Is there any mom out there who has faced this emotion and can help me out?? My son will be starting to go to school. I am depressed that he is growing up so fast, I am anxious and tensed that he will be away from home for so long. And I am worried that he might be hurt, unhappy , hungry, etc...and no one will notice or take good care of him. Is this unnatural??
2006-10-29 18:03:40 · 10 answers · asked by Megane 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I am not a mom, however, my 5 year old just started school and my wife is having the same issues. It is NOT unnatural to worry about your children. There are alot of mothers that have the same concerns as yourself. When I looked for help with calming my wife I found that it is completely normal for first time school separations from your "baby" to worry you. Teachers at the schools are usually fammiliar with this and are reassuring of your childs safety at school. It will be benificial for you to become fammiliar with your childs teachers, principal, and school. Dont worry, he will be fine. Take the time you will have alone to relax, plan dinner, clean, or take a walk.
2006-10-29 18:18:04 · answer #1 · answered by me_laub 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it's not unnatural at all. What you are feeling is completely normal. Most moms go through this. I have gone through this with my two oldest sons and I'm sure I will with my youngest when he starts school as well. He will be fine. Just try not to worry. Try to find something to occupy your time while he is gone to school to take your mind off of it. Maybe starting a new hobby or going back into an old hobby that you may not have had time for. There are lots of things you could do. I know it's hard, but they all grow up eventually and we as parents have the hard task of letting it happen. We have to let it happen because we love our children. He will be well taken care of I'm sure. There will be so many rewards you will reap when he does start school. The joy he has on his face and the excitement he has when he comes home and is so proud of the work he has done and just can't wait to show you. You will be beaming with pride and your worry will fade.
2006-10-30 02:09:45 · answer #2 · answered by ddbach1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to feel the same way about my son when he first started school, I was nervous and had the exact same emotions you have. It is natural to feel this way because as mothers, we think no one can take care of our children like we take care of them. I use to question my little one about his day at school for about a few weeks, and he seem to be alright. I would talk to his teacher to see how he acted while at school, and when found that my fears were unfounded, I relaxed a little bit at a time. Trust me, when he starts Junior High, you will worry if he is going to find his classes alright, and that is where I am at now, next year High school,(new worries) He has been getting along just fine. Growing up fast is a part of life, as much as we mothers hate it.
2006-10-30 02:25:05 · answer #3 · answered by OLA M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its not unnatural every mother feels the same way sparsely whit the 1 kid. Your son will be fine talk to his school they will get you more relaxed.You will notes if your son is unhappy. Kids do grow up to fast but its also going to be nice to see how they turn out as an adult. my kids are 5 and1,5. i had the same feelings as you, My kids love playschool.
2006-10-30 03:34:50 · answer #4 · answered by bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is perfectly normal. As much attention as you see given to the trauma of the first day of school on a child, the mother is the one who is usually a wreck. Though you son will probably feel perfectly comfortable in his new surroundings within 10 minutes, you will fret for a week. He will be okay, and you will be too soon enough.
2006-10-30 02:59:27 · answer #5 · answered by FabMom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not unnatural. Every parent goes through it. You son will be fine and going to school will be a good thing for both of you. He will learn to do things on his own and he'll make friends. You will get to have some alone time and you might say that you don't want that but you will. Good luck and please try to relax. He will be fine.
2006-10-30 02:09:00 · answer #6 · answered by queenbee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem when my son was three I was already worrying about him going to school. So I decided to homeschool. It was wonderful. I homeschooled him all the way to college. Then on hid first day of college I still had to face all the anxieties I avoided when he didn't go to kindergarten. I got over them pretty quickly. Homeschooling was a wonderful way for our family to become closer. Anyway yes its normal to be anxious. Good Luck.
2006-10-30 02:15:29 · answer #7 · answered by justcurious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not unnatural to worry but it IS unnatural to be obsessive about it. You need to get a part time job or a hobby during the time he is in school...or at least seek help for your obsession. It's just not a good thing.
2006-10-30 02:08:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I think any good mom has these feelings, you are starting to let your baby go & that is hard. I know when my daughter started preschool I cried & sat in my car in the parking lot for the first week just incase she needed me. Now it is much easier, but don't even mention knidergarden & I get sad.
2006-10-30 03:43:39 · answer #9 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it sounds a little anxious.
Try to think of your boy going to school and be excited for him, it is his opportunity to shine, grow, make friends, learn,
these are the building blocks of his life! Be proud of him :)
As for your anxiety, see a counselor about it. They can help you sort out these types of feelings that burden you.
2006-10-30 02:12:01 · answer #10 · answered by **twin** 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋