My girl friend has a friend that is in a very abusive relationship.This guy gets beaten up by his girl friend physicly as well as emotionaly. I dont even why hes with her. Shes ugly inside and out and a total *****. For example, once before leaving the country she broke up with him, then she called him just to say...
" I dont love you, I never want to see you ,and while im over here, im single"
My girl friend told me that he cried alot after hearing that and came close to comiting suicide. After all that crap, he waiter for her at the airport with open arms. I could not believe it! If it was up to me I would let the moron kill him self, but my girl friend wants me to help the idiot out.
I was thinking about opening his eyes to his pathetic life but that could break what little spirit he has and push him to kill him self.
What can I do to help this retard out?
2006-10-29 18:41:21 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Whoa!! This guy IS a nut job!! I don't believe it either. Personally, even though your girlfriend wants you to help, I would stay far far away from the whole situation. He needs professional help.
The most I would do is get a couple of therapists names and offer to him.
2006-10-29 18:46:21 · answer #1 · answered by busybody12 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably not a lot you can do. . If I hear the excuse, "but I love him/her" about one more time... I swear some people like to be abused. Really.I think they think that is what love is.
Try to talk to him, if the girlfriend thinks you should. Why don't you both go try to talk to him? Together. He might listen to more than one person, and be less likely to be hostile to you if the girlfriend is there.
Try this: look Jim, you are a nice guy, and we hate for you to be used and abused. Is there something you can do to get a better, non-abusive relationship? Lot's of nice women out there. Why do you keep going back to her?
And find out if it is his own lack of esteem, or if he really does want to be abused that caused him to take her back.
Maybe teach him how to break up with a nut-case. Have him tell her to get lost in a public place, with his friends around, have him move before he tells her, tell as few people as possible where he moved. And warn them about the reason for the move.
2006-10-30 02:58:27 · answer #2 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think he's a damn sissy, but no-one really cares about what I think.
That being said - He is a human being and he has the right to be sensitive or emotional or timid or whatever. If he is being physically abused and you want to be a friend, you should give him the same advice you would to a woman who is being physically abused. No one should have to tolerate abuse and it is against the law...period.
If you don't like this guy's behavior - that's your right, but if you feel you can give some helpful advice, than make the effort to help him out. Maybe he was always treated this way and he just doesn't know any better.
In the end he will do what he wants to do.
2006-10-30 08:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by jarhed 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's not the first time i heard of such a case.
The guy is probably have a serious problem with his self confidence. He becomes to dependent on the abusive girl friend.
The best way to help him is to convince him there's a bigger better world out there. If it means taking him for some sleazy fun (u know what i mean), then u've got to do it. He needs to experience other things outside of his little world.
Or maybe find him a better prospective partner. But then again not easy to find a girl who'd like such a guy. But who knows, i'm sure he's got many good sides. He's definitely loyal.
2006-10-30 02:56:28 · answer #4 · answered by aLTered_eGo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a psychological condition, they are a match. He gets the passive-aggressive love/hate from this broad and she gets to step on a worm and squash him and then do it over and over again. No help here. Let him go, do not get caught up in his problems. Her goal may be to see if he commits suicide in the greatest commitment of "love" a broad can get. His goal is to suffer greater and greater hurt and humiliation to demonstrate his undying "love" from a psycho who shows him attention like he has never gotten before and that, to him, is "love."
2006-10-30 06:14:45 · answer #5 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look dude, men can be just as emotionally fragile as women. If the situation were reversed, you'd probably want to kill the guy that was beating the female, am I right? This has nothing to do with sex, and all to do with emotional self worth. He doesn't feel he's good enough to be a girl that really loves him.
2006-10-30 02:45:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Numbnuts
2006-10-30 02:50:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like a personal problem to me
2006-10-31 07:15:46 · answer #8 · answered by ronnysox60 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't ...he has to help himself...just make sure that you are not enabling him to stay in this relationship.
2006-10-30 02:45:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋