I've been chillin with this guy for like 3 yrs and the other day I text him how I feel about him he never broght it up or anything. We chilled with him and spent the night like 4 times after that everthing is all good and but still no answer. So this Fri. he told me to come over and his daughter was there for the weekend and I spent the night there and she knew it cause she saw me in the morning. anyways We still haven't talk about what I said to him. What does this mean, I'm sure he just doesn't bring anyone around his daughter she's 12 she's no's whats up. So like I said what does this mean??? someone help
2006-10-29 17:51:09 · 2 answers · asked by cutie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just for the record I was with someone else for the last 4 yrs and then I met him he knew al about him and still want to be with me. he would always tell me to leave my man and be with him but I never did till now. I didn't leave my guy 4 him, there where other reasons. There is something about my guy friend I've been chillin with that makes me feel so safe and I told him that.
2006-10-29 18:30:48 · update #1
What was his last relationship like? He sounds like someone that has been really wounded emotionally. You have managed to get real close to him. My guess is that you have spent a long time tearing down the walls he has built to protect himself emotionally. You have done well, but he still hasn't torn down all the walls. It could be that he is afraid that you will leave him after you get to know him as he really is. You think that is stupid, but it happened with the mother of his child. His biggest fears were if you would ever get that close, and now his biggest fear is you leaving. He may even try to drive you away just to make it happen sooner so he will not feel as miserable and hurt compared to it happening a few years from now.
Don't let you own doubt cloud your mind. You have gone this far and you have done wonders for him. Just help him tear down a few more walls and you will have the connection you desire.
2006-10-29 18:09:32 · answer #1 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be that he hasn't brought it up because he doesn't know what to say to you about it or hes feel in the same way and just is go in to let it take its course with out talking about it but if youns are good friends I'm sure its on his mind that he doesn't wanna ruin a good friend ship with you.when you get time alone with him i would sit down with him and find out how he is feel in about it and if he would like to pursue it or not.
2006-10-30 02:08:54 · answer #2 · answered by nu4you2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋