what should i do because my mom is very depressed i feel that i ruined her relationship?

Question

My mom met this guy at a concert in madison (we're we live). i had a nice time living in madison i had friends, and i felt good on where we lived. but then i hear we're moving to phx az. when we got there i was really homesick. i went to school and meet some really good friends. we had a nice apt it was 2 bedroom, we had cable and internet. ya kno just like every relationship there we're fights. i could tell she was sad and i was home sick even after living there for 4 months. i didnt have any friends that lived around me. well after a year i keep begging that we move back and she agrees. i think shes sad at her b/f and im really home sick. so when we move back theres nothin. the area has gone poor. all of my freinds moved and we are living on a couch in my aunts living room.now looking back on it i miss phoenix. i missed goin out and seeing my mom smile. what should i do? my mom is very sad i feel bad for my mom and i feel i ruined her relationship. wat should i do about her sadness.

Answer 1

Trust me, If mom didn't want to move back mom wouldn't have. There are probably reasons you don't know about as to why. But let this be a lesson to you that things are never as bad as they may seem and things are never the same once you leave and return later. If your old enough get a job and help mom out with the money so you two can get your own place etc. Don't worry mom will cheer up eventually, after all things can only get better right. GL

Answer 2

You could try growing up, and quit being so selfish...that would help. Home is not only a particular place, but also a time...and once you leave it, you can never go back. Both you, and the home you remember are changing constantly...You have to look forward to be happy...create a home for yourself. It has nothing to do with where you live, it's all in how you view your self in life.

There are a lot of adults that have trouble with this as well. Lots of people live out their whole lives within 50 miles of the point they were born, seeing no need to get out there and live in the world. But you know what? People are people all over, they all pretty much want the same things, and do the same things, so you always have more in common with them than you first suspect. Stop whining about how much you miss your good old days, and make some new "good old days" after all, you are not making a very good impression on your new neighbors if all you can do is say how much you want to be somewhere else...would you want to hang with someone like that?

Answer 3

wanting to go back home wpould not have caused your moms' sadness. it's something which has/ or not/ happened between them . you say there has been fights .well whatever they were fighting about is probably why your mom is sad. she probablt thought this man was really nice and it would be forever and now it's over so that could be why she is sad. anyway it's not your fault.your mom is an adult and she would know that it may or may not last. encourage your mom to find another place to live and maybe she can go to work and have other interests beside another man in her life .you just do your best to get along with mom because if she has been dumped or even if she dumped him ,it's still a painful experience and she is sad about that . ok?

Answer 4

awww its not your fault. dont blame yourself. your mum is bound to feel gutted at the moment because of her lack of a relationship with a guy. encourage her and yourself to get back on track. theres no better feeling in the world than picking yourself up after disappointment.

Answer 5

what ever your mom is going through is not your fault. moving was her decision u can help her by telling her how much u love her and doin good in school that will be one less thing to worry about.