10-30 04:29:49 · answer #7 · answered by Yuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont measure love in weight.
2006-10-30 04:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by thinkpose 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should stop being so shallow and focus on the great qualities you know he has.
2006-10-30 04:27:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends on what you really want, if you're obsess about obesity then I'm afraid he may not be the one for you.
2006-10-30 04:34:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋