OK, there's a guy who I have chatted to online a couple of times, and he sounds sweet. He suggested a meeting, and I was ready to go ahead until he emailed his pic. He's just not very good looking.
OK, it might sound superficial but if an unattractive guy asks me out in person I can usually just answer with a plain "No thank you". In this case I didn't actually commit to a date but if I say no now, it's going to look bad. Truthfully, I don't think he's good looking but also I don't want to have to TELL him that.
What can I do?
2006-10-29 20:06:21 · 17 answers · asked by erin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why dont you go and meet him, that way it you can make out it was his personality you didnt like and you can still go on the date and get spoilt then not see him again. or even better still you could go on the date, act like a total idiot and turn him off you, that way no-one gets hurt ;)
2006-10-29 20:12:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK, here's the etiquette part:
Agree to one date, not romantic dinner or anything, just maybe coffee, then at the end of the date say that you don't think you two are going to work out. Hopefully that will let him down gently.
Now for the other, and way more important issue:
You do realize that meeting a perfect stranger is extremely dangerous, don't you? You know nothing about him at all. Please meet him in a public place and don't give him too much personal information (which I hope you haven't done already). And next time, don't be so quick to agree to a meeting in person.
2006-10-30 04:17:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you haven't done the stupid thing by sending a picture then you should tell him that you are wearing the opposite thing when he asks you what you are going to wear so that he would make out who you are. If you aren't sure if that's him waiting then you could go up to him and find out. If he is ugly then you say something like you are your friend and you couldn't make it but was sorry and when going back on line tell him how sorry you are and ask him to stay just email boddies. On the other hand if he is attractive and you pull the stunt that I advised before about the close thing and he has any questions about your wear not to look bad or make a bad first impression which is most important by the way, tell him that you decided to change into something that sets the mood of the evening. It works like a charm for even blind dates. Just don't tell him the truth because you would look just like you do in my eyes to his and that's what we don't want, you looking shallow. Good luck hope that he is cute but you should really go for a guys personality and if you can't find yourself attracted to him then ask him to be friends that work out even better.
2006-10-30 04:19:00 · answer #3 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, u feel that he is not gud luking, but before u *** 2 a decision tell me that maybe somewhere deep in ur heart u must be saying that he is a nice natured guy & my dear friend, noone in da whole world is perfect.. i think u must be having some ir other bad parts of ur life. maybe not physically, i think u should go & meet him once. because nowadays looks have very less importanceif u r not gud by nature no one is goin to accept. u noe in a party i saw a man he was soooo handsome i thought if talkin to him but i swear he showed so much of attitute & the way he talked was not at all gud. the whole party he was wandering around & no one was looking at him. but i think ur friend is not like that. even if u don't like, just give him a choice or u can help him up with makeover or some thing like that. ok ...chao!!
2006-10-30 04:31:59 · answer #4 · answered by shravya r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're not attracted you're just not attracted there is nothing that you can really do to change that. meanwhile it's really not safe to meet anyone that you have been chatting with online no matter how nice they sound, odds are that he didn't even send you a picture of him he could be anyone. so just tell him that you are really uncomfortable meeting someone online, you just don't feel safe and if he pushes the issue thats a major red flag and if he says he understands keep talking to him and you can at least be friends and who knows one day you may be able to look past his apperance
2006-10-30 04:13:18 · answer #5 · answered by insane illusions 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It would be hard to get romantic with a person you're not physically attracted to, but you should at least hang out with him as a friend, being that you already like him. If he starts talking about a relationship, or romantically dating, tell him that you'd rather be just friends for now. You never know, your feelings might change.
2006-10-30 04:12:13 · answer #6 · answered by bezsenný 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on the date. What's great about on-line is also not so great. One can sell themselves as who they are as a person before showing the outer package. So what if he doesn't look like a movie star? You liked him for him, his witty conversation, your similar likes/dislikes, his heart. I would suggest getting over your shallowness and meet him for at least one date with an open mind, and insist on paying dutch.
2006-10-30 04:09:01 · answer #7 · answered by scarlettboca 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing wrong in meeting a guy who's not that good looking. to me it doesn't really matter if he's good looking or not as long as he has a good heart. what is really important is how sincere he is to you as a friend. a guy may be good looking but he's not what you think he is, what i mean is good outside but bad inside. i hope you know what i mean. as long as you get along well, and as long as he's got a great attitude you'll realize that looks doesn't matter that much when you get to know him better. why don't you give him a chance!!!!!!! it takes time!
2006-10-30 04:18:49 · answer #8 · answered by mathe 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl it's online, so don't be scarred, be sckeptical. And you have that right just like in the face to face situation so don't be scarred. You are not obligated under any circumstances. You can even say yes but not turn up, but that will be up to your principles. Doesn't matter what your reasons are, if you're not comfortable, don't do it.
2006-10-30 04:10:27 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Gemini 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Which is important to you? the good looks or attitudes? Clothes or knowledge? It seems you are giving more priority to good looks. Well, if you are looking for temporary relationship, like for having fun only , good looks has advantage, but if you are looking for longer or permanent relationship like for life time partner, I suggest you give priority to person who has good characters and have good education to secure your future family .
2006-10-30 04:14:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋