It’s like part of the time I’m crazy about him, then the other half I can’t think of him anything else then a friend. He has told me many times he felt he would never be able to get past me. I feel so selfish because it’s like he is so good to me...and I just don’t know where I stand. I care about him very much...sometimes it’s just friend-ish, but other times it hits me how much I wish we were still together (we had a very short relationship about a yr ago, that I broke off). He is so giving, just the fact that he has stuck through all the stuff I’ve put him through, and the fact that he seems to care about me so much.. I feel like I don’t deserve it. Anyway I hadn’t heard from him in a while, and was getting pretty upset (he hadn’t called me back, wrote me etc.).. If you look at my other ?s you will see that. But he just wrote me a letter telling me he’s been really busy w/ work and is “so, so, so sorry”.
What should I do? Do I tell him how I feel, or do I keep it to myself?
2006-10-29 18:49:09 · 11 answers · asked by jen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm just afraid that once I tell him- the horrible side of me will come out (not that he hasn't seen it) and I'll freak out (again)... and hurt him worse then I already have... I don't want to lose him completely
2006-10-29 18:58:39 · update #1
And when I say “hurt him” of course I mean emotionally.
I guess I broke up with him because I just got scared of losing him as a friend... and I also have the tendency to have little panic attacks when it comes to relationships (yes, I know I’m weird..I guess I should be at the point where I’m past that, but I’m not).
The thing that really amazes me is that we have both been with other people since then, yet he still seems to genuinely care about me- still.
2006-10-29 19:04:03 · update #2
tell him what you are telling us and tell him you miss him.
2006-10-29 18:51:38 · answer #1 · answered by christy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can you possiblly tell this guy. Women kill me, they are always complaining about there not being enough caring, faithful, loving men out there and soon as one is in your face you act like a child, pushing him away. Look, GROW UP, persue this guy and stop being selfish. you have a good thing right there in your face and you are stuck on seeing the BS. Tell the guys how you feel and get your man. Cause let me tell you, if you keep playing him like you are, slowly but surly all the nice and wonderful things he does for you will come to a stop.
2006-10-30 02:54:41 · answer #2 · answered by smiddro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MMM looks confusing. You need to rethink it many times. Clear up your mind, look for facts. Have fun with him, keep him as a friend because you don't seem to sure about going into a relationship with him. But if those feelings that you have towards him grow, don't go and tell him, play it cool, try to figure out how he fills about you. I hate when girls are 100% focused on me, I like them to give me some space. I don't know him, so I don't know what he likes, but any way. I wish you the best luck and happiness.
2006-10-30 02:59:41 · answer #3 · answered by Daniel B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you gotta make up your mind. Do you want him or not??? He is drowning himself in work because you are kinda playing the friend game with him. Gurl he sounds like a good man. Just don't toy with his heart since you already know how he feels about you. What are you waiting for? Gurl go get yo man before another woman do. Then you'll REALLY feel bad. Good Luck Girl!
2006-10-30 02:56:55 · answer #4 · answered by Kimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling him about your changing feelings might clear up some confusion for him? However, maybe you are feeling that way because he hasn't been there for you and you missed him? I don't know whether you should volunteer the information or not. You might want to see if he asks how you feel or if he gets confused about your behavior before you tell him.
Also, it looks like you need to think about commitment. Feelings come and go, but whether we honor a commitment is up to us.
2006-10-30 03:02:58 · answer #5 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him Directly , clearly.. Dont even waste a single minute.
Be positive and confident. Once u r late, you will never get that back. U r not going to loose anything by telling it.
So my Freind , just TELL HIM RIGHT NOW..
2006-10-30 02:56:19 · answer #6 · answered by Ravi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow your story just explained my past realationship and how i feel the exact same..i guess if he really likes you he would be there for you....but what if you tell him how you feel....what if he dosent feel the same way with you.. it also depends on the reason why you both broke up.....im sorry i dont think i gave you a right answer...im lost in the same question
2006-10-30 02:57:06 · answer #7 · answered by Mololina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like a pretty cool guy. I would tel him your feelings though. There is no point to lead him on if their really isn't any spark between you from your perspective.âºâº
2006-10-30 02:52:39 · answer #8 · answered by ○○I am kayla○○ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it 's high time for you to reflect and decipher what you feel for him. do you miss him because you love him and you truly miss him or you just miss the attention he has been giving you? don't come around telling him that you miss him unless you are sure of what you feel coz it is pretty unfair on his part if you give him high hopes.
2006-10-30 02:59:09 · answer #9 · answered by frandonn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should let him know exactly how you feel, he seems like a great guy so think twice about letting him go..because theres not that many guys like that around anymore...
2006-10-30 02:54:24 · answer #10 · answered by prettylilady05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋