okay this is the thing my ex boyfriend kurt is the only thing in this world that i love besides my family. Kurt and i dated for 3 years and broke uo eith him out of the blue because when we broke up for a month he got another girl pregnent and it was close top the baby being born and i just thought it would be wierd and differnent with him being a father and i didnt get along with her at all. Now it has been 5 months and we are now closer than ever but it is hard for me to be around him with out wanting to be in a relationship with him. we have spent so many nights together just cuddling and laughing. It is hard for us because i am not sure if he wants what i want even though we flirt alot.. i have already told him that i still love him but i really dont know what i should do???
2006-10-29 17:46:45 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i do love his baby as much as him and it was a one night stand to get back at me for dumping him
2006-10-29 17:58:45 · update #1
he is not dating her he is just being responsible
2006-10-29 18:16:04 · update #2
If the nights you spend together are without sneaking behind the babys mama,then i say sweet !!!however if you are playing the mistress in this ,I say STOP IT,your setting yourself up for complete HEARTACHE.
2006-10-29 17:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about this; while you were separated from him; he went out and got someone else pregnent.. does that sound like he was hurt by your brake up? The reason he is much closer to you now is because he is now a father and knows that a lot of girls will want nothing to do with him due to the responsibilities he has and the intelligence he showed when he got someone else pregnent. So what happens when you two get into a fight? does he go out and get another girl pregnent? I guess that's a good excuse right? NOT! move on, be smart, be responsible. you owe it to yourself..
2006-10-29 17:59:45 · answer #2 · answered by denfasr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a kid with someone else but that doesn't mean you guys have to stop seing each other. If you love each other then work on your relationship, obviously he still cares about you a lot or else he wouldn't be around. Yes, he needs to be a dad but he also can be a boyfriend. Talk to him and find out what he wants, you have known him for 3 years so don't beat around the bush, just flat out ask him if he wants a relationship with you or with the babies mom.
2006-10-29 17:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by gypsilee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a real man. Your ex sounds like a creep-Why was he so QUICK to knock up another woman whilst he just broke up with you, or was possibly in the process of breaking up with you. Can't you see the forest through the trees girlfriend. My heart goes out to you and your predicament, but think about the baby. THAT should be numero uno now, and it is HIS responsibility. With you cuddling and flirting with him, it is encouraging him to cheat on his partner that just had his child, and OF COURSE HE'S GONNA GRAB IT WHILE YOU'RE OFFERING. Dump the situation completely and start from scratch is my advice.
2006-10-29 17:59:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to move on for your own sanity love..... this man sounds like a poor excuse, i could be wrong but you sound like you know whats what.
Go find someone who wont make another girl pregnant only you if thats what you want. Don't let this guy ruin your life ... how long before he makes the next girl pregnant...
Please put your own needs first and find happiness
Good luck
2006-10-29 19:20:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its easy to say 'move on or forget about him'..but think about how irresponsible he was to get another girl pregnant after breaking up with you for only a month? If you can accept 'that' and the baby and he loves you the same way you love him then move forward from there.
2006-10-29 17:58:01 · answer #6 · answered by Meia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you forget he has a child now? What is the relationship with the mother? How is you being around affecting the relationship between them? You need to realize life is not just about you but also about the people around you. What is he doing for the child? Is he planning to be around? You don't give enough information...all i see is "me, me, me".
2006-10-29 17:50:10 · answer #7 · answered by saucylatina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Life is too short to be wondering if this guy has the same goals relationship wise as yourself. There are plenty of real men out there.
2006-10-29 17:51:01 · answer #8 · answered by pulgita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people think there in love whe theyve been together for that long and if your dude gets a girl pregnant on the first break that u2 have, then hes an ***, but thats your choice.
2006-10-29 17:51:29 · answer #9 · answered by 约瑟夫 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cautioning against a possible lot of pain here...given the situation you are in....suggest that you be responsible about yr own heart and walk away now before you get into a worse mess...all the best and God bless you
2006-10-29 17:58:16 · answer #10 · answered by Amit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋