Well I met this guy in college and we started to become .."pretty" good friends.. then we started messsing around a little but not having sex. and a few nights ago we kind of had sex and ...
we were making out and stuff...
and its seems liek he really likes me and cares for me.. but im not sure what to do now.. because I also found out that he had a gf untill 3 weeks ago..
and every weekend he woudl go home because him mother is really really sick and.. I asked him if he ****** around with anyone while e was at home.. and he said yeah .. but he said it was only one person ... and
Right now I feel really nasty because I was liek the other women and because he was like my first fro almost .. yes almost everything.. and I wanted these things to be with someone special , which I had thought was him...
and now idk what to do .. I want to ask him, what is going on with us now.. because back about a month ago I asked him that and about being in a relationship .
2006-10-29 17:55:47 · 10 answers · asked by iceskatingteri06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
me and my bf ask him watz gogin on and y he is not really giving me an explination and he said he didt have to give me or her one.
My friends and I thought It was because of him mother being sick and stuff.. but now idk ..
I really like this guy alot.. and I feel really great when Im with him... but I really must say I dont really trust him that much.
now all I can think about is what do I do next.. do I ask him wahts gogin on with us?.. or leave it alone and let it play out ?
2006-10-29 17:58:19 · update #1
now he has no gf.. so he is singel
2006-10-29 17:59:51 · update #2
Honey been there done that! He left college thinking it was gonna be a pussy fest...lol! Sorry Just make darn sure You arent mistaking the sexual part of it for more. Does he call you to hang out other places than the dorm room? Things like that...
Since it was first for alot of things your saying you will never forget that! But you need to sit down and ask your self are you ready for a casual relationship if thats all he wants? And YES you need to ask! And if you can come to terms with things and maker desicions on how your" relationship" will turn out...who knows you could fall in love with his best friend and that will be true in stead of just overly sexual?
I dumped my HS sweetheart cuz i thought some guy was my new "special someone" blinded by the whirlwind relationship. Until I asked the same thing about" where is this relationship going?" to him and he said it's just sex ...I got lucky and my man took me back a few months down the road and we have been married for 2 years now and I couldnt be better !!
SEX VS. LOVE?
2006-10-29 18:06:37 · answer #1 · answered by Christy Davies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reality check: Just because you sleep with a guy, doesn't mean that he is totally into you. You, on the other hand, should as a woman be completely sure about what you are doing sexually. That means not get offended by his sleeping with another woman. You aren't supposed to feel nasty. You have to be content before, during and after sex. He had a life before you. You should have one too. Be safe(protection), smart, and always let the guy chase you. Woman to Woman: TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS and go with what makes sense. Not your heart. A man needs to earn your love. How? By the way you show your own self-respect as a Woman...
2006-10-29 18:12:36 · answer #2 · answered by Devee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you should back off a little bit, and see if you two can connect on a different level and let thinggs slowly progress from there again. If not, chalk it up to a lesson learned, and move on. It's not the end of the world. Good Luck!
2006-10-29 17:57:05 · answer #3 · answered by One Race The Human Race 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont put the pressure on him, if u asked the question before & he didnt really expand on the answer. Just let things be. What you guys did was concentual, when its time to move forward, or on you will know.
2006-10-29 18:43:36 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a major JERK and a slut. You can do better the best thing you can do is go get a check for STD's and move on. Send him the bill... Oh, and by the way he doesn't care about you AT ALL, he cares about getting laid. your better than that.
2006-10-29 18:01:57 · answer #5 · answered by Jim V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well talking about it is always the best, then you know where you stand, as long as he is honest about his feelings...you will have to start the conversation, and he may just in it for the fun, or sex. same thing,,,,so it may end, and be hurtful for you, but better now than later...
2006-10-29 18:00:32 · answer #6 · answered by wizzard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be patient but be cautious too....men do take time, but then u dont know whether he is yours for good or not...and as of today he is surely not that much into u...so be mentally prepared to move on too...all the best and take care
2006-10-29 18:02:41 · answer #7 · answered by Amit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
win him in the bedroom. all you have to do is out sex his girlfriend, get wild and make his wildest fantasies come true. he will soon ditch her.
2006-10-29 17:59:05 · answer #8 · answered by a_bike_guy 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
why do you need HIM to define "what's going on?"
you need to decide what it is YOU expect and see how he feels about that.
2006-10-29 17:59:27 · answer #9 · answered by R J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please make up ur mind. U seem to be desperate.
2006-10-29 18:03:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋