Just few months ago, i met this girl and we have so much conversation . I thought we can hit it off until i dated her the first time and she said not free and busy.Suddenly, she shunning from me , I tried to recall what i said makes her so annoying. The worst comment i told her "why are you studying so hard ? no matter how hard you commit yourself ,you likely score a C for this module . You should balance your life as well as you work . "
I don't think it is a harsh statement .What's wrong with her
2006-10-29 18:32:56 · 17 answers · asked by the_road_i_am_on 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she sounds really up tight but she has the major hots for you!!!!! i can imagine her to be a real brainy person who always studies hard and takes school/uni really seriously. she works from a schedule and you my dearest, have put her brain into haywire mode as you have interrupted her planned out life. i guess she wasnt expecting to like anyone but now she has, she cant deal with it. hang in there with her, she will come round when she realises that she need some love in her life!
2006-10-29 18:40:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the first date she was up and honest with you stating she was not free and busy! I think you hurt her feelings when you stated that she could just score a c for this module. I really think she got angered inside and she maybe thinking that you thought she was stupid. This girl seems like she wants to get a good education and do something in life that is worthy in her future and she does not want anyone to slow her down.
2006-10-30 23:03:51 · answer #2 · answered by Carol H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes that is harsh without a doubt. I personally think that you're being too straight forward with your thoughts and appeared unsupportive of her. You shoudn't say things like that to the people you love and care about. Watch the things you're gonna say next time cause things that may not be offensive for you might be for offensive and harsh for others. Be careful with the words you use.
2006-10-30 02:52:28 · answer #3 · answered by sheer♥black 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally I would say she was avoiding you because she liked you, but are you insane? Do you know what you did? You showed her a side of arrogance that she didn't know. So what you you did was you went up to her and told her she was completely stupid, no matter how hard she tried. DO U NO HOW MEAN THAT IS!!?? Be glad she didn't slap you and scream at you. Dont go near her. she doesnt like you and never will.
2006-10-30 02:53:16 · answer #4 · answered by silva_coin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few possibilities. She could be unhappy because you said she will score a 'C'. It could be quite a low morale statement. Another reason could be that when you try to date her, she is probably not ready for a relationship and doesn't know how to give you an answer.
2006-10-30 02:42:43 · answer #5 · answered by axix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, think about it. Would you want someone to basically say "It doesn't matter how hard you try, you'll only be average" in regards to ANYTHING? Honestly, if she isn't interested, then give her time. Don't infer that she isn't better than average - even if it wasn't your intent - and let her do what she wants to do. Keep making comments like that and you'll only drive her further and further away, if she hasn't lost interest already.
2006-10-30 02:36:09 · answer #6 · answered by Stephen P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's pretty harsh dude ...
It's like you saying "you're kinda dumb, because you study hard but still get a C" ...
Maybe that's why!
I'd do the same thing.
2006-10-30 02:35:26 · answer #7 · answered by Nicegal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i don't have enough details to answer you perfectly, but it sounds like she's lost interest. i know that's hard to hear, but let's face it. if a girl really likes you, she will never make excuses to not be with you EVER. your best bet is to stop all contact with her and wait to see if she'll come to you. and if she does, play her own game and act like you are having trouble fitting her into your life.
remember, women love a man who is a challenge.
2006-10-30 02:38:30 · answer #8 · answered by locksmithite 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be sensing you are focusing too much on her. Women want men who are indepedent and hard to get. Trust me, focus on some other girls and she'll more likely come around.
2006-10-30 02:35:03 · answer #9 · answered by Ilooklikemyavatar..exactly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you shdnt have said that man, i think you shd apologize for your comments and then let her be, like the first guy said, be scarce and focus on your own projects if she's interested she'll come looking for you and if she isnt, well hey life goes on.....
2006-10-30 02:44:54 · answer #10 · answered by lovemonkey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋